It does get worse. I've been with my bf for 8 years. As I type this I endured yet another verbal attack, and why? Because I told him I felt like he was disinterested in me lately. Everything I talk about gets either a "meh" a "hmmm" or a "yah". No attempt at conversation. I told him it hurts me and that I felt he was angry with me a lot and I didn't deserve it. Well, I got the name calling, the swearing etc...I kept quiet and told him I was walking away, he said "I'll give you a reason to walk away EFF YOU!"...so I crept away. Then he came into my room and continued...I just turned to look out the window thinking to myself "Yeah, he must be so screwed up to treat his loved one this way!" and it made me detach a little bit. This has been going on since year 2 and though I had the disease of hope in thinking he would somehow find value in me and be more loving and respectful...that was wishful thinking. It's just a matter of time now before I ask him to move out of my home. I've reached my limit. They don't change unless they get professional help and do it on their own. It's sad and it took me 6 of the last 8 years to finally accept it. I don't want the relationship to end, I want the man I met; but...I also have love and respect for myself (finally!) and I won't put up with that anymore. I wish the best to all those who are still in the drama...trust me one day you will finally have enough.

My son is slated to be transferred to Richmond State Hospital after an extensive amount of two decades of mental illness and substance abuse. He is great when he is good, clean and medicated properly. Illness gets the better of him way too often, then, of course, he makes rotten choices that are detrimental to his health and well being not to mention others that may come in contact with him. A viscous cycle of a very bad situation, very sad and true. After reading some of these articles and others as well, I will comment once he is there and has been there for awhile and let you know what I find as an opinion on these matters. I've contacted an Ombudsman for the Indiana Mental Illness Association and speak to NAMI at times when I am perplexed with the systems. The money issues at hand are inadequately routed funding-wise and therefore, things over time do not evolve enough at all for the better of human beings with mental illness. Just having these types of illnesses is enough of a detriment for Gods sake for a person. Then to have to be helped through a bunch of red tape to say the very least only adds to the issues at hand not getting relieved properly. I do hope my son has a life changing experience through this next time frame he's up against, and I pray moreso that it is a positive one. I will be going to the facility sometime throughout and will check back with my feedback on the whole picture. Interesting, isn't what I'm expecting, but let's hope so, I'd love nothing more than to be pleasantly surprised. Hope is MY four letter word and always will be.

i don't think this article was meant to blame any hosts for their perceived lack of accountability. i saw the article as trying to examine the errors that are apparent in how media and the justice system observe you (a person with DID).

hope this reaches you in a time of providence.

perhaps you can have a chat mellow chat in a soothing environment. be sure both of you are prepared for this alter to try and break your means of communication with your sister. let her know how you believe her; and, therefore, when this alter does commit acts out of her control through her body, this opens a vulnerability in her connection with reality. alters can take advantage of this, and it only seems to me that's what this alter is doing right now because i certainly don't have all the information. i truly hope this helps with the least potential for pain.

sincerely,
a sister to one who lives with DID.

Self hatred is not healthy and it will never be healthy, how can you spit such nonsense?