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Jennifer Lear
My mental health has always suffered in times of isolation and uncertainty. As someone with obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), I'm at my most content when I'm able to predict and control my surroundings. When that control is lost, my mind conjures terrifying hypotheticals about what "could" happen, and I start to engage in compulsive behaviors to bring order to the chaos in my mind. This exhausting cycle of thoughts and rituals invariably causes me to slip back into depression, and I'm left feeling like a failure once again. So, you would think that the uncertainty surrounding the current global pandemic would have my mental health in a tailspin. But no — it is better now than it has been in years, and it's precisely due to that uncertainty. The uncertainty leading to my isolation has improved my mental health.
Tanya J. Peterson, MS, NCC
If you live with any degree or type of anxiety, chances are you've wondered if anxiety will ever stop. It's natural to want anxiety to go away, to be gone from your life. Sometimes, it can seem like anxiety is here to stay and that no matter how hard you try to reduce it, it's always there. I used to wonder if anxiety would ever stop all the time, and there were times that I really believed I was stuck with anxiety forever, despite all my efforts to deal with it. As someone who has lived with significant anxiety and who has been a teacher and counselor and is now a mental health writer, I can help answer these questions: Does anxiety ever go away? Unfortunately, no (at least not completely). Are you stuck with anxiety forever? Also, fortunately, no.
TJ DeSalvo
When I feel stressed out about something, I organize. And when I say organize, I mean that in a pretty far-reaching way: organizing to me means not only organizing, but also cleaning, downsizing, basically anything that falls under the umbrella of getting my affairs in order. I don’t know how common this is among others. But I would like to at least try to explain why staying organized is so helpful to me.
Annabelle Clawson
Boredom and anxiety coincide like clockwork--when you finish that assignment, when your shift ends, or when you turn off the light to go to sleep, your thoughts start to spiral. As soon as you allow your mind to wrap around itself, anxiety sets in.
Jessica Kaley
It's important to learn to move on after failure because we aren't going to succeed at everything, and failure can damage our self-esteem. Yet building self-esteem can require us to stretch beyond our limits, even though, sometimes, our efforts may not bring us the results we hope for. When our self-esteem is poor, it's hard to keep ourselves motivated and positive. How do we continue to move forward after failing?
Kate Beveridge
My name is Kate Beveridge, and I am a new blogger for the "More than Borderline" blog. I’m excited to share my personal story of living with borderline personality disorder (BPD) and tips for how to cope with the illness.
Krystle Vermes
"What do your alters look like?" is but one question I receive from people who do not live with dissociative identity disorder (DID). It's because one of the most fascinating parts of DID to people who don’t live with it is the concept of alters. Under the internal family system (IFS) theory, we all have parts of our personality that make us tick. While we may have one part that wants to eat a slice of cake, we might have another part that tells us to skip the empty calories. This isn’t so far from what people with DID experience, but on a more extreme basis. People living with DID may have dozens of parts to juggle regularly, which may make it slightly more challenging compared to the average person.
Hollay Ghadery
Eating disorders are deadly but also treatable mental illnesses. Still, in my early struggle to recover, there were many common eating disorder treatments that didn't work for me. Understand, I am not saying that they don't work for anyone. On the contrary, they work for countless people who suffer. This said, there is no one road to recovery, and I write this blog post in the hopes of inspiring people who haven't had any luck with traditional eating disorder treatments to keep going.
Megan Griffith
For the last year or so, I have been doing a lot of work to process my childhood trauma. I've been in therapy, I've been taking psychiatric medication, I've been doing outside reading, and my therapist and I even found a way to work one of my favorite TV shows into my trauma work. In general, I think it's going really well, except for one problem: parenting. I don't know how to avoid causing my son the same trauma that happened to me.
Martyna Halas
What part can dissociation play in self-harm? If you’ve never self-harmed, you probably can’t understand why anyone would do such a thing in the first place. The notion of inflicting physical pain on oneself can seem illogical and terrifying. However, self-harm can often travel with dissociation symptoms.1 This means the person who self-injures might feel physically numb or have no recollection of the event.

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Mary-Elizabeth Schurrer
Thank you so much for these thoughtful, intentional words of encouragement! You are so right—recovery is brave, difficult, and worthwhile. I appreciate you sharing these insights from your own eating disorder recovery process!

Mary-Elizabeth Schurrer
"Surviving ED" Blogger
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Rick
My ex girlfriend was sexually abused by her stepdad from 10-14 years old. I'm the only person that she says she has told. I noticed that she always tried to be what I wanted her to be instead of herself. I divorced after my ex wife cheated on me so I'm sensitive to signs of dishonesty. I never assumed that she was cheating, but after reading this, and her having sex with me on the first date, I felt she might be addicted. I noticed that a man messaged her what seemed like a reply to her message on Facebook. I voiced my concern in a very calm manner (her ex was a cheater and abusive) and her response was to remove all male friends on Facebook. Recently I discovered that during that time they liked each other's profile picture. My spidey sense really kicked in. When I would catch her lying to me, she wouldn't defend herself or deny it, she would just say she was a terrible person and that I deserved better. I really want to know if she is a sex addict. She started therapy and I still want to help her.
Tony
The problem with Bisexuality and Pansexuality is that neither orientation exists. They are both states of confusion. People who claim to be either or both aren't yet decided on what sexuality they identify as. This occurs in women more often than men because women are far more likely to be open to experimentation with their sexuality. Women that end up claiming to be either pan or bi are either overly promiscuous or closeted homosexual. Whenever you see a self identifying pan or bi woman settle down(yet still identifying as pan or bi), it is always with another woman. Pan and/or Bi women are almost always homosexual and prefer their own gender with very rare exceptions. Whenever a past identifying pan or bi woman settles down with a man it is because she is done experimenting with her sexuality and has realized she is hetero. Either way pan and bi are just cover terms women use for their sexual confusion. Either meant to excuse promiscuity or hide closeted homosexuality. Mostly women end up feeling that way. On the rare case that a man identifies as either pan, bi or both, it can be attributed to a similar sexual confusion, but with a definite cause behind it . Those men only identify as pan, bi, or both, because their sexual confusion was caused, often purposely, by feminist mothers trying to feminize their sons to further their cause's agenda. In those cases you will always find that, in addition to those radical feminist mother's feminizing indoctrination, there is also a complete absence of a strong male father figure. Those pan, bi, or both, men always grow to adulthood and either become homosexual or hetero. Those few who don't tend to commit suicide at young ages.
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i don't know how many people read this site anymore since all the comments are from years and years ago, but I just want to say if you're reading this in 2021, considering recovery and weighing your options, i just wanna say you're not alone. i'm right there with you. i know it's hard I'm going through the same exact thing . you're not alone . i know everyone struggles differently with eating disorders, but approaching and even considering recovery is the bravest thing we can do. especially if it's on our own, like me. this is one of the hardest things i've ever done, and i just wanna say i'm so proud of you for all it took to get to this point of the beginning of recovery. i believe in you!!!!! we can do it