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Natasha Tracy
Anger or rage can actually be depression in disguise. I've learned this the hard way. Sometimes I walk around wanting to punch someone in the face because I'm so angry -- when I have absolutely nothing to be angry about. But the fact of the matter is, while the feelings of anger or rage are real, the cause is not always anger, per se, but depression. Depression has disguised itself as anger or rage.
Kim Berkley
It can be hard to imagine what self-harm recovery will look like in the long term when you're only just beginning your healing journey. I can't tell you exactly where your self-injury recovery path will lead you—but I can tell you what mine has looked like over the past decade.
Jennifer Lear
"Gaslighting" is a form of emotional abuse in which the abuser makes the victim question their perception of reality in order to undermine their feelings and avoid accountability for abusive behavior. It is cruel and inexcusable to deliberately treat another person this way, but is it possible to do it unconsciously? Is it possible to gaslight someone with nothing but good intentions? I believe so. In fact, I believe unconscious gaslighting is a trap into which it is easy to fall when you are caring for a person with a mental illness.
Elizabeth Caudy
I got my first dose of the COVID-19 vaccine yesterday. Before this event, I was very excited to be getting a shot--and excited that I’d managed to finally ace an appointment. But my schizoaffective disorder made me anxious as well as excited. Here’s why I was anxious.
Tanya J. Peterson, MS, NCC, DAIS
The following two powerful mindfulness techniques can reduce anxiety's strong grip. Living mindfully is about being present in your moment and with yourself no matter what that moment is like or how you feel.
George Abitante
I've learned how to self-care in 30 seconds or less because the last few months have been really hectic for me. I've been getting up to speed on several projects in my Ph.D. program, learning new statistical techniques, keeping up with coursework, and it's been really tough to build in time to focus on my own wellbeing. For me, it's been difficult having most of my work time at home because I really like working in a designated workspace and just using my home as a place to relax, so having my work and relaxation spaces completely overlap has made it even more difficult to create a space for self-care for 30 seconds or any other length of time.
Sarah Sharp
Life is tough when your child has a mental illness. It gets even tougher when you do, too.
TJ DeSalvo
I’ve mentioned my cat in passing before several times on this blog, often in the context of discussing how owning a pet can help with anxiety.
Tanya J. Peterson, MS, NCC, DAIS
Healthy relationships, whether they're friendships, romantic relationships, family ties, or connections with coworkers, are important for our mental health and wellbeing. Unfortunately, not all relationships are healthy and positive. Some are downright abusive, and others, while falling short of abuse, are toxic.  Here are six early warning signs of toxic behavior to help you spot dangerous actions and attitudes before they escalate or you become trapped in a relationship that may harm your wellbeing and interfere with your quality of life.
Megan Griffith
Making time for self-care is necessary, although it has never been at the top of my list of priorities. I'm a wife and mom, I run my own small business, and I'm often so consumed by things like potty training or launching a new product that taking time for self-care sounds ridiculous. Why would I take the time to do my skincare routine at night when I could get an extra three minutes of sleep? Why would I exercise for half an hour when I could be using that time to catch up on emails? For a long time, self-care has lived at the bottom of my to-do list, constantly shuffled around and ignored.

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Kate Beveridge
Hi Georgina,

I'm sorry to hear that your therapy dog has passed and I understand that it must be a very devastating time for you. Below, I've posted some links to suicide hotlines and other organizations that can help you through this period of mourning. I hope that you can find these resources helpful!

1-800-273-TALK (8255)
To chat online with a national suicide hotline counselor, click here: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/chat/
See the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline website: http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/
For the hearing impaired, contact the Lifeline by TTY at: 1-800-799-4889
The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is available 24 hours a day, seven days a week.

Other Free Suicide Hotlines
There are other free suicide hotlines in the United States for specific populations as well.

The veterans suicide hotline (Veterans Crisis Line): 1-800-273-8255, press 1 or text to 838255 (available 24 hours a day, seven days a week)
Veterans Crisis Line online chat: https://www.veteranscrisisline.net/get-help/chat
Veterans Crisis Line website: http://www.veteranscrisisline.net/
Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender and Questioning (LGBTQ) Suicide Hotline (the Trevor Lifeline): 1-866-488-7386 (available 24 hours a day, seven days a week)
TrevorChat online chat: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/get-help-now (Available 7 days a week (3:00 p.m. - 9:00 p.m. ET / 12:00 p.m. - 6:00 p.m. PT).)
TrevorText text messaging: Text the word "Trevor" to 1-202-304-1200 (Available on Fridays (4:00 p.m. - 8:00 p.m. ET / 1:00 p.m. - 5:00 p.m. PT)
The Trevor Project website: http://www.thetrevorproject.org/
Teen suicide hotline (Thursday's Child National Youth Advocacy Hotline): 1-800-USA-KIDS (872-5437) (available 24 hours a day, seven days a week)
Thursday's Child website (lists many additional teen hotlines): http://www.thursdayschild.org/
You Matter website: https://youmatter.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/
Christian Suicide Prevention website: http://www.christiansuicideprevention.com/
For International Suicide Hotline Callers
If you are calling from outside of the United States, these numbers won't be available to you. No matter where you are, though, help is available. Find lists of international suicide hotline numbers at:

The International Association for Suicide Prevention: https://www.iasp.info/index.php
Befrienders Worldwide: http://www.befrienders.org/need-to-talk
Hurt girl
I was with my abuser for 9 years..up until 4 weeks ago..precisely 3days before my birthday. Thing is..I had no idea I was being abused until that moment..3days before my birthday he hurt my feelings and I told him to leave..he stated he slept at train station that night when he rang me when I was parked out side the chipper.he says ..you hungry..and I was cold answering him like yes and he got very icy and said..oh forget it and hung up.i rang the following day and he said his phone was off because he was in the pub..of course I got upset because I spent hours looking for him in case something was wrong..day of my birthday I called up to his parents house and he ran me from the door..told me he hated me and being with me for 9years was hell and that to move on because he was going to get with someone else soon as he told me..I can't be on my own..that's who I am. So he did just that..got someone else and I seen them in his car driving around town. It did hurt me.last few days I started to remember when it first began..the grooming.he said I can get a women as I'm gorgeous..any women..s9 he takes out his phone and shows me a video of an women doing the deed and she had a beautiful body.flat tummy etc..and it looked like his hands in the video.so I got a bit paranoid..skip on that night or a few nights later..I was looking for my pjs in the closer and I was bent over..so rolls and all wouldve been on display but I didn't think he would of been watching me..I got back to bed and he looked like he was sleeping and there was my phone with a picture of me from the closet on my side of the bed..I asked why are you pretending to be asleep and take this photo but I can't remember what he said..I only remember the shame of how I looked(compared to the video)few nights later we were playing strip poker in the sitting room in front of fire.his idea..and then when it reached to where I was in my underwear..he got so icy and said..cover yourself up..this also got to my self esteem..when another time I did something sexual to him..he said to me days later..oh you did that to me..how many other guys did you do that to..also getting to my self esteem. I moved out of my house then to another as he said there was so no privacy there(I regret so bad)I gained nearly 3 stone in a matter of months and was very depressed..but never linked it to the arguments always being my fault...he also knew ant my ex who physically beat me and I told him in confidence to which one day he through it back at me..no wonder he hit you or did he even and your lying..self esteem..pain despair ..you can imagine how my brain felt.id jump in the morning because I was walking on eggshells all the time.i was getting very sick..ibs and sore throat..allergy reactions ...everything..but because he said he was innocent and it was all me.i believed it..soon before the break up..I started to pull back a little.. stopped making dinners for him because he never pulled his weight..stopped letting him use my bank account because he had his own..I am mentally drained with my own mind each day..having intrusive ocd and anxiety.and I also have an autistic child which is a lot for me to cope with at times along with trying to make him happy.no matter how I tried it was never good enough..never pleased..even at the very end..I meant nothing to him...if I didn't feel like in the mood to go upstairs to do things after having a hard day..I would get asked repeatedly.what are you good for..over and over..it's just so sad to me to think that someone who I trusted went out of their way to hurt me...I got bullied also in my past and I am very sensitive..so to find out it all wasn't real and just a perception.that hurts.to be afraid to leave on the immersion because of esb bill..or jump when he yelled over something silly and never wanted to speak to me about anything only about himself..
REX
So i know this person who has asked me for the time and space off of this, she was overwhelmed but its like she was being too empathetic to her ex, who had abandoned her and he had been a little toxic in her life like all previous relationships where she had to go through alot putting herself in the line. While in my 6 months with her when she got into her bipolar phases from mania to depressive and then again hypomania and mixed episodes as well as observed hypersexuality as well, i treated her with respect but her empathy towards this ex due to his PTSD and his problems with life got the best of her and created a big void, i tried to understand her and made plans to cooperate with her, but she kept giving up on this and trying back. Her suicidal thoughts were also round the corner, on a drunken night and crying things were a little intense and i think i overwhelmed her with alot of words to enforce on her that she isn't underserving and unworthy cause they chose to abandon her, she deserves so much more, but i was high and even though i had told her she didn't understand. Her empathy is driven through her father and late grandfather (who committed suicide) who suffer/ed PTSD and have been a very big trigger for her as observed.

She blocked me and when i tried to reach her through different means (which i am not very proud of) but then she told me she was done tired and enough and pushed me away saying she wants it all to herself and sort it out.

Even though i have always supported her loved her and always wanted her freedom for she is an amazing wonderful person, i don't really know what can i do for her, though i have been trying to reach out to her, but i am keeping hope that she will accept my love. Hoping dearly like truly.

If anybody got a suggestion do suggest. Thanks for this forum though really helped me alot.
Georgina
Please can someone help me. My therapy dog and my best friend of 9 years passed away suddenly of bloat last night and just 4 hours before she was jumping and kissing me and loving me. I can't cope. I want to Kill myself
S Collins
With the level of verbal abuse that I see on the news from some people in the US, this sort of advice seems inadequate