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I Hate the Mentally Ill - My Ex was Bipolar and She was Evil

July 7, 2011 Natasha Tracy

I like my job. I get to write for a living which is something many writers don't get to do. And moreover, I get to write about things that matter to me. Also a great luxury for many writers. These are pleasures as are the vast majority of people I get to meet.

I do have the great displeasure, though, of seeing vehement hatred for those with a mental illness. People who hate show up here, on my blog and elsewhere. People with a hatred for bipolar disorder seem to seek places to express their hatred.

But hatred of the mentally ill is simply another prejudice. Hatred of people with bipolar is the same as racism and just as unacceptable.

People with Bipolar Are Selfish, Whiny, Childish Monsters

No one in their right mind would say, "All [people of race] are selfish, whiny, childish monsters."

They wouldn't say that because it isn't true and it's outlandish to think, let alone say. People of any race are individuals and thus are all different. Enlightened people understand painting them all with any brush is inaccurate, insulting and quite frankly just plain wrong.

It's exactly the same for those with a mental illness. Suggesting all people with bipolar are selfish, whiny, childish monsters (and I have heard much worse) is ridiculous. I am none of those things. I'm a grab-bag of traits, much like everyone else. Except I have an illness.

Why do People Hate those with Bipolar?

There is generally one reason why people hate those with a mental illness: they have had bad experiences with them in the past. And for whatever cockamamie reason, they have generalized that experience onto everyone with bipolar disorder. And for some reason they don't see the ludicrousness of that behavior.

My Ex Was Bipolar; She Was Evil

Lots of these people have bipolar ex-significant others. And some hate their ex-others. Perhaps for good reason; I couldn't say. But here's the thing:

  1. You fell in love with that person at some point and married/had kids with/lived with them, so there really is something good there somewhere.
  2. People hate their ex-others. It has nothing to do with bipolar and everything to do with being an ex.

People also think "men are bad," because of a bad divorce, or "women are conniving," or what have you. Not because of anything intrinsic to the gender but because divorces/breakups are nasty, ill-fated, legally acrimonious affairs.

Unfortunately, when one party has a mental illness the other party often feels perfectly justified in dumping the ills of the world at the feet of the illness. And then at the feet of everyone else with the illness.

Your Bipolar Ex Might Have Been Evil

I have no idea who you were married to, and they may have been the worst person on the planet. In fact, their illness may have made their life and yours a living hell. That person may have needed help and refused it. That person may have done horrible things and blamed it on their disease. That person may have hurt those and those you love. Quite possible.

But that's not about being bipolar, that's about the individual.

I will accept this illness makes people unpredictable and challenging, like many illnesses. I will accept the fact being with a person with an illness (any illness) is hard. I will accept that we hurt people, and sometimes that hurt has to do with bipolar disorder.

I will not, however, accept any insult you want to throw at me simply because I have the same diagnosis as a person you know. I will not allow you to tell me how I am or who I am. I will not accept your prejudice and I will not accept your hatred.

Enjoy Your Hate

You can hate whomever you like. It's a free country. But do it in front of me at your own risk. I do not buy your nonsense and to me, you are no better than a racist. Go find another place to play. Because I won't let you unabashedly hurt others just because you have been hurt.

APA Reference
Tracy, N. (2011, July 7). I Hate the Mentally Ill - My Ex was Bipolar and She was Evil, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2024, June 13 from https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/breakingbipolar/2011/07/i-hate-the-mentally-ill-my-ex-was-bipolar-and-she-was-evil



Author: Natasha Tracy

Natasha Tracy is a renowned speaker, award-winning advocate, and author of Lost Marbles: Insights into My Life with Depression & Bipolar. She's also the host of the podcast Snap Out of It! The Mental Illness in the Workplace Podcast.

Natasha is also unveiling a new book, Bipolar Rules! Hacks to Live Successfully with Bipolar Disorder, mid-2024.

Find Natasha Tracy on her blog, Bipolar BurbleX, InstagramFacebook, and YouTube.

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Taylor
November, 28 2017 at 6:31 pm

"Like when my ex-boyfriend repeatedly sexually assaulted me and raped me"
Ok, gotta stop you right there. You loved the guy enough for him to be your boyfriend. Depending on your age, with a boyfriend comes a relationship, and with a relationship comes sex, or at least an expectation that sex is consensual. Some people are just whacked, if the guy literally held you down and raped you then I feel for you, but I kind of doubt that is the case.
While it is technically *possible* to be raped as the girlfriend of your perpetrator, it is highly unlikely; and more likely that you either changed your mind after the fact, didn't communicate that you didn't want to have sex at that time clearly enough for him to understand, or were going through a depressive period where you just weren't interested in anything let alone sex for a sustained length of time.
My bipolar ex would make me wait an average of 45 days between sexual encounters when she was depressed. I wasn't allowed to cheat as it wasn't an open relationship, and I was truly suffering. Moreso because earlier in the relationship and even before we were in a relationship it was like rabbits, multiple times a day.
Partners have needs too. Like one of my ex girlfriends says, "Keep his belly full and his balls dry and he will never stray"; sage advice. Hate to break it to ya, but your man's libido is not going to suffer through your mental illness. Somethings gotta give if you want to keep the relationship rolling. Either he's going to get sex when you aren't quite in the mood, or he's going to get it elsewhere.
PS. If the guy really was a psycho who put a knife to your neck or something I am sorry for my comments.

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Marge
May, 13 2019 at 7:40 am

This comment makes me extremely upset
and sad. I have also been raped by my bi polar now ex boyfriend.
He asked a week earlier if I liked anal I said absolutely not
He said good I don’t like it either.
But that’s exactly what he did
He got on top of me when I was sleeping on my stomach
It took 2 years of support groups and therapy to get to a good place again.
He is untreated bi polar with drug problems
Refusing treatment
I reported him
He was extremely selfish and abusive
Severe raging no accountability or remorse
Suicide threats crying stonewalling or raging if I feared to bring anything up he had done.
Sorry for being so descriptive but obviously some ppl need to hear specifics in order to believe that women get raped.

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Stray
December, 12 2017 at 1:39 am

Hey.
Listen, I've no idea who you are. I wanted to say to you two things, one as a rape victim myself and one as someone who is dating someone bipolar and engaged.
1) I'm sorry about Taylor. Not apologizing for them, but I'm sorry you have to deal with victim blaming on top of being bipolar, it's rough. Rape isn't your fault, and even if you're in a relationship a partner ought to respect your no, and leave you alone if you're reluctant. I've been diagnosed with PTSD a d I'm a victim of childhood sexual abuse and a rape 3 years ago, so while I'm not bipolar I've done some pretty hurtful things and had my rage moments. Feel free to take what I say with a pinch of salt, but all you can do afterwards is talk it through and make amends where necessary.
You should look at Aphrodite Wounded, it's a site for those who are victims of intimate partner abuse.
2) On bipolar. All you can do is stay in your meds and have frequent appointments with your care team. You are NOT your disorder. I've seen my fiance when he was manic, and I'll tell you this. It was him who realized he was manic and got himself help and early too. Therapy helps as well and knowing the early signs is important since partners don't pick up on them either. A lot of people here have been hurt by someone bipolar and hence the hatred, but it doesn't have to be that way. I don't know what you're like, but I hope you'll find someone who isn't reactionary. Yes you've to do your part in managing your illness but accidents will happen and you need a safety net for them. I just wanted to say that.
I actually know a girl, happily married, she's bipolar, borderline and has ptsd. She's very careful now in managing herself and I know her and her husband have a very happy marriage and a happy relationship prior to that. A mental disorder isn't a death sentence for loneliness as long as you pull your weight where you can, but sometimes it's hard. I know.
You deserve to be loved, and being raped doesn't make you crazy. I face a lot of backlash myself for that (yes even the stuff that happened when I was a child). Most people just don't want to admit rape is a thing that happens, and it happens very frequently to both genders. You deserve to be loved and find someone who makes you happy, and it sounds like you're making a genuine effort. :)
I don't know if talking to someone is your cup of tea, but my correspondence email is songofthestray@gmail.com
Taylor in all fairness, Sex isn't an obligation you know, it's something for both people in a relationship to enjoy. Both. Not one but both.
Oh and holding a knife to someone's throat isn't a prerequisite for rape. You should probably also look at the website I mentioned above to educate yourself on how intimate partner violence can take place.

Gloria
March, 23 2017 at 1:38 pm

Bipolar people are unpredictable and often hurt many people with their actions. This is the part the bipolar person doesn't take any responsibility for and this is what gets to people
I have had my fair share of experience with the behavior of bipolar people and I don't care to have any contact in any way with anyone who is bipolar. They (collectively) are selfish, liars, manipulative, unpredictable, unreliable, evil at times, lack guilt and empathy and are of the believe the entire world is here to serve and wait on them and their needs.
What a horrible thing to be around. No good at all in this type of illness.

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Lauren Martin
August, 30 2017 at 6:25 pm

Wow well I'm sure the decent people with bipolar don't want to know a prejudiced, judgemental.

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Surnora
October, 3 2017 at 3:50 pm

I've had my share of trying to understand and deal with my ex- husband, Even while divorced. But the truth of the matter that their illness will emotionally and physically make you I'll dealing with them. They are truly liars, manipulaters,selfish, dangerous and all of the above. They will trap you in a world wind of he'll and misery. I wouldn't wish a relationship with a person with bipolar upon anyone. My own doctor advise me to abandon ties with him before it destroy me and that was the best advice any person could give me, Thank the Lord...and by the way council doesn't help them and the refuses to take their mental health meds... Mental health doctors try to make it seem as though this I lliness is manageable but truth is, it isn't manageable.

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guest
November, 12 2017 at 6:35 pm

I couldn't agree more.

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Taylor
November, 28 2017 at 6:39 pm

Absolutely agreed. My ex lied to her parents on a daily basis. I'm certain she lied to me on a regular basis. There was "that time" she was going to the club and ended up taking a shower to "wash her legs" and ended up in her friends sexy clothes and not at a strip club but at a club where cell phones are not allowed and "conveniently" forgot to wear our promise ring (which looked sort of like a wedding band) then didn't come home afterwards (as she had promised if she went to a club without me, I said go have your fun but just be sure to come home after because I know how it goes at clubs and I dont want my mind to race)... fill in the blanks.
She went off her meds because she didn't like them. Got depressed and was going to take them again but never got around to it, hit mania, and boom the crazy took over the house.
They say it is manageable, and it is, but they have to accept the "medicated them" and stop playing fire with triggering the mania. This is partly why bipolar people are attracted to cocaine; it triggers a mania in an instant and they can flush their lives down the toilet with drugs chasing that feeling. When they finally come down and the party is over they realize what destruction they have caused.
I have known a few bipolar women, some older than others, and they all have gone through the same phase at one point or another that finally got them to accept their condition and take their meds properly. The ones who didnt - well they are still manipulative lying idiots who do compulsive stupid things then try to hurt themselves.
Apparently Abillify injection 1000Mg delayed release works because there's no forgetting taking it and it lasts a month; albeit expensive. I would never date a bipolar woman again unless she was on that program. Too many variables.

Jessica
March, 13 2017 at 2:13 pm

Just wondering if the author of the opinion piece also feels the same way about people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder and Psychopaths? Or do you believe those mental illness's are different? Bipolar has been shown to effect both cognitive and emotional empathy towards others in a similar way and I don't think you can just skip over that.

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Natasha Tracy
March, 14 2017 at 3:58 am

Hi Jessica,
Each illness and each person is different. That is my point.
- Natasha Tracy

Laura
March, 4 2017 at 5:01 am

Brian and Mark are right on the money. I have dealt with bipolar in my mother throughout my childhood and now in my old age with a daughter. I can't run like hell but encourage all of you that are not bound by blood to get away from people with this disorder - they will only bring you down. And, yes, when they feel better it is like the slate is wiped clean and they forget the awful things they said and did to you and you are supposed to forget it too. So very tired of dealing with this disorder as a caregiver. Like I said...RUN LIKE HELL away from this unless you want to throw your life away. You CAN'T save them.

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Lauren Martin
August, 30 2017 at 6:28 pm

Martyrdom

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Surnora
October, 3 2017 at 4:02 pm

Laura, I agree with you " Its impossible"

Mark
March, 1 2017 at 5:07 am

Brian hit it on the head. If you are involved with a bipolar... run like hell, They never change nor will they ever apologize. I am so sick of hearing its not the disease,, Total bullshit..

brian
February, 10 2017 at 12:02 am

I see a lot of the comments are romoved because the author doesn't like the truth. BP can be very evil once the disorder is developed. Once that disorder sets in they change forever for the absoloute worst , I have family with mental illness and have notihgn against the mentally ill however BP people do evil things all them time its their choice and moderating the comments will not change that. If you are involved with one RUN AWAY ASAP or enjoy hell.

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Lauren Martin
August, 30 2017 at 6:31 pm

Bet you like Tony Blair and vote labour

Alexis
November, 14 2016 at 8:36 am

@Jackson I pity you, it's hard to believe you're an adult and not some kid in their mother's basement trolling.

Alexis
November, 14 2016 at 8:29 am

@Zoe Merchant You seem extremely ignorant, it's hard to believe you're an adult and not some kid in their mother's basement trolling for your information people who suffer from mental illness is more likely to be the victims of crime than the perpetrator. Read a book! Smh I pity you

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Angelina
June, 29 2017 at 9:13 pm

@alexis...YOU are the one to be pitied. You obviously have no clue regarding the criminal justice system. Instead of consulting your precious BOOKS, try talking to a criminal defense attorney - specifically a COURT APPOINTED defense attorney and become enlightened on the percentage of criminals who also have the comorbidity of mental illness. Then you may be able to develop an opinion based on fact. So stop your silly condescending remarks and become informed - or would that be too much trouble for you?

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Lauren Martin
August, 30 2017 at 6:34 pm

Do you know that 40 percent of convicted pedophiles are left handed. Maybe they should be lynched too

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guest
November, 14 2017 at 8:09 pm

You tell her, Ma'am!

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Barbara ann
December, 6 2021 at 12:02 am

For everyone who has had any kind of relationship with someone diagnosed with bi polar, it. can be beyond difficult. I am diagnosed with this hell of a disorder and have made many bad choices which I own up to. All I know is that I did not ask for this illness and I have done everything and I mean everything to get well. But, there is no cure. Just treatment., I cycle very fast and that is hard on me and those who have no idea of what I am talking about at times…nor do .I. My rapid thoughts just roll right from my brain out of my mouth. I do feel guilt. I just wish all the haters of this illness from hell would step inside my brain for one week and then, maybe you would not hate, but, you might find some compassion when you are living the hell yourself.

davelister
September, 17 2016 at 5:27 am

I met the woman of my dreams 3 years ago - seriously intelligent, funny, attractive, and quirky. On the first night we met, there were serious alarm bells ringing (she got very angry I would not sleep with her) but love goggles.... She was beautiful to me, I tried to ignore that.
3 years on, I'm still with her, and she's cycling into another angry / depressive / demanding / lazy state, which happens yearly. It will probably last a minimum of 3 months, and at the end of it, although she will be happier again, there will be no apologies or cares at all regarding how bad she has made me feel and how much I have literally done just to keep us both fed, in a flat that doesn't resemble a bomb site. She will do nothing to help during this time.
As much as I love her, I find it very, very hard to deal with the continuous drama bombs and stress that is no doubt going to happen, as they always have, for the next 1/3 of a year. It's a scary thought.
The reason I stay is she is not /always bad/, and I try to keep in mind that she's ill.
It's the total lack of guilt , that's what I'm not sure I can cope with again. When she is ill, visibly, I can deal with that. When she is feeling better, it is as if she thinks the slate is totally wiped clean and there is no damage to me. Not true. This is the last cycle I am going to put up with, and I'm hoping she is bad enough to me that there is nothing to do but leave.

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Angelina
July, 30 2017 at 11:50 am

You don't need this. Leave now before you are tied to this nightmare and you have children that will be forced to deal with her, too through no fault of their own. Think about THAT. You may have had the "love goggles" but future children will be saddled with a crazy women after you have gotten sick and tired of the situation and left. Is that fair?

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Surnora
October, 3 2017 at 4:18 pm

I agree, you should have left yesterday...

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Lauren Martin
August, 30 2017 at 6:37 pm

Man up and stop whining- it's your choice

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anon
May, 21 2019 at 4:06 am

shut up and take your damn advice!

Janine Blackburn
August, 18 2016 at 3:49 pm

I am married to someone for 12 years with schizo affective disorder.
I went out for 8 years previously with another person with bipolar disorder.
Both men are lovely people. The person I am am married too is more suited to me and I met him indirectly thought the aftermath of the break up- of the first relationship.
It is too easy to blame bad relationships on mental illness. I have a wonderful marriage and my previous relationship was not awful.

Jackson
July, 28 2016 at 4:37 pm

Evil!! Selfish people who have no impulse control, lie,cheat,rage,abusive,egotistical,self serving life destroyers. Not only do bp people want pity for their actions they want you to believe they can't control their actions, wrong!! They also think they are so intelligent, haha, intelligent people can control themselves. They lack empathy unless it's for themselves.They know right from wrong. Lock the life drainers up together and let them destroy each other. poor me, life is so hard on me, overgrown bipolar babies. It must be exhausting ruining normal people's lives!

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Lauren Martin
August, 30 2017 at 6:41 pm

Sounds like someone is bitter

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guest
January, 13 2018 at 9:18 am

Who cares?

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anon
May, 31 2018 at 9:58 pm

so what?

Vee
July, 21 2016 at 11:21 am

I have Aspergers, and attend a mental health group weekly that contains patients with various diagnosis. There is a woman patient with bi polar there who I am getting increasingly afraid of. I am scared of attending this lovely group, which helped me get over a depressive time, and was recommended to me by a mental health support worker.
The woman with bi polar is hostile and aggressive about other patients when they leave the room, tells mental health workers things about them behind their backs, and tells us fellow patients not to mention day trips to them, as she doesn't want them to come. All these things are said with the most aggressive, mean and explosive manner.
Now, as a newcomer to the group, I am being targeted by her. If I join in a conversation she glares at me really badly. She makes eye contact with others and rolls her eyes. If I place myself at a different table, she makes sure that her table is silent so that she can hear what I am saying.I feel scared and worried by her.
I cannot do anything other than not attend anymore, as she has put her self at the head of it, and I am low down in the pecking order. I cannot mention it to a mental health worker as she volunteers to help them, and knows them all, and is very friendly with them.
She is not superficially scary, she is scary deep down in her personality to the point where she controls everyone's views or she will put it across that certain patients, which will include me, are awful people.I am feeling really distressed over what I have witnessed her do. Reading others' views here, I think it is best if I stay away from her.

Tim
July, 3 2016 at 5:39 pm

I couldn't disagree with this more. Every bipolar person I've met has been a dangerous and despicable monster and I wish I lived under a government that had the courage to destroy them. I say 'destroy' because that is how you talk about monsters.

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Lauren Martin
August, 30 2017 at 6:46 pm

It's crazy to can be arrested for saying that about black people or muslims but perfectly acceptable to insult ginger people and those with a neurological condition. You need to educate yourself because you sound very ignorant. You will change your mind if one of your kids have the illness

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nawha
November, 11 2017 at 2:53 am

If one more bipolar person says educate yourself I'm gonna scream! Most people who deal with bipoles have at some point tried to read up on it you use that to try and make the other feel stupid typical bipole. Until you people sort your issues out you should just stay away from normal people! Just leave us alone isolate yourselves or become your own community And the author can delete this if she chooses but People don't start off hating they are made to hate I was an advocate I tried to help to overlook to be supportive but none of it mattered I tell everyone now to run and don't look back!

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anon
May, 22 2018 at 4:13 pm

i second that.

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Lockheedfarten
October, 22 2023 at 3:54 pm

Hold up pleeeeese. People with bipolar can be pain in the soul but demanding destruction for your past suffering usually inacts greater suffering over all. The brain is a complex organic computer and the knowledge of its chemistry is still limited. Many of the mental issues humans are plagued with are only just getting past phlebotomy treatment. I've been abused by someone who was sick and It did do a lot of damage to my life. (And she still dose even after the divorce) but I know that compation for them starts with understand that the person is not in control. Bound not by the chains of men or even their natural conviction; but through the hyper mania and depression of a chemical embalanceces. Its scary to think of... going through that your whole life, while trying to keep your loved ones..... until it all crashes down. That's why suicide is common for anyone with that kind of obstacle; and with no way of asking for help or anyone even seeing that they are not well I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy.

brian
June, 12 2016 at 2:32 pm

From my view of dealing with this monster of a woman, very self-centered, lazy, back-stabs, hateful, unfaithful, lies alot, ect.... YES, EVIL SEEMS TO SUM IT UP....

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guest
December, 5 2017 at 8:37 pm

You got that right.

Matt
June, 9 2016 at 11:04 pm

I personally have bipolar I disorder and have the long term manic episode flavor of it and haven't been manic in years but I find that a lot of the ones with symptoms of the cluster B personality disorders in particular and rapid cyclers are some of the most rotten and selfish people I have had the misfortune of knowing. When I was manic, I would think I was god or carry on about running for president etc and never really got dangerous until my last few. I thought I could fly at one point, adapt to breathing underwater at another and was paranoid for the last one, like schizophrenia paranoid and was more self dangerous.
That said, I am bisexual, which I note because socially, as a group, we see the world from a specific place and I dated a rapid cycling bipolar II person who I suspect also had a borderline personality and he beat me one day for every inch of my life and I will personally NEVER date a cluster B personality disordered person and would only a minority of bipolar disordered folks. Most people with "bipolar" in my experience has been a self centered, rotten person.

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guest
February, 12 2018 at 2:06 am

Anyone who haters bipolar folks are my kinds of people depending on who they are.

Kitkat34
April, 8 2016 at 6:55 pm

Unfortunately many people with bipolar do crazy and evil things because that is how their minds work. They make bad and horrendous choices because they WANT to. My mil is bipolar and she is the most horrendous selfish person you could ever meet. I found out after our wedding she tried to get my husband to leave me the night before the wedding because I was "taking away her son" and "not good enough". . She was just a sad excuse for a mother who wanted complete control over her son and he left her side for mine because I made his life a bright and happy place.
I also have two half brothers, one from each parent who are also both bipolar. One tried to murder me and my siblings one day in the car driving into town, the other tried to murder us individually, some in our sleep. The first took his own life, the second is now getting a sex change but still spreads disgusting lies to the rest of the family when he comes into contact with us.
I also deal with many people at my job that are mentally ill. The one. Thing I have learned from 90% of individuals who are bipolar! they are dangerous people. In their fits of rage and hatred think it's perfectly acceptable to harm and murder others and they TAKE glee in it. They are manipulative to TRY and get what they want out of others, and I will always find most of them to be twisted disgusting people who don't deserve to be around the rest of society. They choose not to take their proper medications and therapies and use drugs and alcohol instead thinking society owes them everything. Frankly I can't wait for a large mental institution to be opened again so they can all be locked away, they can't be trusted to take their meds regularly and routinely. They cannot be trusted not to harm others in one of their manic cycles.

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Kristen Neitz
May, 7 2017 at 11:24 pm

I DO NOT DO BAD OR HORRENDOUS THINGS BECAUSE I WANT TO. I wish I didn’t have this disorder but I have it and I have to try to deal with it. You don't understand how it feels to not be in control of your emotions. I take responsibility for my actions. I feel guilt, shame, and hate myself when I explode. I apologize profusely and try to fix the situation. You are lumping those with bipolar into one definition. You have no idea how it feels so how can you say that someone with bipolar doesn't take responsibility or lacks empathy. I sociopath lacks empathy and no where in the DSM-V does it say those with bipolar lack empathy. I am bipolar. ALL of my friends have made comments that I am the most empathetic person they know. I can here about someones bad day and I will feel their pain I can understand. I am not a liar. I am in no way selfish. I do everything in my power to put others ahead of me and make sure everyone I love is happy. You lack empathy. Why? because you lack the ability to understand how it feels to not be in control of your emotions. You lack the ability to understand what it is like to go from extreme depression to extreme energy and agitation. Bipolar isn't just about being explosive or getting angry. The main components to bipolar are CONSTANTLY dealing with cycling manic and depressive episodes. Do you know what it feels like to feel every happy emotion feeling and thought leave your body for WEEKS ON END. Do you know what it feels like to feel in despair but are so afraid to mention it to anyone because you are so terrified someone will call you SELFISH or UNPREDICTABLE. Would you say someone who is blind, or deaf, or that is a parplegic is a horrible THING to be around? NO. They are a human being. AND SO ARE PEOPLE WITH BIPOLAR. I am a human not a thing. I have feelings. So does everyone else. I may be bipolar but I take medication. It allows me to function normally. JUST LIKE YOU. You may not need medication to regulate your emotions, but I do. I am proud to say I am bipolar and sought out help. I am proud to say I have a fantastic doctor who treats me like a HUMAN and found a medication that could allow me to get my life back. My medication gave me back the control of my emotions. Think twice about being so judgemental to a disorder that you don't understand.

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Lauren Martin
August, 30 2017 at 6:56 pm

There are mainstream religions out there that are openly homophobic, yet no one except Trump will speak out against . But it's okay to generalise about the mentally ill. What's the difference? Prejudice is prejudice

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guest
December, 5 2017 at 8:37 pm

What makes you not prejudiced?

chris
March, 29 2016 at 2:33 pm

I was diagnosed with bipolar 1 also ptsd in 2010 after years of confusing episodes,highs and lows.Id like to point out that i have not been the victim of any childhood trauma or abuse.Also i am compliant with medication and recieve ongoing therapy.I came to this site for advice as have been having problems with certain members of my partner of 5 years family.Mainly acceptance of my condition,going as far as being abusive,terms such as "crazy prick" "nutter" etc also old classics like "man up" "its all in your head" etc...Now this may seem trivial to some (sticks n stones) but it has put my partner (who has been amazing since we met & we have two lovely daughters together) in a very awkward position.Im no more of an angel than any one else here,i have my ups n downs,be it bp related or not.I guess i just wondered if anyone else had experianced this or anything like it as has been very stressfull of late?

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Lauren Martin
August, 30 2017 at 6:59 pm

You should ignore the insensitive comments from others and enjoy your life. Sod them

ManAbusedbybipolarwife
March, 25 2016 at 3:38 am

The more I read about all these testimonials, you see, I am completely non-religious, but the term EVIL, to properly put that word into context, Bipolar, it an EVIL symptoms. Of course the person who is suffering it, I feel for then too, because I know that they are not in control once the psychosis takes over. But, my friend, I do not know that person. That's a completely different person, I have no link with that person, never met. The one that I know, and love was in talking in your body just before, how come suddenly you go outside, then, out of nowhere, we did not do anything, certainly did not want any arguments, or troubles, did not freaking open a mouth and said anything, she thinks that's I was thinking of something. I don't know what I was thinking of myself, how the heck did she know now? That's where I know, that I will have to buckle up, because the big wave is coming, she would go outside, and come back in, tell me how much she hates me. Just yesterday, I sat with her for hours, to listen to ask her problems, solved all, made her feel so good, happy and beautiful. The next morning, I'm being threatened, verbally abused, shout so that all neighbours hear what she thinks of me, in the state of psychosis and anger. You know, I somehow came across some scary horror movies these couple of years, in there, what is depicted is clearly a psychotic/ psychosis entranced person as being possesed by a evil spirit etc. I for being a complete believer in science, always never believed in those things, still don't. But, this is exactly what it seems like. It's a transformation, almost supernatural, or unnatural. And funny thing, the hospital where she was admitted, that shocked me. Crosses in every rooms, inside and outside the rooms, corridors, consulting rooms, dining. Your see what I mean? But there is more, that I need to investigate. And comment later.

ManAbusedbybipolarwife
March, 25 2016 at 3:16 am

Wow, I mean sometimes I just feels like giving up, but I have to hang on because of the 2 children that we have together, everything was good for 13 years, then had first baby, was very good happy, loving, caring family, 2 years later, 2nd baby, I don't know what the heck happened.
Everything turned upside down, I have a very long story on Quora where I explained everything in detail.
I was a very good caring husband, been together for so long, did so many things for her that not even her parents did, supported her everywhere possible, worked like a dog to support her in her education and everything, I don't understand how can an illness turn someone into so much trouble, and been causing me so much pain.
I used to be a very strong person, in just 2.5 years, now I feel like crying with no tears left. We started treatment immediately and never stopped, we even went overseas and I made sure in advanced to arrange for Psychiatrist to monitor her there as well regularly.
I like she lost the part of her mind that reasons and because a nasty person.
But the thing is, she is able to calculate somehow those calculative nastiness, because it is all executed so perfectly well, to harm me. She likes to humiliate me in public, so that I lose face, she would shout in the neighborhood, and lie etc.
Bipolar can be a very dangerous illness, no wonder why there are so much stigmas surrounding it.
The people who lives, work, care and love become the victim that is unnoticed.
I saw these testimonials here by accident, I kind of feel relieved, but at the same time sincerely feel for the people who needs to suffer those experiences.
There need to be a much better treatment system around these, and fast.
That's all I can say.

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