My name is Bethany Avery, and I suffer from complex posttraumatic stress disorder (C-PTSD). I started showing symptoms of C-PTSD when I was 16 years old, and I first sought treatment for my disorder when I was in college. Finding solid footing in the shaky world that C-PTSD creates has been a tough but important battle, and I’m excited to share my story and coping methods as part of the "Trauma! A PTSD Blog" at HealthyPlace.
A diagnosis of mental illness can be shocking for both the patient and their loved ones. Prior to my husband’s diagnosis, I held a skewed view of mental illness believed the stigma surrounding it. After his diagnosis of schizophrenia, I repeatedly asked myself why it couldn’t be something more seemingly straightforward, such as anxiety or depression. I learned to accept his illness over time, but it is difficult when others are not able to do the same.
A quick story about toxic people and self-esteem: Imagine you decide to plant a tiny sprout in your garden. When it flourishes, it will bring you deep joy. But first, it needs your focus and care to grow. Those who come into your garden and see your sprout give you support and space, encouraging your progress. But occasionally, a different kind of person comes into your garden. Knowingly or unknowingly, they march across the soil, step on your plants, and in the worst-case scenario, grind your tiny sprout into nothing.
In September and then again in January, I increased my antipsychotic for schizoaffective disorder even though I knew it would probably cause weight gain. And, it did. But I am much better off now mentally than I was before I made the changes, so I don’t want to decrease the schizoaffective medication just to lose weight.
Can you really reduce social anxiety with mindfulness meditation? Social anxiety can be life-limiting, its negative effects filling people with seemingly constant fear and dread. You can indeed reduce social anxiety with mindfulness; however, it's a persistent and gradual process of meeting the root of this type of anxiety and creating a sense of calm rather than agitation. Let's look at how this happens and gain a mindfulness meditation to help reduce social anxiety. 
Having depression can sometimes lead to developing negative habits as we try to cope. Often things that aren't necessarily wise or healthy feel good at the moment. Sometimes it's easier to do what is comfortable rather than that which requires work and sacrifice. Depression drains us of our energy, thus making it difficult to take even that first step towards building healthier habits. What are some of these negative habits? How can we start moving away from these non-desirable habits towards more positive coping skills?
One of the most difficult things I’ve had to figure out recently is how to set healthy boundaries again after my abusive relationship ended. 
Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) can often lead to boredom. It can also result in discovering exciting methods to counter that discontent. In certain ways, I get bored less often than friends who do not have the condition, and what someone considers uninteresting is entirely subjective. Still, it appears I am not alone when it comes to ADHDers who absolutely despise being bored.
Using mindfulness for self-harm is a dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) skill. DBT is an effective type of treatment used for issues with self-harm. Originally developed to treat borderline personality disorder (BPD), it is currently used to treat a variety of mental illnesses such as eating disorders and chronic depression. DBT targets emotion dysregulation to help patients cope with the severity of their distress.
The mainstream culture needs more advocates for eating disorder awareness—and as someone in pursuit of healing for your own life, this advocate could be you. It has been estimated that every 62 minutes, at least one person dies from an eating disorder which means this disease has the highest mortality rate out of any mental illness1, but it also remains one of the most painfully misunderstood. If there is a passion inside of you to raise the public consciousness for eating disorder recovery and to draw attention to the millions of people whose lives are affected by this illness, then here are some guideposts to help you become an advocate for eating disorder awareness. 

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Rosie Cappuccino
HI Zoe, thank you so much for your comment. I agree with you that even with a partner who makes you feel very happy, there can still be times when loneliness kicks in. You're right, everyone has a different path in life. I think the book 'Radical Acceptance' is one I need to check out. I'm wishing you all the best. - Rosie Cappuccino, 'More Than Borderline' blog author.
I feel your pain. What has helped me in the past are several books: "Radical Acceptance" by Tara Brach and "Beyond the Secret: Spiritual Power and the law of attraction" by Lisa Love. You are not alone! We all feel the same from time to time. The key is to love yourself and know that we all have different paths in the life. You can be with a perfect partner and feel lonely..
I wish you all the best in your journey. You are not alone!
Thank you for speaking the truth!!!
Todd morrow
Well I'm bipolar and I totally hate it . At times I'm okay but at times I'm not . I have severe trust issues with people and meds only help so much . I was. Nurse for 24 years got into trouble dui after last breakup and became homeless and started using illegal drugs which don't work for bipolar people and been clean and working last year and hopefully get my life back on track As for relationships I had to give that up have beautiful daughter very supportive but unable to let myself get involved with anyone because after divorce and lived with someone 3 yrs I wanted to kill my self so I can't let anyone ever have that much control over me again It's been really hard Todd
I have been living with my husband for almost 3 years now, we have a Almost 2 year old daughter together and honestly I feel trapped. At first it was all lovey dovey. He would always go visit me at my parents house, suprising me with roses, teddy bears, necklaces, food, and even puppies. He was so so loving and caring. However, after dating for 2 years, he started to somewhat be abusive towards me.(we were still Bf and gf) if he didn’t like something I’d say, he would sqeeze my hands really tight or he would twist my arm until I couldn’t take the pain. I cried several times but got over it. Acted like it was cool and kept going with our relationship. Maybe cause I was soooo In Love with him because I thought he was the most handsome and cutest man (physically) At age 18, I moved in with him and it was all good the first couple of months. However, he Didn’t want me going to my moms house or my Bestfriend’s house. My Bestfriend came over one day and I told him she was here. (He was working) ThIS MAN LEAVES HIS WORK AND COMES HOME TO KICK MY BESTFRIEND OUT THE HOUSE. I felt so embarrassed because she has been my Bestfriend since middle school.
I really have so much to say about this man. When I was pregnant, he hit me on my nose causing me to bleed. He has left me a swollen eye, lots and lots of bruises, kicked me with his shielded work shoes, almost broke my nose, slapped me several times. He has even hit me when I had my daughter in my hands. ( she was about 6 months) It’s constant arguing and yelling at home. Every time he yells or raises his voice at me I try to defend myself and he says “shut up or I’ll beat you up.” I am so tired of it. Its even weird when we are actually talking in peace. One day I was going to go to my moms house and he was gunna leave to go back Go work(about 1pm) I came inside and told him that I wasn’t gunna fit with the truck and so I told him to move a bit(his work truck) he got so angry he was yelling at me. He told me why I’m so anxious to leave(keep in mind my mother works at 3pm) which is what I told him. I got in the truck and he came and opened the passenger door and told me to stay at my moms house and never come back and if I did come back he was gonna kick me out. He then slammed the door shut and I started crying. I felt like shit honestly. I knew if I left he was gunna leave me and I didn’t want that. I stayed in the truck for about 15 minutes just thinking. And asking God Why I’m living this life. I don’t have the courage to leave him because I have no where to go. I know my parents will always be there for me but I don’t want to go back to their house. Unfortunately My Brothers girlfriend passed away in my moms house right next to my old room and honestly I feel scared to go back. I have never worked in my life and my daughter is sooo attached to me that I doubt she’d stay with someone to watch or babysit her while I work. I feel stuck. We depend on him money wise.

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