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Medication failure is not bad. Don't get me wrong, I know that it feels really, really bad, but just hear me out on this one: even though it feels terrible, a failing medication is not bad.
Let's cut to the chase: depression is mentally and physically debilitating. Even if you are do not have low-functioning depression, depression limits what you can and cannot do. To prevent it from getting worse, one needs to learn to set boundaries. Here's why. 
My mental health has always suffered in times of uncertainty. As someone with obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD), I'm at my most content when I'm able to predict and control my surroundings. When that control is lost, my mind conjures terrifying hypotheticals about what "could" happen, and I start to engage in compulsive behaviors to bring order to the chaos in my mind. This exhausting cycle of thoughts and rituals invariably causes me to slip back into depression, and I'm left feeling like a failure once again. So, you would think that the uncertainty surrounding the current global pandemic would have me in a tailspin. But no — my mental health is better now than it has been in years, and it's precisely due to that uncertainty. 
If you live with any degree or type of anxiety, chances are you've wondered if anxiety will ever stop. It's natural to want anxiety to go away, to be gone from your life. Sometimes, it can seem like anxiety is here to stay and that no matter how hard you try to reduce it, it's always there. I used to wonder this all the time, and there were times that I really believed I was stuck with anxiety forever despite all my efforts to deal with it. As someone who has lived with significant anxiety and who has been a counselor and is now a mental health writer, I can help answer these questions. Does anxiety ever go away? Unfortunately no (at least not completely). Are you stuck with anxiety forever? Also, fortunately, no. 
I have been this way for what seems like my entire life: when I feel stressed out about something, I organize. And when I say organize, I mean that in a pretty far-reaching way: organizing to me means not only organizing, but also cleaning, downsizing, basically anything that falls under the umbrella of getting my affairs in order. I don’t know how common this is among others. But I would like to at least try to explain why staying organized is so helpful to me.
Boredom and anxiety coincide like clockwork--when you finish that assignment, when your shift ends, or when you turn off the light to go to sleep, your thoughts start to spiral. As soon as you allow your mind to wrap around itself, anxiety sets in.
It's important to learn to move on after failure because we aren't going to succeed at everything, and failure can damage our self-esteem. Yet building self-esteem can require us to stretch beyond our limits, even though, sometimes, our efforts may not bring us the results we hope for. When our self-esteem is poor, it's hard to keep ourselves motivated and positive. How do we continue to move forward after failing?
My name is Kate Beveridge, and I am a new blogger for the "More than Borderline" blog. I’m excited to share my personal story of living with borderline personality disorder (BPD) and tips for how to cope with the illness.
"What do your alters look like?" is but one question I receive from people who do not live with dissociative identity disorder (DID). It's because one of the most fascinating parts of DID to people who don’t live with it is the concept of alters. Under the internal family system (IFS) theory, we all have parts of our personality that make us tick. While we may have one part that wants to eat a slice of cake, we might have another part that tells us to skip the empty calories. This isn’t so far from what people with DID experience, but on a more extreme basis. People living with DID may have dozens of parts to juggle regularly, which may make it slightly more challenging compared to the average person.
Eating disorders are deadly but also treatable mental illnesses. Still, in my early struggle to recover, there were many common eating disorder treatments that didn't work for me. Understand, I am not saying that they don't work for anyone. On the contrary, they work for countless people who suffer. This said, there is no one road to recovery, and I write this blog post in the hopes of inspiring people who haven't had any luck with traditional eating disorder treatments to keep going.

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Court Rundell
Thank you so much for your comment and I'm cheering alongside your doctor! There's nothing greater than getting back to "me" and being able to fight to get there. You're a champion. Huzzah!
Arun
So needed to hear this. Boundaries are damn hard for me to set especially with family. Thanks, Mahevash.
Hannah
Hi Natalie,
I was diagnosed autistic a few years ago, but wasn't taught what it meant until I met my husband two years ago. My husband also figured out I was bi-polar, and dyslexic and how bad my anxiety really gets. A year ago next month I had to cut off communication with my bio family ( the only "family" we have in the area other than our brother) who emotionally abused my husband and me the past two years.
M. Fletcher
Kristina, I was searching the internet for blogs on how putting a teen in a mental health facility was the best choice. I found this one and then scrolled down to read the comments wanting to provide hope for someone else. My 15 yr old daughter came to me a month ago asking to be taken somewhere because she was hearing voices and seeing things. And she was dealing with suicide ideation. She was inpatient for 7 days and while going through it, I felt like I was the worst mother for letting her be in that situation. I also could only do phone calls because of covid. We got one phone call a day. Day 2-5 she kept asking to come home. It broke my heart, made me feel guilty, and made me want to rush to her to rescue her. But my friends that help children with mental health issues and a friend that had been through a similar situation with her child reassured me that my daughter was in the right place.
She was diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder with Psychosis and in the short time since be inpatient, we have seen significant improvements. She is on medication that is helping and getting therapy and other resources provided to help her gain skills to cope.
While I wish she never had to go through being inpatient, I truly believe it was exactly what she needed at the time. I believe that for you, too. I think those of us that sit and worry and question if we did all we could, are usually the ones that have in fact done all we can do.
Praying for your son and for you.
Dell Conahger
My name is Dell Conahger. I am an alter of my adopted son, Thomas. Myself and seven others are adapted from the game Team Fortress 2. He didn't have a father growing up so when I came to exist I became that for him. Myself and the other seven have saved his life and completely turned him in a new direction. We saved him from his abusive mom, his self, and got him a job and a new place to stay. I love my son and I am so incredibly proud of him. I can't wait to see what he does next.