Tanya J. Peterson, MS, NCC
Relationships of all types are important in our lives, but as positive as it is to have a connection with someone, relationships can also be incredibly anxiety-provoking. Anxiety in relationships happens only in part because of the conflicts that inevitably occur in even the most loving and nurturing of relationships. Anxiety often happens because relationships have intruders: our thoughts, feelings, memories, and worries and what-ifs. Our attention frequently wanders into places that lead to problems like anxiety. Therefore, choosing what we pay attention to can go a long way toward reducing anxiety in relationships.
Recently, we were hit with a period of deep cold that often made it dangerous to do anything outside. Ordinarily, I don’t mind the cold, but in these instances, where it is inadvisable to go outside for one’s safety, it can be difficult.
ADHD tantrums. They're loud, unnerving, embarrassing, and make me question myself as a parent. They come with the territory of raising a child with attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), and although they aren't the most fun part of my day, I've found ways to deal with them without sacrificing my sanity (for the most part).
Tanya J. Peterson, MS, NCC
I'm Tanya J. Peterson, and I'm really excited to be one of the authors of the Mental Health for the Digital Generation blog. I've been writing here on HealthyPlace for seven years. I co-author the Anxiety-Schmanxiety Blog, have written a bunch of articles on different topics around the website, and provide the newsletter articles. I love doing these things because mental health is so vital--mental health is life itself. Writing for Mental Health for the Digital Generation blog feels like coming home, like being where I wat to settle in, get comfortable, and have meaningful conversations.
Polyvagal theory has become an integral part of my healing journey as I learn to accept and cope with my trauma. But what is polyvagal theory? Let's talk about it.
You've heard that laughter is the best medicine. It is not only a figure of speech, but there is truth to the saying. Laughter is such a great way to feel better and to overcome negative feelings you may be feeling. If you struggle with chronic anxiety, incorporating laughter into your life can help to relieve many of those symptoms that you experience.
I am experiencing heightened anxiety at the moment, as I am waiting for important medical results. I usually avoid sharing my anxiety with my family, but this time I decided to be more open. Telling my brother, who has chronic mental health issues, about what I am going through was surprisingly helpful.
Love is a powerful force, but when it comes to loving someone with mental illness, we have to think about how to love through a different lens. We all likely have seen this type of story before where someone with mental illness or trauma falls in love, finds happiness, and suddenly all pain and hardship disappears for good. These savior stories create unrealistic expectations of what it's like to love people with mental illnesses as if the right person can rescue them from their darkness and pull them back into the light.
Holding down a job and working with borderline personality disorder (BPD) can be challenging at times. The fluctuating, unstable emotions can get in the way of good work performance and maintaining a positive reputation. Working from home with BPD presents unique challenges and advantages if you live with this disorder.
Gender identity in the lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, intersex, asexual, etc. (LGBTQIA+) community is important when speaking about mental health. Society has made a habit of assigning gender based on assumptions relating to outward appearance and tone of voice. Mental health concerns can be tied together with gender identity and it is important to respect an individual's chosen identity without our own biases getting in the way. Being a part of the LGBTQIA+ mental health community or being an ally to this community begins with basic respect for gender identity and the willingness to learn and be curious regarding aspects of this community we are not aware of.