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If you have high expectations for yourself, chances are those expectations are causing at least part of your anxiety. We're used to having high expectations. Our computers should work at the speed of light. Our smartphones had better perform brilliant feats when it comes to our friends and our food (smart appliances are expected to keep up). Don't forget the traffic lights that must turn green the second we reach the intersection. Living at a pace that requires such demands can lead to high levels of stress and anxiety; however, this is nothing compared to the anxiety and stress caused by high expectations turned on ourselves.
While we likely won't experience all the symptoms of depression, we will certainly experience some symptoms; therefore, we will need a plan for coping with these symptoms of depression. What are some depression symptoms to be on the lookout for? How can we build coping skills to help us navigate through these hard times?
You can regulate your emotions and better respond to distress through dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) skills training. DBT emotional regulation skills have proved to be especially effective in people struggling with self-harm and other self-destructive, maladaptive behavior. 
Emotional resilience is very important to a person's wellbeing. It is a way to describe how well you mentally bounce back from upsetting situations and events. Resilience can be crucial in mental illness recovery where stress can aggravate symptoms. Being able to better handle stress improves stability.
While I recognize that social media has given rise to many important and positive strides in the global economy—and I'm not here to condemn it—sometimes I wonder, is there a correlation between social media and eating disorders? As a disclaimer, first I will concede that I use social media, so I am aware it has benefits. My husband has built a career in social media marketing. I communicate with one of my closest friends, who lives in London, on Facebook. I have made all sorts of personal and professional connections on Twitter, Instagram, and LinkedIn. So the purpose of this article is not to demonize social media or critique those who are active on these networks, but to examine if there might be a correlation between social media and eating disorders in this hyper-connected world. 
Disclosure is an important part of living with any mental illness, anxiety included. For those unaware, disclosure simply means letting the people in your life know that you are mentally ill. In a future post, I will share some more practical advice for when you disclose, but right now, I want to focus specifically on why I feel disclosing is so important, and why I feel everyone with mental illness should disclose.
Organization can be an incredibly important part of mental health recovery, and one of the best organizational systems for those of us with mental illness is the bullet journal. Basically, a bullet journal is a planner you create yourself using a blank notebook. This system allows for all kinds of organizational techniques, from the most colorful creativity to the most bare-bones minimalism. It can be overwhelming to start, but the bullet journal really is the best planner for people dealing with mental illness.
When I explain my PTSD to people who don't have much knowledge about the disorder, I like to describe my brain as being "stuck in survival mode." It's the easiest way to describe how I feel to people who don't have PTSD because everyone understands what "survival mode" means.
The symptoms of my sexual assault cropped up in unexpected ways, years after the traumatic event. As I slowly came to terms with what happened to me, these symptoms began to interfere with my romantic relationships in a variety of ways, both subtle and overt. I tried to navigate these symptoms and the further I strived to avoid them, the further they popped up unexpectedly and uninvited. Over the years, I have discovered that there are several things that my partner and I can do to help ease my mind and work towards understanding the aftermath of my assault.
I recently read a book on being more effective in which the author discusses the utility of daily visualization. Daily visualization might make us think of guided visualizations or meditation, but this particular method is distinct from that. 

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Mary-Elizabeth Schurrer
Hi, Lindsay

Thanks so much for reaching out! First, let me just say that I am so sorry you've had to battle poor body image and self-esteem lately. I know the struggle well, and my heart aches for what you're dealing with. I am honored this goodbye letter has touched you so deeply, and I am thrilled to hear that you plan to write a goodbye letter of your own. You are absolutely correct—it's not you who deserves self-loathing. It's the eating disorder, which has stolen so much life from you, that should be hated with a vengeance. Keep reminding yourself that you are more than worthy of healing, and if you need any additional resources to help you feel motivated in recovery, I will point you toward Healthy Place's Eating Disorder Community as a place to start: https://www.healthyplace.com/eating-disorders. Keep up the fight!
Lindsey
I had weight loss surgery last year and had always struggled with binge eating disorder before that. The first 9 months after surgery I didn’t binge one and thought I was cured, but about a month ago I started binge eating again and again and have gained 10 pounds in a month. I feel nothing but hate a resentment for myself and I’m miserable. Your letter brought me to tears because I realize I don’t hate myself, I hate my eating disorder, but that eating disorder has been such a huge part of my life that it feels like we are the same entity. I am going to write my own letter, but I’m also saving your as it is so beautifully written and a wonderful reminder that I am worthy of much more than what my eating disorder decides I’m worthy of.
Tanya J. Peterson, MS, NCC
Hi Jocelyn,
I'm really glad you found this information useful. Your sister is fortunate to have a loved one who is so supportive and seeks information for her. Good luck to both of you. Even severe anxiety can get better with patience and perseverance.
Jocelyn McDonald
My sister has pretty severe anxiety, and I suggested she go to counselling to help manage this. Your article had great points about the benefits of therapy like this, and I liked how you said counselling can help my sister regain her self-confidence, which in turn reduces anxiety. Thanks; I'll share this with my sister to help her consider anxiety counselling.
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I've found the same to be true more about neurotypical people. Mindless buffoons motivated by whim and feeling, who've never gone through the hardship required to formulate a nuanced understanding of reality.

Now, I don't actually believe this, this is an incredibly unfair assumption. But it is just as valid as yours

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