I don’t know how to forever banish the voice in my head that tells me I’m a failure. I know who I am. I know what I have to offer the world. On my worst days, none of it matters because I feel like I’m a failure. On my best, I’ll wake with renewed hope and by day’s end am fighting back tears of angst, staring numbly at the wall.
Research has been fairly consistent in identifying the link between body image issues and eating disorders. Can school-based intervention programs, therefore, help reduce the onset of eating disorders in young people by giving them the tools to develop high body esteem and satisfaction?
Living with complex posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is hard and often makes life feel like a struggle. You may struggle to get out of bed, do your daily chores, put on a good face for those around you, or you may even feel like it's a struggle to live.
Managing cravings is perhaps one of the most challenging barriers you must face in recovery, thus there are numerous benefits to documenting those cravings on an official craving log. If addiction is like an earthquake in our lives, cravings are the continual and sometimes catastrophic tsunamis that follow. I define cravings at the mental, emotional, or physical reminders that tug at your soul and remind you that your addiction still exists. They tend to be at their most extreme in early recovery, but in some cases, cravings can be experienced for years following your sobriety date. So let's see how beneficial a craving log might be for your personal addiction recovery.
Our social life helps us to build and maintain our self-esteem in so many important ways. Friends, family, partners, colleagues, acquaintances, strangers – all these people can help to boost our self-esteem when it’s low, as well as allow us to view ourselves in a more realistic, down-to-earth fashion. (Of course, people can have the opposite effect on our self-esteem, too, but it’s important to distance yourself from such toxic people.)
Mental illness is an invisible force. The suffering it causes is not physical in the same way that the suffering caused by a broken bone is physical. Even a relatively common mental illness like depression often goes unseen. This invisibility can make us feel helpless in proving to others that our illness is real.
Have you ever noticed how an abusive relationship makes you miss out on life? While thinking about what to write for this week's post, I became fixated on the fact I never got to see George Carlin perform live. I had the tickets, I was ready to go, but at the last minute, I decided to back out. Why?
The miracle question might just be one of the most powerful tools you can use to overcome anxiety and creating the quality life you want to live. The concept comes to us from solution-focused brief therapy (SFBT), but versions of it were used in older theories of counseling. It's a question that on the surface is deceptively simple, but when you explore it more deeply, it becomes more than a question. It becomes an answer. Put on your explorer clothes, and let's examine the miracle question so you can use it to overcome anxiety.
I thought I would offer a snapshot of a day into my life with borderline persoanlity disorder (BPD). This account is of a day when my BPD neither calm nor at crisis level, but moderate in strength. There is no such thing as a typical day with borderline personality disorder due to the intense and quickly changing emotions associated with this condition.
I have been asked recently, "Can I voluntarily give myself dissociative identity disorder?"  For most of us with DID, our first reaction is to wonder why anyone would ever want to? The truth is, however, I have shockingly come across individuals inquiring how they can develop the disorder. Well, the answer to whether you can voluntarily give yourself the disorder is unequivocally no, you cannot. 

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Jennifer Smith
Hello, Cassie. Thank you for your comment. I'm Jennifer, one of the current authors of the Coping With Depression blog. I'm glad you found the poem. I hope it will be a comfort to both you and your niece.
Jennifer Smith
Hello, psmith50. I'm so glad you reached out here. I'm Jennifer Smith, one of the current authors of the Coping With Depression Blog. I'm sorry your friend spoke those hurtful words to you. Not to defend him, but perhaps he was having a bad day or was really stressed at the time in which you called. Also, he doesn't speak for everyone. Please continue sharing your thoughts and feelings with your friends. I want to encourage you to speak with a healthcare professional if you're not doing so already. My depression has improved since I sought treatment from both a psychiatrist and a therapist. I want you to also know that there are many reasons why suicide is not an option that you should choose. I myself attempted to take my own life almost three years ago. I can promise you that I'm so glad I was unsuccessful. I've done so many wonderful things since that awful night that I otherwise would have missed. Things get better. They really, truly, honestly do. It takes time. It takes support, which I know you can find through doctors, support groups, and the right kinds of friends. Keep holding on. I'm so proud of you. Thank you again for reaching out.
This article is interesting but also heartbreaking. My husband is BP and Borderline and has been abusive and destructive on days I wholly wish I could wash from my memory. Cops have been called, suicide prevention measures taken, the whole nine yards and today aim honestly lucky to be alive. Today’. This is the one moment I have and that’s it.

My point is I never know what’s going to set him off and I walk mindfully around his moods but shit comes flying out of thin air often. We are divorcing now (since he won’t maintain meds and therapy regularly) and I will always fear his capabilities. So while people say there are no two BP’s that are the same, there are no two humans that are the same either. Regardless of BP. I don’t even see the disease anymore, I just see fear. I’m frightened. But I’m mostly angry that the resources are incredibly difficult to seek out and the stigma creates a hellish marathon for someone with BP to admit then seek help. It’s messed up!
I’m glad I found this - I am starting to realise that my lifelong habit of finding ‘boredom’ excruciating, and considering talking to my GP about ADHD. Put it this way, I’m 38 and the longest I’ve held down a job is 21 months. I’ve got a BA, post grad certificate and MA in completely different subjects. I’ve never been fired, but quit every job when I start feeling I’m going mad with boredom - which to me is a combination of lacking mental stimulation, having to stay in one place, and worst of all, then being expected to concentrate on an uninteresting task. I can find ‘dull’ subjects fascinating if I am on an information binge of my own creation (the history of nuclear reactors, brick bond types, etc) or need distracting (reading packaging, dictionaries, obscure news, etc). I can focus intensely on creative stuff (writing, drawing) but all my jobs have been office based and non-creative. I end up making lots of tea, going to the loo, and writing long emails to myself (disguised as work) to survive in these jobs, and then reach breaking point a few months in and leave... secondary school was the same - couldn’t do homework, but liked learning new things if interesting and did well in exams as got intense focus! Became really depressed at not being ‘normal’ but still couldn’t focus. I don’t think the term ADHD was used back when I was at school - I was just seen as difficult, lazy, fidgety, over talkative, forgetful and weird.

I’m hoping I can explain this to my GP and might show them your article, if that’s OK? Thanks!

Lizanne Corbit
I think this is such an important read because it's one that many people can probably relate to. We may not think of our friends, family, and peers trying to "prove" their depression to us, but this happens more than we realize. Holding space for others and allowing them to openly share and talk about their depression is such a hugely beneficial thing. I'm happy to come across this read on here. Thanks for posting.