Child Sexual Abuse: What Parents Must Know

Find out about the impact of sexual abuse on a child and how parents can prevent child sexual abuse.

Child sexual abuse has been reported up to 80,000 times a year, but the number of unreported instances is far greater, because the children are afraid to tell anyone what has happened, and the legal procedure for validating an episode is difficult. The problem should be identified, the abuse stopped, and the child should receive professional help. The long-term emotional and psychological damage of sexual abuse can be devastating to the child.

Child sexual abuse can take place within the family, by a parent, step-parent, sibling or another relative; or outside the home, for example, by a friend, neighbor, child care person, teacher, or stranger. When sexual abuse has occurred, a child can develop a variety of distressing feelings, thoughts, and behaviors.

No child is psychologically prepared to cope with repeated sexual stimulation. Even a two or three year old, who cannot know the sexual activity is "wrong," will develop problems resulting from the inability to cope with the overstimulation.

The child of five or older who knows and cares for the abuser becomes trapped between affection or loyalty for the person, and the sense that the sexual activities are terribly wrong. If the child tries to break away from the sexual relationship, the abuser may threaten the child with violence or loss of love. When sexual abuse occurs within the family, the child may fear the anger, jealousy or shame of other family members, or be afraid the family will break up if the secret is told.

A child who is the victim of prolonged sexual abuse usually develops low self-esteem, a feeling of worthlessness and an abnormal or distorted view of sex. The child may become withdrawn and mistrustful of adults, and can become suicidal.

Some children who have been sexually abused have difficulty relating to others except on sexual terms. Some sexually abused children become child abusers or prostitutes or have other serious problems when they reach adulthood.

Often there are no obvious physical signs of child sexual abuse. Some signs can only be detected on physical exam by a physician.

Sexually abused children may develop the following:

  • unusual interest in or avoidance of all things of a sexual nature
  • sleep problems or nightmares
  • depression or withdrawal from friends or family
  • seductiveness
  • statements that their bodies are dirty or damaged, or fear that there is something wrong with them in the genital area
  • refusal to go to school
  • delinquency/conduct problems
  • secretiveness
  • aspects of sexual molestation in drawings, games, fantasies
  • unusual aggressiveness, or
  • suicidal behavior

Child sexual abusers can make the child extremely fearful of telling, and only when a special effort has helped the child to feel safe, can the child talk freely. If a child says that he or she has been molested, parents should try to remain calm and reassure the child that what happened was not their fault. Parents should seek a medical examination and psychiatric consultation.

Parents can prevent or lessen the chance of sexual abuse by:

  • Telling children that "if someone tries to touch your body and do things that make you feel funny, say NO to that person and tell me right away"
  • Teaching children that respect does not mean blind obedience to adults and to authority, for example, don't tell children to, "Always do everything the teacher or baby-sitter tells you to do"
  • Encouraging professional prevention programs in the local school system

Sexually abused children and their families need immediate professional evaluation and treatment. Child and adolescent psychiatrists can help abused children regain a sense of self-esteem, cope with feelings of guilt about the abuse, and begin the process of overcoming the trauma. Such treatment can help reduce the risk that the child will develop serious problems as an adult.

Sources:

  • All Family Resources
  • American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry (Facts for Families, No. 9; Updated November 2014)

APA Reference
Peterson, T. (2022, January 11). Child Sexual Abuse: What Parents Must Know, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2025, May 11 from https://www.healthyplace.com/parenting/abuse/child-sexual-abuse

Last Updated: January 16, 2022

Teen Suicide: Feel Suicidal? What Now?

Thinking about teen suicide is not unusual at one point or another. According to the American Association of Suicidology, in 2011, 15.8% of high school students had seriously considered suicide in the last 12 months.

Suicide in teens absolutely has to be taken seriously, as suicide was the second leading cause of death in young people (15-24-year-olds) in that same year. A teen might feel suicidal because of events at school, like bullying or low grades, problems at home such as a divorce or a negative relationship with a parent, or personal problems such as a relationship breakup. Being lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender is another risk factor for suicidal feelings. Teen suicides may also be related to cases of teen mental illness such as depression, anxiety, an eating disorder, bipolar disorder or others.

Even though feeling suicidal can seem overwhelming, there is hope and there are resources you can turn to no matter what might be happening in your life.

If you're thinking of suicide, call The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 immediately. Professionals are available to speak with you 24 hours a day, seven days a week.

Teen Suicide Feelings

Teen suicide is a scary thing and it can bring about feelings of helplessness, hopelessness, rage, feeling trapped or even feeling like a burden to others. On top of this, a teen may also be dealing with feelings of depression or anxiety that are related to an accompanying mental illness. These feelings can be very painful and frightening. Teens may turn to drugs and alcohol to deal with these feelings.

What to Do about Teen Suicidal Feelings

The important thing to do if you're feeling suicidal and you're a teen is to tell an adult. This might be a parent, a doctor, a teacher or a school counselor. All of those people are there for you and want to help. And remember, if the first person you talk to doesn't get you the help you need, keep telling, until you do get help because you do not have to live with painful teen suicide feelings. They can, and do, get better.

Suicidal teens might be helped by therapy, psychiatric evaluation, and treatment or even an inpatient program for more severe cases.

While you are getting this professional help, you can also help yourself by gaining the support of family and friends wherever possible and educating yourself about your situation. You may want to visit websites like:

  • You Matter – a website that talks about the tough issues that teens may be facing and works to prevent suicide.
  • The Trevor Project – an organization dedicated to preventing suicide in lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning youth. They also provide a chat service and a hotline available 24 hours a day, seven days a week at 1-866-488=7386.
  • Mindyourmind – a website dedicated to educating teens about mental health and promoting good mental health in teens.

APA Reference
Tracy, N. (2022, January 11). Teen Suicide: Feel Suicidal? What Now?, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2025, May 11 from https://www.healthyplace.com/suicide/teen-suicide-feel-suicidal-what-now

Last Updated: January 16, 2022

Disciplining a Child with Reactive Attachment Disorder

Disciplining a child with reactive attachment disorder, RAD, can be hard. Discover discipline’s purpose and get helpful tips on HealthyPlace.

Disciplining a child with reactive attachment disorder (RAD) requires understanding, perspective, and patience. While this applies to disciplining any child, it is especially important for kids with RAD. These children were so severely neglected as infants or toddlers that they never formed a bond with a parent or caregiver. Lack of attachment to a loving adult is damaging. When disciplining a child with reactive attachment disorder, the emotional, social, and behavioral deficits are particularly clear. Helping a child with RAD learn rules and behavior skills is challenging and often exhausting, but armed with the right information, you can do just that.

A child with RAD is difficult because of the lessons they were forced to learn as babies. When a very young child learns though their experiences that they can’t count on their caregivers for security and safety, they withdraw into themselves for self-protection. They are unable to trust. They can’t bond with anyone. They form the belief that people are unreliable and the world is cruel and unsafe. For this reason, when you discipline a RAD child, you need understanding, perspective, and patience.

See: Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) Symptoms

 Here’s a look at how to discipline as child with reactive attachment disorder.

How to Discipline A Child with Reactive Attachment Disorder

What is Most Important?

Looking beyond the misbehavior to understand its purpose will allow you to discipline in a RAD-friendly manner. These children misbehave because they’re dominated by fear and insecurity and they don’t know how to deal with their feelings—and they don’t know how to reach out or ask for help. Your purpose in disciplining your child is to help them feel safe and secure.

 The overarching themes of disciplining children with RAD are trust, connection/bonding/attachment, and love. Without a sense of safety, though, the other purposes of discipline can’t be met; further, your child can’t care about bonding and love until they feel they can trust you. Ways to meet your child’s needs for safety include:

  • Setting limits and boundaries to make your child’s world more predictable and less scary
  • Creating reliable routines so your child feels more in control
  • Be straightforward and clear in what you expect of your child, the behavior that is unacceptable, and the consequences for misbehavior

As a parent or caregiver of a child with RAD, safety, security, trust, clarity, and predictability are your guiding stars. When you discipline from this perspective, your emotions and interactions will help you stay steady as you discipline your child with reactive attachment disorder.

Discipline Tips to Use When Teaching A Child with RAD

Children with RAD require a discipline approach tailored to their unique needs and effects of their lack of attachment to a caregiver. These tips and strategies will help you discipline your child while minimizing emotional reactions.

  • Remain calm in your interaction. Becoming emotional (yelling, having angry expressions and posture, etc.) will make your child feel insecure, unsafe, and unable to trust you.
  • Begin a fresh start after disciplining. It builds trust and a sense of safety and shows your child that you’ll always be there, no matter what.
  • Maintain limits firmly but gently.
  • Use natural consequences. If, for example, your child refuses to take their lunch to school, they can eat the school lunch or be hungry until dinner time.
  • All consequences given should fit the present moment. Consequences that extend for days are ineffective and can make kids with RAD think they’re being “punished” forever; consequently, they are likely to withdraw and destroy the trust you’ve been building.

Guided by these principles, you’ll be able to establish your limits and consequences for positive discipline. Additionally, there are important discipline don’ts when working with children with RAD.

To Discipline a Child with Reactive Attachment Disorder, Avoid Doing These Things

The following parent behaviors don’t work on kids with reactive attachment disorder. They can make your child’s behaviors and emotions worse because they undermine safety, security, and trust.

To help your child with RAD, avoid these discipline behaviors:

  • Yelling
  • Lecturing
  • Reasoning
  • Negotiating
  • Multiple warnings or reminders
  • Bribing or begging
  • Losing control
  • Becoming emotional
  • Get tangled in a power struggle (kids with RAD need control and will often stop at nothing to get it)
  • Believing their excuses and backing down (children with RAD are notorious liars, usually out of self-protection)

Because of what they’ve been through and the crucial attachment window they missed, kids with RAD have a very self-protective approach to their lives. Keeping their experiences and needs at the forefront will help you provide the discipline and guidance your child needs in a way that works for both of you.

Simple insight for how to discipline your child with reactive attachment disorder: Breathe deeply, and keep in mind that behind their behavior is a need for safety, trust, and security.

article references

APA Reference
Peterson, T. (2022, January 11). Disciplining a Child with Reactive Attachment Disorder, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2025, May 11 from https://www.healthyplace.com/parenting/discipline/disciplining-a-child-with-reactive-attachment-disorder

Last Updated: January 16, 2022

Suicide Article References

Teen Suicide: Feel Suicidal? What Now?

AAS 2011 Youth Suicidal Behavior Fact Sheet, American Association of Suicidology: http://www.suicidology.org/Portals/14/docs/Resources/FactSheets/2011/YouthSuicidalBehavior2014.1.pdf
Warning Signs, You Matter: http://www.youmatter.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/get-help/warning-signs/

Where Can Suicidal Teens Turn for Help?

AAS 2011 Youth Suicidal Behavior Fact Sheet, American Association of Suicidology: http://www.suicidology.org/Portals/14/docs/Resources/FactSheets/2011/YouthSuicidalBehavior2014.1.pdf

Is Turning to Social Media for Teen Suicide Help A Good Idea?

Can Social Media Help Prevent Suicide, Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-hope-preventing-suicide/200904/can-social-media-help-prevent-suicide

For Teens Dealing with Thoughts of Suicide

Warning Signs, You Matter: http://www.youmatter.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/get-help/warning-signs/

Teen Suicide Stories: You Don’t Have to Become One

Personal Stories, Suicide Awareness Voices of Education: http://www.save.org/index.cfm?fuseaction=home.viewPage&page_id=EBC94492-7E90-9BD4-CFD0E103C4B5067B

Teen Suicide Warning Signs: What Parents Should Look For

Warning Signs, You Matter: http://www.youmatter.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/get-help/warning-signs/
AAS 2011 Youth Suicidal Behavior Fact Sheet, American Association of Suicidology: http://www.suicidology.org/Portals/14/docs/Resources/FactSheets/2011/YouthSuicidalBehavior2014.1.pdf

What To Do If Your Teen May Attempt Suicide

What to Do If You’re Worried About Suicide, Child Mind Institute http://www.childmind.org/en/posts/articles/2013-11-12-what-do-when-worried-about-suicide

Why Do Teens Commit Suicide? Causes of Teen Suicide

Suicide, TeensHealth: http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/mental_health/suicide.html#

Bullying, Cyberbullying and Teen Suicide

Bullying Suicide Statistics, NoBullying.com: http://nobullying.com/bullying-suicide-statistics/
The Link Between Bullying and Suicide: What We Know and What It Means for Schools, National Center for Injury Prevention and Control: http://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/pdf/bullying-suicide-translation-final-a.pdf
What is Cyberbullying, NoBullying.com: http://nobullying.com/six-unforgettable-cyber-bullying-cases/

Teen Suicide Prevention

Teen Suicide is Preventable, American Psychological Association: http://www.apa.org/research/action/suicide.aspx

For Teens: Dealing with a Parent’s Suicide

“Both of My Parent’s Committed Suicide,” Redbook: http://www.redbookmag.com/life/friends-family/a1715/parents-suicide-yl/
My Story, Suicide Awareness Voice of Education: http://www.save.org/index.cfm?fuseaction=home.viewPage&page_id=84B187C2-D156-503D-6B56FA19D6126E5B&previewMode=true
When a Parent Dies by Suicide . . . What Kids Want to Know, Center for Addiction and Mental Health: http://www.camh.ca/en/hospital/health_information/for_children_youth/Pages/when_parent_suicide.aspx
When a Parent Commits Suicide: A Psychiatrist’s Advice, The Daily Beast: http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2012/05/18/when-a-parent-commits-suicide-a-psychiatrist-s-advice.html

Gay Teen Suicide: Risk Factors, Statistics, Where to Get Help

Facts About Suicide, The Trevor Project: http://www.thetrevorproject.org/pages/facts-about-suicide

Teen Suicide Rates, Statistics, and Facts

AAS 2011 Youth Suicidal Behavior Fact Sheet, American Association of Suicidology: http://www.suicidology.org/Portals/14/docs/Resources/FactSheets/2011/YouthSuicidalBehavior2014.1.pdf
Facts About Suicide, The Trevor Project: http://www.thetrevorproject.org/pages/facts-about-suicide
Facts and Figures, American Foundation for Suicide Prevention: https://www.afsp.org/understanding-suicide/facts-and-figures

APA Reference
, R. (2022, January 11). Suicide Article References, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2025, May 11 from https://www.healthyplace.com/suicide/suicide-reference

Last Updated: January 16, 2022

What Is Co-Parenting?

Co-parenting is raising your kids as a team after a divorce. Learn a co-parenting definition, benefits and difficulties on HealthyPlace.

Co-parenting is an intentional, well-planned agreement between two parents who no longer live together in order to provide their children with consistent love, stability, and security. Co-parenting can happen after a couple separates or divorces. Both parties agree to put the wellbeing of their children above all else, including their own discord. Essentially, co-parenting involves divorced parents working as a team to raise happy, healthy kids. Let’s look further into co-parenting: what it is as well as pros and cons.

The Heart of Co-Parenting

After a divorce, a couple can choose to co-parent their children. Despite the feelings and circumstances that led to their divorce, parents come together to unite as a team in order to positively raise their children. Co-parenting means that kids are left completely out of differences and disputes between their parents.

In such an arrangement, kids can have an equal relationship with both parents. Living arrangements are stable and created to allow both parents to be with their children equally (or close to equally).

Mothers and fathers who co-parent mutually agree upon discipline methods, and they each promise to follow the plan they established. Done well, co-parenting provides children with a stable routine, peaceful environments, and an opportunity to thrive as they grow. This is perhaps the best co-parenting definition of all.

Benefits of Co-Parenting

Co-parenting is an arrangement made and followed for the benefit of the former couple’s children. Kids drive the decision and the details of the arrangements, but the adults benefit as well. Because co-parenting requires healthy, open communication, as well as parents keeping their own emotions out of the arrangement and their parenting, moms and dads, grow, too. They learn that they can have differences but still show respect. Too, they learn to put their differences aside for a greater purpose—the wellbeing of their kids.

Kids do indeed thrive in an open, civil co-parenting situation. The many benefits for kids who are raised by two separated parents who act as unified parents include:

  • Reduced likelihood of developing mental health problems like anxiety, depression, and self-esteem issues (Calleia, 2014)
  • The ability to bond with both parents and have a strong relationship with each without feeling guilt, stress, or anxiety
  • Stability, security, and routine thanks to parents who planned carefully and facilitate smooth transitions between homes
  • The opportunity to see healthy communication and problem-solving modeled, important life skills
  • The opportunity to grow up with more cooperation than conflict

There are indeed multiple benefits for kids when their divorced parents cooperate and co-parent. This does not mean, though, that co-parenting is easy or smooth.

Difficulties of Co-Parenting

In establishing co-parenting arrangements, two divorced parents who have decided that they can’t maintain a loving relationship and that they might not even like each other anymore must put differences aside and create a parenting plan that is good for their kids. Given the rocky nature of this adult relationship, deciding to co-parent presents challenges.

Co-parenting requires open communication, patience, and understanding. These are not traits that typically characterize divorced parents. Therefore, the challenges of co-parenting involve:

  • Communicating regularly and positively with someone you don’t like, and doing it civilly.
  • Dealing with problems caused when one parent criticizes the other in front of the kids
  • Negative emotions getting in the way of your interactions with your ex-spouse
  • High degrees of stress over co-parenting with the person who hurt you or whom you hurt
  • Despite agreeing on and following a parenting plan, both parents have different parenting styles and parenting goals—irksome to the parents and confusing and possibly damaging to your children

These are inherent difficulties in a co-parenting arrangement. You don’t have to give up co-parenting, however. You can make your arrangement, and your ex-partner, easier to deal with.

Pulling Co-Parenting Off: A Business Arrangement

When you and your co-parent approach each other like business partners, it becomes easier to put emotions aside and communicate, arrange, and regularly discuss how your kids are doing. Business partners behave in certain ways to be successful. They:

  • Engage in civil, productive communication
  • Hold meetings to discuss progress, problems, and successes
  • Don’t criticize each other to their coworkers
  • Are organized and use a shared communication and scheduling program
  • Work toward a common goal

Business partners have a purpose, and they put differences aside for the sake of fulfilling their purpose. For co-parents, this purpose is their kids. Parenting after divorce is hard, but when moms and dads have their kids’ best interests at heart and decide to share parenting to provide their kids with comfort, stability, and unconditional love, they raise kids who are emotionally healthy and can thrive as children, adolescents, and adults.

See Also:

article references

APA Reference
Peterson, T. (2022, January 11). What Is Co-Parenting?, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2025, May 11 from https://www.healthyplace.com/parenting/co-parenting/what-is-co-parenting

Last Updated: January 16, 2022

Guide to Treatment for Children With Mental Health Needs

How and where do you get help for your child's psychological disorder? Detailed information here.

Table of Contents

 

Why Read This Guide?

You may have decided to read this guide because you are concerned that your child needs help getting along with others, controlling his or her behavior, or expressing emotions. Depending on your child's needs and your family's situation, you might look for help from schools, health clinics or hospitals, health insurance providers, community mental health centers, social service programs, and, possibly, the courts. When different agencies work together and include you and your family as a team, this is the beginning of developing a system of care.

Working with several different providers can be confusing, even overwhelming unless they partner with you as a team to focus on your goals, strengths, and needs. In a system of care, each family defines its own strengths, the things it wants to change, and the kinds of help and support needed to reach the family's goals.

Families who have received help from systems of care participated with the Federation of Families for Children's Mental Health in creating this guide. In seeking appropriate care for their children, family members reported having felt overwhelmed, alone, intimidated, or even blamed. They found strength by sharing their experiences with other families. They have used their experiences to help develop this guide. This guide can help you figure out:

  • What you need to know;
  • What questions to ask;
  • What you can expect; and
  • What you can do.

Some words in this guide are printed in italics; these words are defined in the Glossary (page 21).

The words "you" and "your" in this guide refer to family members and others who are raising a child with a behavioral or emotional disturbance.

Finding Services for Your Child

Get help early. If you have concerns about your child's behavior or emotions, tell your doctors, teachers, counselors, social workers, spiritual advisers, friends, and relatives who know about child and adolescent development and mental health. Ask for their help to find out what the problem is and where to get services.

Explore all options available to meet your child's and family's needs. Check your library, the health department, and the social service section of the telephone book for places that might offer the kinds of help you are looking for. A large amount of information can be found on the Internet. Many family-run organizations have resource centers and advocates or mentors who know about available services and whether a system of care is being developed in your community.

What you need to know

You are the expert when it comes to your child. You know your child better than anyone else. You know:

  • How your child responds to different situations;
  • Your child's strengths and needs;
  • What your child likes and dislikes;
  • What has worked to help your child; and
  • What has not worked.

You are the person who decides what services and supports your child and family will receive.

Include your child in the decisionmaking process. Your child needs to understand what is going on in order to actively participate in his or her care.

Every child is different, yet there are children similar to yours. You are not alone. Other families have faced similar problems, shared the same experiences, and are willing to help you.

What to ask

  • What do I need to know and to do to help my child?
  • What agencies in the community have programs or services that can help my child and other members of my family? How do I get services from them?
  • How will my child's health, growth and development, social interaction, and ability to learn be affected by the problems we face?
  • What has helped other children like mine?

What you can expect

  • You will hear and learn many new words and technical terms. Ask for definitions and explanations.
  • Because systems of care are youth-guided and family-driven, your entire family may be asked to participate in the services you are offered.
  • There may be waiting lists for some services. Find out how to get some help while you are waiting for a particular service.

What you can do

Gather all the information you have about your child. Keep track of everything and start a notebook or file to organize:

  • Reports of tests and evaluations;
  • Service plans and information about the providers, programs, and services you are using;
  • Instructions from doctors, teachers, social workers, and others working with your child and family;
  • Changes in your child's behavior;
  • Medications—note dates that medications are prescribed and changed, and any differences in your child's physical and/or mental health;
  • Appointments, conversations, and meetings, including notes of what was discussed;
  • Requests you have made for supports such as child care, transportation, and flexibility in scheduling appointments; and
  • Letters about meetings and services—note the date they were received.

Ask for information and written materials in the language you speak and ask for explanations of anything you don't understand.

Find other parents or family-run organizations where you can get information and support by sharing ideas and experiences.

Preparing for the First Visit

The first step to getting involved with the system of care usually is called an initial referral or intake. This is when you and the staff of the program or service find out about each other. This first visit may be at your home, at your child's school, or at an agency office. This meeting could last a while—maybe as long as 2 hours.

What you need to know

  • Most programs and services have eligibility criteria.
  • You may be asked to bring your child to the first visit.
  • Someone may want to talk with your child alone. Do not agree to this before both you and your child feel comfortable and have agreed to participate in the program.
  • Most programs have a handbook that explains how they do their work. The intake worker should give you one.
  • People who work in systems of care really do want to help your child and family. They will encourage you to speak up and ask questions on behalf of your child and family.

What to ask

  • What services and supports are available, and when and where can my child and family get them?
  • How is eligibility for services determined?
  • How much do services cost and where can I get help to pay for them?
  • Who will watch my children while I complete the paperwork and go to meetings?
  • How often will my child and family get services and how long can we continue?
  • How do I get help if there is a crisis, especially at night or on the weekend, when the office is closed?
  • How do I find respite care and other support to help me care for my child at home?

What you can do

Schedule the first visit at your (and your child's) convenience.

Bring:

  • Someone you trust with you (for example, a parent advocate) to the first visit, and to any meetings later on;
  • Your folder or notebook of information and some identification, such as driver's license, social security number, or birth certificate; and
  • Proof of medical insurance, a Medicaid card, or evidence of your need for financial assistance (such as a pay stub or rent receipt).

Answer questions honestly and give accurate information about your child's strengths and needs.

Remember that there is no such thing as a "dumb" or "foolish" question.

Request information, and ask anything you want to know more about or do not understand.

Write down your questions before you go to the meeting.

Write down the answers to your questions and the names and phone numbers of people you want to get in touch with, and of those who will be working with your child and family.

Get a brochure or write down information about the agency's services, fees, payment options, procedures, and appeal process.

Request a written explanation if you are told that your child and family are not eligible for services.

Do your own homework. Get another opinion, and ask for a referral to another service or program that could help you.

What you can expect

You will be asked many questions about your child and family. The intake worker will want to know things such as:

  • What things your child does well;
  • What you think the problems are, and how they affect your family;
  • What you want help with;
  • What kind of insurance you have or how the services will be paid for; and
  • Who or what has been helpful in the past.

You will be asked to sign many forms such as:

  • Permission for your child to be tested;
  • Permission to gather or release information; and
  • Agreement to accept and pay for services.

It's okay if you feel tired and a bit stressed when the first visit is over.

Set a date to meet with your service planning team.

Partnering With Service Providers

Your child and family will be working with individual service providers and a service planning team. Building partnerships among families, individual providers, and service planning teams is hard work. Everyone has to be courteous and honest to gain the respect and confidence of others.

You are the customer and the client. Tell your service planning team and service providers what services and supports you need. Be clear about your family's strengths, your needs, and what you think will help your child and family the most.

What you need to know

You and your system of care service planning team will work together to write a service plan specifically designed for your child and family, including:

  • Goals to achieve;
  • Services and supports provided as close to home as possible;
  • Services and supports that match your family's lifestyle and culture; and
  • Regular progress reports and an ongoing communication plan for the service providing team.

A service coordinator or case manager can help organize services so they are easy for you to use, and can help provide your family with guidance and support. In some systems of care, you can be your family's service coordinator.

All providers may not agree or recommend the same services and supports for you and your family. You can disagree with a provider, get a second opinion, or reject a service provider's advice.

Providers and services that are considerate and respectful of your family's language, spiritual beliefs, and cultural values must be accessible to you.

What to ask

  • How will the services and supports in the plan help my child and family?
  • What are the service provider's qualifications? Does he or she have special training and a track record of working with children and families like mine?
  • Can I call service providers at any time of the day or night if there is a crisis?
  • How do I change services or providers if things aren't working out as planned?

What you can expect

  • You have the opportunity to speak up, be listened to with respect, and not be judged.
  • Most service providers will talk to you and your child in a clear, courteous, respectful, and sensitive manner in the language you use at home. Ask for an interpreter if you need one—do not let your children translate for you.
  • Service providers who work with your child may have a different view of your child and family from yours. Carefully consider the evidence for what they are saying before reacting. Most service providers are just as eager to see progress as you are.
  • Insist that service providers meet when and where your child and family feel comfortable.
  • Service providers may ask for your feedback and suggestions. Be honest when you reply.
  • Most service providers will help you advocate for the services and supports that will help your child and family achieve goals that you set.
  • You may be asked to sign something that says you agree to the service plan and are accepting the services offered. You can refuse to sign if you do not agree with the plan. Ask for a copy of the service plan if it is not given to you.

What you can do

Pick your service planning team members carefully, and be an active participant on the team. Choose people who:

  • Respect and trust you;
  • Know your child and family and have been supportive;
  • Have a track record of success managing the kinds of problems you are facing; and
  • Know about services in the community.

Share the future you envision for your child and explain how others can help achieve it.

Let service providers know your child's and family's strengths, needs, wants, and expectations, and tell them about your family's preferences and priorities. You could talk with someone you trust before the meeting so you are confident about what you say.

Write down short- and long-term goals for your child and family, and watch for progress toward these goals.

Tell your service coordinator or case manager as soon as you realize that some part of the plan isn't working as you expected. Get your service planning team together again to make changes.

Rights and Responsibilities

In a system of care, your child and family have specific rights and responsibilities. Other families, as well as advocates and providers, can tell you about these and can help you understand how and when to use them. Become a strong advocate for your child and family. Exercise your rights.

What you need to know

  • Discrimination in the provision of services on the basis of race, religion, ethnicity, gender, religion, age, or disability is illegal.
  • If your child is being evaluated for special education, you have special rights and responsibilities. Ask the school to tell you about them and get a copy of them in writing.
  • You can choose service providers who respect and value your language, culture, and spiritual beliefs.
  • Services and supports need to be provided in your community, so your child and family can be involved with others from your neighborhood.
  • You can refuse any service offered to you without being penalized. Get help from family advocates if you are penalized for making a legitimate complaint or refusing services that you believe could harm your child or family.
  • Responsible providers will notify you before they change or stop providing any service. Ask for written notice and explanation of the change if you are not given one.

What to ask

  • How do I review and get copies of my child's and family's records?
  • How is my child's and family's privacy protected, and who has access to confidential records?
  • How do I get help exercising my rights—especially if I want to file a complaint?

What you can expect

  • Schools and agencies will give you a guide that explains all of your rights. The guide should be in the language you understand best, or a professional or advocate who speaks your language can interpret and explain it to you.
  • You will be told details of what confidential information will be disclosed to others and under what circumstances. Make sure you review the information before giving permission for anything to be released to another school, provider, or agency.
  • You can exercise any and all of your rights without punishment in any form. If you experience otherwise, seek help from an organized advocacy group or family-run organization.
  • Expect to be treated with courtesy, consideration, and respect. See the resource list in this guide (p. 24) to assist in identifying a family-run support organization.

What you can do

  • Get to know and understand your rights and all the terms or conditions that apply to the services your child and family are using.
  • Read everything carefully. Be sure that you understand and really do agree with anything that you are given before you sign it.
    • Remember that although you may be under a great deal of stress, you are your child's best advocate. Clearly, you should listen to the advice of others on your service planning team who know something about your child's needs. Ultimately, you must decide what help is needed, where you want to go for it, and when and how often you need to have a service.
    • Take control of the flow of information about your child and family. Carefully consider what reports go to which person, agency, school, and so forth. Think about this before you sign permission for information to be collected or given out.
  • Resolve disputes promptly. If you disagree with a decision, speak first to the person most immediately involved. If that doesn't solve the problem, speak to your service coordinator or the provider's supervisor before you file a complaint.
  • Request help from advocates who know the rules, understand the system of care, and have experience with the providers who are working with you and your family.

Glossary

Appeal process: These are the steps you must follow to get a decision about services reviewed and changed. Usually this process involves proving why the decision was wrong or how it will harm your child and family. Often, you can appeal to a higher level if the first appeal does not get the result you want. You should be given information about the appeal process when you first start getting services. You should learn how to make an appeal and how to get help doing so.

Eligibility criteria: These are the admission criteria or the basis on which children and families are allowed to get services from an agency or program. These criteria usually include age, disability, and income. They also can include where you live, whether your child is male or female, what kind of medical insurance you have, or what other kinds of problems your family is managing.

Family-driven: A family-driven system of care gives priority to family and youth voices in making decisions. Family-driven systems of care actively demonstrate their partnerships with all families and youth by sharing power, resources, authority, and control with them. Family-driven systems of care ensure that families and youth have access to sound professional expertise so they have good information on which to base the choices they make.

Initial referral or Intake: This is the process an agency or program uses first to find out about your child and family, and to determine your eligibility for services.

Parent advocate: This is an individual who has been trained to help other families get the kinds of services and supports they need and want. Parent advocates usually are family members who have raised a child with a behavioral or emotional problem and have worked with the system of care and many of the agencies and providers in your community.

Respite care: This is a service that gives your family a short break—relief—when someone else temporarily takes care of your child for a few hours or a few days. Respite care can be provided in your home, at the respite care provider's home, or at a special respite care facility.

Service coordinator or Case manager: This is an individual who keeps track of the services and supports your child and family are receiving, and makes sure that they are working together in a manner that is easy for your child and family to use.

Service plan: This is a written document that lists and describes all the services and supports your child and family will receive. Typically, service plans also include information about your child's and family's strengths, problems, and needs. Good service plans spell out what the services and supports are designed to accomplish, as well as how and when progress will be assessed. If your child is receiving special education, the service plan is called an individualized education program or IEP. A Federal law, the Individuals With Disabilities Education Act (usually called IDEA), describes who is eligible for special education and exactly what must be in an IEP. Another legal document, called a 504 Plan, provides accommodations for students who are not in special education classes but may have special physical or mental health needs.

Service planning team: This is the group of individuals you select to help develop your child's service plan. You choose the family members, professionals, friends, experts, and support people who will be team members. The team meets when it is convenient for you and as often as necessary to make sure your child and family are getting the help you want and need.

Strengths: These are the positive characteristics of your child and family. No matter how challenging children's mental health needs are, they have things they do well, people they like, and activities they enjoy.

System of care: This a coordinated network of agencies and providers that make a full range of mental health and other necessary services available as needed by children with mental health problems and their families. The values and principles of systems of care are printed in this guide.

APA Reference
Staff, H. (2022, January 11). Guide to Treatment for Children With Mental Health Needs, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2025, May 11 from https://www.healthyplace.com/parenting/child-mental-health/treatment-for-children-with-mental-health-needs

Last Updated: January 17, 2022

Develop Your Parenting Philosophy: Strategies That Make You Great

A parenting philosophy is a valuable tool to help you parent your kids. Learn what it is and how to develop one? Read this on HealthyPlace.

Is developing a parenting philosophy necessary, or is it just another trend that complicates family life beyond what it needs to be? Is it helpful or hype? These are legitimate questions. Let this discussion help you determine your answers. You just might find that you’re ready to create and embrace a parenting philosophy.

What Is a Parenting Philosophy and What Is the Purpose of One?

Parenting philosophies are principles that let you remember and act on your beliefs about how you think kids should be parented. These principles form a belief system that you use to select parenting strategies that work for you.

Parenting is full of challenges, difficulties, and ups and downs. Having a philosophy helps you stay on track and parent your kids well despite these stressors. Parental belief systems aren’t end-goals for what you want your kids (or you as their parent) to achieve. Instead, you can use your philosophy to remain true to your own principles. Many people seem to want to have input into your life with your kids. You, though, are the one who knows what’s best for your kids. Rely on the beliefs you’ve developed to pick and choose the input you accept ("Dealing with Parenting Advice You Don’t Want or Need To Hear").

Parenting philosophies can infuse your parenting with purpose. They can:

  • Guide your choices and interactions
  • Act as a set of directives that shape your decisions, rules, and policies
  • Describe your role as your children’s parent
  • Make the task of parenting meaningful
  • Help you choose the right parenting strategies that suit you and your kids

A parenting philosophy is a framework. It provides the “why” for how you parent. This “why” fuels your “how,” which is the parenting strategies you use.

Having this framework for your life with your kids is useful, but it’s only as beneficial as the actions it inspires. Let’s take a look at how to develop your philosophy for parenting.

Create Your Custom Parenting Philosophy

To home in on what is important to you as your children’s parent, you might begin with a single word or small collection of words. Think of it as a title that sets up the rest of the statement. For example:

  • How do you want your kids to describe you now and when they’re adults?
  • When it comes to discipline, what word can describe and shape your approach?
  • What is one of the most important values you have in being your children’s parent?

Expand on your word or group of words by creating mission statements. These are excellent reminders of what is important to you and how you want to be with your children. Such statements are simple sentences defining your values and beliefs. Some examples include:

  • Kids aren’t miniature adults and are still learning. My expectations of them will be age-appropriate.
  • My kids’ health, mental health, and wellbeing are at the heart of my words and actions.
  • It’s important that my kids become motivated, resilient, and compassionate adults. My decisions will support this.

You can create as many or as few mission statements as you desire. A guideline for how many to have is to find a balance between too few and too many. If you have too few, you might discover that they don’t contribute to a detailed parenting philosophy; however, too many will likely become overwhelming and complex, creating the risk that you’ll abandon the idea.

When you feel satisfied with your “why,” your reason for doing what you do, you can add parenting strategies that become the “how,” the actions you take to make your parenting philosophy work for your family. For example, your parenting style and methods could include strategies like these:

  • Showing your kids love and affection every day
  • Encouraging your kids’ autonomy and independence
  • Fostering a love of learning by being involved in your children’s education
  • Modeling life skills including nurturance, financial responsibility, motivation, emotional health
  • Building relationship skills for social health

Of course, you’ll have specific activities you want to use to accomplish these and other parenting strategies and methods. One of the strengths of a parenting philosophy is that it’s uniquely yours, befitting your family and circumstances.

A Limit and a Strength of a Parenting Philosophy

These philosophies are outstanding guides, but they don’t guarantee that you won’t make mistakes or that your kids will be perfect or that parenting will never be hard.

Your philosophy can, however, keep you more on track than off, and when you fall, it will make it easier to get back up and keep moving forward from a parenting fail. Because you have a specific drive, you can more easily resume the right course—because you know what that course is. This is ultimately what makes you great.

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APA Reference
Peterson, T. (2022, January 11). Develop Your Parenting Philosophy: Strategies That Make You Great, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2025, May 11 from https://www.healthyplace.com/parenting/parenting-skills-strategies/develop-your-parenting-philosophy-strategies-that-make-you-great

Last Updated: January 16, 2022

Child and Adolescent Mental Illnesses FAQ

Detailed information on diagnosis and treatment of mental illness in children and adolescents.

How Can I Tell If My Child Needs Help?

It is often difficult to know if a child (under 12) needs help for a psychological problem. Children are so involved with their family that sometimes parents' problems become confused with a child's problems. Divorce, death of a family member, moving, change or loss of parent's job, illness in the family, and going to a new school may all cause stress for children. When deciding whether your child needs help, keep in mind that an appropriate reason to consider treatment for a child is if he or she is generally unhappy.

The following checklist includes some of the signs that could help you decide if your child would benefit from psychological therapy. You may want to find help for your child if any of these warning signs have been present for some time.

What Are Mental Health Warning Signs For Younger Children?

  1. Displays unusual changes in emotions or behavior.
  2. Has no friends or has difficulty getting along with other children.
  3. Is doing poorly in school, misses school frequently, or does not want to attend.
  4. Has lots of minor illnesses or accidents.
  5. Is very anxious, worried, sad, scared, fearful, or hopeless.
  6. Cannot pay attention or sit still; is hyperactive.
  7. Is disobedient, aggressive, irritable, excessively angry; often screams or yells at people.
  8. Does not want to be away from you.
  9. Has frequent disturbing dreams or nightmares.
  10. Has difficulty falling asleep, wakes up during the night, or insists on sleeping with you.
  11. Becomes suddenly withdrawn or angry.
  12. Refuses to eat.
  13. Is frequently tearful.
  14. Hurts other children or animals.
  15. Wets the bed after being toilet-trained.
  16. Suddenly refuses to be alone with a certain family member, friend, or acts very disturbed when he or she is present.
  17. Displays affection inappropriately or makes unusual sexual gestures or remarks.
  18. Talks about suicide or death.

Some of these problems may be resolved by working with a teacher, counselor or school psychologist. Help can also come from concerned family members who offer reassurance, love and the most secure home environment possible.

It is normal for parents to experience guilt feelings because their child is having emotional or behavioral problems. But a child's problems do not always have to do with the home or school environment.

Also, it is possible that problems may be caused by physiological factors, so the child should have a complete medical examination before starting therapy.

How Do I Choose A Mental Health Professional For A Child?

A mental health professional for your child should be warm and caring and still be professional and objective. Parents and children should begin to feel comfortable after several sessions, though both may be anxious, frightened, angry or resistant to treatment at the beginning. Effective mental health professionals are trained to anticipate and work with those emotions so that open communication can be established. To select a mental health professional, you may want to talk to more than one person.

How Does Therapy Work For Children?

When your child is in therapy, the relationship between the mental health professional and the child is the same as it would be with an adult, but you, as the parent, will be involved as an interested third party. Early in therapy, you and the therapist should be able to identify the child's main problems and set goals to solve them.

There are many therapeutic techniques that are used with children. A common technique is play therapy, which gives children a more natural means to communicate with adults. By using games, dolls, and art, the child is often able to express difficult emotions.

Older children with better communication skills may be able to talk more directly with the mental health professional. The counselor or therapist may suggest other family members come for a number of sessions to help understand how the family works as a system. He/she may suggest new ways to relate to your child at home.

It may take time for your child to get comfortable in therapy. Just as with adults and adolescents, problems may become worse before they get better. Try to get your child to stick with therapy until he/she feels comfortable. However, if the child really seems to distrust the therapist after some time, it is a good idea to look for someone else.

How Is Therapy For Children Evaluated?

It is as important in child therapy as it is in adult therapy for the parent periodically to evaluate the progress of the treatment and the relationship with the therapist. After your child has been in therapy for a while, ask yourself the following questions to determine if therapy is working. If the answer to most of them is "yes," then you should be confident that therapy is helping. If the answer to most of them is "no," then you may want to get a second opinion from another therapist and consider making a change in your child's treatment.

  1. Does our child seem comfortable with the therapist?
  2. Is there open communication between the therapist and us, the parents?
  3. Has the therapist diagnosed the problem our child is having?
  4. Has the therapist identified our children's strengths?
  5. Are the therapist and our child working toward the goals we set together?
  6. Has our relationship with our child improved?
  7. Are we, the parents, being given guidance to work on our child's problem and increase his/her strengths?

How Do I Know When My Child Can Stop Therapy?

Your child may be ready to stop therapy when he/she:

  1. Is much happier.
  2. Is doing better at home and in school.
  3. Is making friends.
  4. You understand and have learned how to deal more effectively with those factors that led to the problems for which you sought help.

Sometimes, ending therapy will be an anxious time for children and parents. Problems may reappear temporarily. The mental health professional should be available to provide counsel and support for a period of time after your child is finished with therapy. It is a good idea to allow some time to adjust before considering going back into therapy.

You and your child may benefit from support groups.

Finding Help for Adolescents

Disturbed behavior in adolescents may be related to the physical and psychological changes taking place. This is a time when young people are often troubled by sexual identity and very concerned with physical appearance, social status, parents' expectations, and acceptance from peers. Young adults are establishing a sense of self-identity and shifting from parental dependence to independence.

A parent or concerned friend may have difficulty deciding what "normal behavior" is and what may be signs of emotional or mental health problems. The checklist below should help you decide if an adolescent needs help. If more than one sign is present or lasts a long time that may indicate a more serious problem.

What Are Mental Health Warning Signs For Older Children & Adolescents?

  1. Unexplained decline in schoolwork and excessive absences.
  2. Neglect of appearance.
  3. Marked changes in sleeping and/or eating habits.
  4. Running away.
  5. Frequent outbursts of anger.
  6. Defiance of authority, truancy, theft and/or vandalism.
  7. Excessive complaints of physical ailments.
  8. Drug or alcohol use or abuse.

Seek immediate help when an adolescent:

  1. Hears or sees things that are not there.
  2. Is preoccupied with themes of death.
  3. Gives away prized possessions.
  4. Threatens suicide.

Parents and friends can help a young person who may be experiencing these problems. Be a good listener. Let her/him know why you are concerned.

In more serious cases or a crisis, it is important to get immediate assistance or crisis intervention (call your usual health care provider or your local crisis center).

Teachers, school counselors, physicians, or peer-support groups may be helpful. Mental health professionals are also available to help evaluate an adolescent's problems.

If a decision is made to seek professional help, it is very important that the adolescent be aware of choices and be involved in making a plan.

How Do I Choose A Mental Health Professional For An Adolescent?

The mental health professional you choose for your adolescent should have expertise in dealing with the unique problems of adolescence. You should feel comfortable with the therapist and feel that you can establish open communication and that you can get your questions answered. However, your adolescent may not feel comfortable with the therapist or may be hostile to him/her.

How Does Therapy Work With An Adolescent?

When adolescents are involved in therapy, they can and should speak for themselves. Parents may or may not be included in the therapy sessions, or may be encouraged to participate in family therapy or group sessions. Therapy with a peer group is helpful for many teens.

The adolescent and the therapist should discuss what each expects to accomplish. In addition to mental health therapy sessions, treatment for substance abuse may be necessary in order to address mental health problems. The entire family may be asked to participate in a number of sessions to help understand how the family communicates, works together, and how they can assist with the adolescent's problems.

It is important for parents to understand that there may be certain aspects of the therapy that should remain confidential between the mental health professional and the adolescent. Before treatment begins, the parents, the adolescent, and the therapist should come to an agreement as to what information will be disclosed to the parents.

How Is Therapy Evaluated for An Adolescent?

It is just as important in adolescent therapy as it is in adult therapy to periodically evaluate the progress of the treatment and the relationship with the therapist. Once your adolescent has been in therapy for a while, ask yourself the following questions to see if you believe therapy is working.

If you answer "yes" to most of them, then you can be confident that therapy is helping. If you answer "no" to most of them, then you may want to get a second opinion from another therapist and consider making a change in your adolescent's treatment.

  1. Is our adolescent more positive about therapy?
  2. Has the therapist diagnosed the problem and are the two of them working toward treatment goals that include our adolescent's strengths?
  3. Is our adolescent becoming free from any use or addictions to drugs and/or alcohol?
  4. Has our relationship with our adolescent improved?
  5. Is there communication between the therapist and us, the parents?

How Can I Tell When My Adolescent Can Stop Therapy?

Your adolescent and the mental health professional will probably decide they are ready to stop therapy when the adolescent:

  1. Is generally happier, more expressive and cooperative, and less withdrawn.
  2. Is functioning better at home and in school.
  3. Is free from use or addictions to drugs and/or alcohol.

Ending therapy may be an anxious time for adolescents and parents. Problems may reappear temporarily. The therapist should be available to provide counsel and support for a period of time after your adolescent finishes therapy. Give yourselves some time to adjust before considering going back into therapy. You and your adolescent may benefit from participation in support groups.

Services For Children And Adolescents

Parents of children and adolescents with emotional disturbances need to know what the full range of services for their children should be. Here is a set of ideal options ranging from home-based services to the most restrictive hospital setting. Ask your child's doctor, school counselor or your local Family Guidance Center for help finding and arranging for the services described below.

Home intervention
The purpose of the home-based model of treatment is to provide intensive in-home crisis intervention to keep children from being placed outside their homes, away from their families. Such programs are directed toward managing crises and teaching families new ways of resolving problems to prevent future crises.

Successful home intervention programs have therapists available to families 24 hours a day for 4 to 6 weeks. During this period, families receive regular training sessions in their homes and may call on the therapists for help any time a crisis arises. The therapist can provide behavior interventions, client-centered therapy, values clarification, problem-solving, crisis intervention, and assertiveness training. They also help with home management and budgeting skills, advocacy, and referral for legal, medical, or social services.

Intensive home-based treatment helps make a more accurate assessment of the child and of the family's functioning. This treatment also makes it easier for the therapist to show and develop new behaviors in the child's normal environment. Therapists can directly observe the treatment plan and revise it when needed.

School-based services
Schools must provide appropriate special education and related services for children who are identified as seriously emotionally disturbed and in need of special educational help. For qualifying children, school staff and parents write an Individualized Education Program (IEP), which specifies the amount and type of special education the child requires, the related services the child may need, and the type of placement which is suitable for teaching the child.

Special education services are specifically educational in nature. While these educational services may be helpful to the emotionally disturbed child, a more complete treatment program may also be needed, such as psychotherapy services.

Special education services must be provided at no cost to parents. The IEP must be revised at least every year, with parents participating in the revision.

How can my child get help through their school?
If your child has emotional or behavioral problems that upset their school attendance or performance, talk to the teacher, counselor, and/or principal of your child's school (public or private) and ask for an evaluation of your child.

If you think your child would benefit from special education and mental health services, ask your local public school for a "Request for Evaluation" Form and related information leaflets and brochures. Private school students can be evaluated by the public school they would have attended.

If mental health and other support services are needed for your child, a case manager should be assigned to help you and your child find and use all the services that may be needed (e.g., education, mental health, vocational). A school counselor can assist.

Community-based outpatient treatment
Outpatient treatment usually means that the child lives at home and receives psychotherapy at a local mental health clinic or from a private therapist. Sometimes psychotherapy is combined with a home intervention and/or a school-based special education program. Outpatient therapy may involve individual, family, or group therapy, or a combination of them.

For families who do not have private insurance coverage, but may have QUEST or Medicaid or no insurance, there are state-funded Family Guidance Centers within each Community Mental Health Center to assist families in receiving the appropriate outpatient treatment or other referral for children and adolescents. Community-based day treatment (also called Community-based instruction) Day treatment is the most intensive nonresidential type of treatment. It has the advantages of keeping the child in the home, while bringing together a broad range of services designed to strengthen the child and improve family functioning. The specific features of day treatment programs vary from one program to another, but may include some or all of the following components:

  1. Special education, generally in small classes with a strong emphasis on individualized instruction.
  2. Psychotherapy, which may include both individual and group sessions.
  3. Family services, which may include family psychotherapy, parent training, brief individual therapy with parents, help with specific tangible needs such as transportation, housing, or medical attention.
  4. Vocational training.
  5. Crisis intervention.
  6. Skill building with an emphasis on interpersonal and problem-solving skills and practical skills of everyday living.
  7. Behavior modification.
  8. Recreation therapy, art therapy, and music therapy to aid social and emotional development.
  9. Drug and/or alcohol counseling.
  10. Children participate in a day treatment program for 6 hours a day. Lengths of stay are usually one school year, but can be shorter or longer.

Some day treatment programs are physically located on a school site where they may have a wing of their own that includes classrooms and office space. Other day programs are run in mental health centers, other community agencies, or on the grounds of a private clinic or hospital.

Community-based residential programs
Community-based residential programs involve the use of either group homes or therapeutic foster homes. This type of treatment assumes that there is a need to bring about a total change in the child's environment.

Foster-home placement
Foster home placement is, in many ways, a "natural" approach to treatment because it provides a family unit, which is the normal developmental situation for a child. A foster home will provide additional components beyond the nurturing characteristics of a wellorganized family. These additional components may include special training for the foster parents in behavior modification and crisis intervention.

"Therapeutic" foster homes offer additional support, including psychotherapy and case management. Therapeutic foster homes usually foster only one child at a time, whereas regular foster homes may have multiple children placed with them.

Group-home placement
Group home placement is somewhat more restrictive than foster care, since the living situation is not as "natural." Group homes provide family-style treatment in a more structured setting than the natural environment. Treatment usually involves a combination of evaluation, psychotherapy, use of behavior modification, peer interaction, and increasing self-government.

Residential treatment centers
Residential treatment centers provide round-the-clock treatment and care for children with emotional disturbances who need continuous medication, supervision, or relief from stresses in the environment, or whose families require relief from the stress of caring for them. Residential treatment centers for severely emotionally disturbed children are available throughout the United States.

Many of these facilities focus on a particular treatment philosophy. Generally, residential centers base their treatment on the premise that the child's total environment must be structured in a therapeutic way. Some emphasize special diet and exercise programs; others concentrate on behavior modification programs which function both in the classrooms and in the dormitories as well. Still others use a patient-centered, "structured permissiveness" approach. Some treatment centers are set up to deal specifically with alcohol and drug-related problems.

While residential treatment centers have academic programs, a great deal of attention is focused on the child's emotional problems, regardless of whether these problems are associated with academic matters. Considerable time and effort are spent on group and individual therapy and therapeutic social activities.

Residential care/hospital or training school Residential care in a hospital or training school tends to be the most restrictive type of treatment, attempted after other, less intensive, forms of treatment have been tried and have failed, or when a child has violated the law and has been ordered by the court to a particular facility.

  1. A psychiatric hospital is a medical facility whose emphasis is on medical solutions to mental problems. Psychiatric hospitals tend to use medications, and sometimes other physiological interventions. Those hospitals which serve children must provide educational opportunities for them, but the main focus of these facilities is not academics.
  2. Training schools are generally a type of correctional facility that is intended to serve delinquent youth. Depending on the level of financial support and degree of commitment from state government, some training schools offer psychotherapy, behavior modification programs, and/or vocational training. In general, training schools are not desirable treatment facilities because they are usually under-funded and often operate as prison-like programs. All training schools are required by federal law to provide appropriate special education for children who qualify.
  3. Respite Services give families (natural, adoptive or extended) temporary relief from caring for a child or teen who is receiving mental health services through a family guidance center or a private mental health provider. Contact your local Family Guidance Center for more information.

What Medications Can Help Children And Adolescents' Mental Health Problems?

Medication can be an effective part of the treatment for several psychiatric disorders of childhood and adolescence. A doctor's recommendation to use medication often raises many concerns and questions in both the parents and the youngster. The physician who recommends medication should be experienced in treating psychiatric illnesses in children and adolescents. He or she should fully explain the reasons for medication use, what benefits the medication should provide, as well as side effects or dangers and other treatment alternatives.

Psychiatric medication should not be used alone. As undertaking a medication trial may mean adjusting doses of medicine over time and/or the use of additional medications to meet an individual youngster's needs, the use of medication should be part of a comprehensive treatment plan, usually including psychotherapy as well as parent guidance sessions.

Before recommending any medication, the child and adolescent psychiatrist will interview the youngster and make a thorough diagnostic evaluation. In some cases, the evaluation may include a physical exam, psychological testing, laboratory tests, other medical tests such as an electrocardiogram (EKG) or electroencephalogram (EEG), and consultation with other medical specialists.

Child and adolescent psychiatrists stress that medications which have beneficial effects also have unwanted side effects, ranging from annoying to very serious. As each youngster is different and may have individual reactions to medication, close contact with the treating physician is recommended. Psychiatric medication should be used as part of a comprehensive plan of treatment, with ongoing medical assessment and, in most cases, individual and/or family psychotherapy.

When prescribed appropriately by a psychiatrist (preferably a child and adolescent psychiatrist), and taken as prescribed, medication may reduce or eliminate troubling symptoms and improve the daily functioning of children and adolescents with psychiatric disorders.

Do not stop or change a medication without speaking to the doctor.

Illnesses That Are Prescribed Medication

  1. Bedwetting -- if it persists regularly after age five and causes serious problems in self-esteem and social interaction.
  2. Anxiety (school refusal, phobias, separation or social fears, generalized anxiety, or posttraumatic stress disorders) --if it keeps the youngster from normal daily activities.
  3. Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), marked by a short attention span, trouble concentrating and restlessness.
  4. The child is easily upset and frustrated, often has problems getting along with family and friends, and usually has trouble in school.
  5. Obsessive-compulsive disorder -- recurring obsessions (troublesome and intrusive thoughts) and/or compulsions (repetitive behaviors or rituals such as hand washing, counting, and checking to see if doors are locked) which are often seen as senseless and which interfere with a youngster's daily functioning.
  6. Depressive disorder -- lasting feelings of sadness, helplessness, hopelessness, unworthiness, guilt, inability to feel pleasure, a decline in schoolwork and changes in sleeping and eating habits.
  7. Eating disorder -- either self-starvation (anorexia nervosa) or binge eating and vomiting (bulimia), or a combination of the two.
  8. Bipolar disorder -- periods of depression alternating with manic periods, which may include irritability, "high" or happy mood, excessive energy, behavior problems, staying up late at night, and grand plans.
  9. Psychosis -- symptoms include irrational beliefs, paranoia, hallucinations (seeing things or hearing sounds that do not exist), social withdrawal, clinging, strange behavior, extreme stubbornness, persistent rituals, and deterioration of personal habits. May be seen in developmental disorders, severe depression, schizoaffective disorder, schizophrenia, and some forms of substance abuse.
  10. Autism (or other pervasive developmental disorder such as Asperger's Syndrome) -- characterized by severe deficits in social interactions, language, and/or thinking or ability to learn, and usually diagnosed in early childhood.
  11. Severe aggression -- which may include assaultiveness, excessive property damage, or prolonged self-abuse, such as head banging or cutting.
  12. Sleep problems -- symptoms can include insomnia, night terrors, sleepwalking, fear of separation, and anxiety.

Types Of Psychiatric Medications

  1. Stimulant Medications: Stimulant medications are often useful as part of the treatment for attention deficit hyperactive disorder (ADHD). Examples include Dextroamphetamine (Dexedrine, Adderal), Methylphenidate (Ritalin), and Pemoline (Cylert).
  2. Antidepressant Medications: Antidepressant medications are used in the treatment of depression, school phobias, panic attacks, and other anxiety disorders, bedwetting, eating disorders, obsessive-compulsive disorder, personality disorders, posttraumatic stress disorder, and attention deficit hyperactive disorder. There are several types of antidepressant medications:
  • Tricyclic antidepressants (TCA's), which include: Amitriptyline (Elavil), Clomipramine (Anafranil), Imipramine (Tofranil), and Nortriptyline (Pamelor). Serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SRI's), which include: Fluoxetine (Prozac), Sertraline (Zoloft), Paroxetine (Paxil), Fluvoxamine (Luvox), Venlafaxine (Effexor), and Citalopram (Celexa).
  • Monoamine oxidase inhibitors (MAOI's), which include: Phenelzine (Nardil), and Tranylcypromine (Parnate).
  • Atypical antidepressants, which include: Bupropion (Wellbutrin), Nefazodone (Serzone), Trazodone (Desyrel), and Mirtazapine (Remeron).

Antipsychotic Medications

Antipsychotic medications can be helpful in controlling psychotic symptoms (delusions, hallucinations) or disorganized thinking. These medications may also help the muscle twitches ("tics") or verbal outbursts seen in Tourette's Syndrome. They are occasionally used to treat severe anxiety and may help in reducing very aggressive behavior.

Examples of traditional antipsychotic medications include: Chlorpromazine (Thorazine), Thioridazine (Mellaril), Fluphenazine (Prolixin), Trifluoperazine (Stelazine), Thiothixene (Navane), and Haloperidol (Haldol).

Newer antipsychotic medications (also known as atypical or novel) include: Clozapine (Clozaril), Risperidone (Risperdal), Quetiapine (Seroquel), Olanzapine (Zyprexa), and Ziprasidone (Zeldox).

Mood Stabilizers and Anticonvulsant Medications

Mood stabilizers may be helpful in treating manic depressive episodes, excessive mood swings, aggressive behavior, impulse control disorders and severe mood symptoms in schizoaffective disorder and schizophrenia.

  1. Lithium (lithium carbonate, Eskalith) is an example of a mood stabilizer.
  2. Some anticonvulsant medications can also help control severe mood changes, such as Valproic Acid (Depakote, Depakene), Carbamazepine (Tegretol), Gabapentin (Neurontin), and Lamotrigine (Lamictil).

Anti-anxiety Medications

Anti-anxiety medications may be helpful in the treatment of severe anxiety. There are several types of anti-anxiety medications:

  1. Benzodiazepines, such as Alprazolam (Xanax), lorazepam (Ativan), Diazepam (Valium), and Clonazepam (Klonopin).
  2. Antihistamines, which include: Diphenhydramine (Benadryl), and Hydroxizine (Vistaril).
  3. Atypical anti-anxiety medications, which include: Buspirone (BuSpar), and Zolpidem (Ambien).

When prescribed appropriately by an experienced psychiatrist (preferably a child and adolescent psychiatrist) and taken as directed, medication may reduce or eliminate troubling symptoms and improve daily functioning of children and adolescents with psychiatric disorders.

Sleep Medications

A variety of medications may be used for a short period to help with sleep problems.

Examples include: SRI anti-depressants, Trazodone (Desyrel), Zolpidem (Ambien), and Diphenhydramine (Benadryl).

Miscellaneous Medications

Other medications are also being used to treat a variety of symptoms. For example, clonidine (Catapres) may be used to treat the severe impulsiveness in some children with ADHD and guanfacine (Tenex) for "flashbacks" in children with PTSD.

Sources:

  • California Dept. of Mental Health
  • Mental Health Association in Hawaii

APA Reference
Staff, H. (2022, January 11). Child and Adolescent Mental Illnesses FAQ, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2025, May 11 from https://www.healthyplace.com/parenting/child-mental-health/child-and-adolescent-mental-illnesses-faq

Last Updated: January 17, 2022

Parenting Resources: Organizations That Help Parents

Extensive list of parenting resources and organizations to help equip parents with skills and information to parent their child. See it on HealthyPlace.

Parenting resources and organizations that help parents can be invaluable as parents navigate mother- and fatherhood from their children’s birth through the teen years. Parenting is a task that can be both rewarding and challenging. Unfortunately, newborns don’t come equipped with handy parenting guides. Perhaps that’s why there are parenting resources. Parenting organizations provide articles and resources to help parents do their best to raise well-adjusted, thriving kids that will mature into well-adjusted, thriving adults.

The below list of organizations will lead you to a treasure trove of useful resources. Investigate them to find the information you are seeking to enhance your own parenting philosophy and learn parenting skills for the digital age.

Parenting Resources and Organizations that Support All Parents

  • HealthyChildren.org

    HealthyChildren.org is a service of the American Academy of Pediatrics and is backed by nearly 70,000 pediatricians and their knowledge. This organization helps parents optimize the wellness of their children from birth through young adulthood. Parents can find useful information on health, whether it’s physical, mental, or social.
     
  • Zero to Three

    As its name implies, the organization Zero to Three helps parents of infants and toddlers. They provide a wealth of information to help parents design their own unique parenting goals and approach to parenting and whole-child development.
     
  • Search Institute’s Keep Connected Program

    The Search Institute is dedicated to helping schools, youth, and families by providing information and tools for success. Their Keep Connected Program is designed to assist parents in building strong, healthy families that thrive. Parents can read about each stage of their child’s development and how to respond during each stage. Strengthening relationship and fostering responsibility are among the helpful topics designed for parents.
     
  • The Center for Parenting Education

    Dedicated to providing parenting articles and support, the Center for Parenting Education is a resource center offering articles, tips, tools, and a resource directory designed to educate and support parents to raise kids that are emotionally healthy and well-adjusted. Among other parenting topics, build good parenting skills and learn to set limits while providing your kids unconditional love.


Parenting Articles and Resources That Help Parents with Their Children’s Education

  • PBS for Parents

    PBS for Parents provides parenting articles to help parents have fun with their children, exploring topics and engaging in activities to help them grow and thrive. Parents can gain information to help kids of all ages learn about self-awareness, social skills, character, literacy, math, and science. This parenting resource also offers activity ideas to help parents be involved and active with their child.
     
  • National Education Association (NEA) Parent Articles and Resources

    The NEA provides a wealth of parenting articles to assist parents in being involved in their children’s education and schools. Here, you have access to articles, resources, and parent guides with information about topics like bullying, how to be an active parent in your child’s education, and more.

Parenting Resource Centers for Families in Financial Need

  • LIFT

    LIFT is a parent and family support community based in New York City, Washington, D.C., Chicago, and Los Angeles. The organization works with families with children younger than eight to help them achieve their goals. Parents work with a coach to develop and implement goals such as financial stability and building savings, finding quality education for their children, and improving their place of employment.
     
  • Family Promise

    Family Promise helps families living in poverty, either on the brink of homelessness or currently homeless. Knowing that parents must provide for the basic needs of their children if the children are to thrive physically, mentally, and cognitively, Family Promise provides families with food, shelter, and support. Volunteers mentor parents, teach them about finances, and help them find employment and affordable housing.
     
  • Debt.org

    An organization with services and information for single parents in need of financial help, debt.org provides resources and support. Single parents of kids 18 and under can receive assistance navigating government programs, education opportunities, housing, and emergency financial assistance.

You don’t have to parent alone. Parenting resources abound to give you parenting help and equip you with the skills you want and the knowledge you need to help you raise your child the way you want to. All of these parenting organizations have this in common: They are there to help you build a strong, loving relationship with your child.

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APA Reference
Peterson, T. (2022, January 11). Parenting Resources: Organizations That Help Parents, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2025, May 11 from https://www.healthyplace.com/parenting/parenting-help/parenting-resources-organizations-that-help-parents

Last Updated: January 16, 2022

Teen Suicide Rates, Statistics, and Facts

Teen suicide rates are alarming and have been going up in recent years. Teen suicide statistics may shed light onto why this is and to how we can turn the tide on teen suicide. Remember: teen suicide does not normally happen without warning. We all have the power to use teen suicide facts to stop teen suicide.

Teen Suicide Rates

According to the American Association of Suicidology (AAS), 4,822 youths, ages 15-24, died of suicide in 2011 in the United States. It is a teenage suicide fact that suicide was the second leading cause of death in this age group. In 2007, teen suicide was at an all-time low of 9.6 deaths per 100,000 youths while the latest statistics collected show an almost 14% increase on this number indicating 10.9 deaths per 100,000 youth in the years 2011-2013 (2014 statistics are not yet available).

It is not known why teen suicide rates have increased but public awareness campaigns, suicide education, mental illness screening and access to mental health resources may be key to turning around this trend. It's important to know that talking to teens about suicide does not increase the risk of suicide and, in fact, decreases it.

Teen Suicide Statistics

The teen suicide rate may be alarming but perhaps scarier is the prevalence of suicide attempts and suicidal thoughts. Teen suicide statistics, according to the 2011 Youth Risk and Behavior Survey, indicate that in the previous 12 months, among high school students:

  • 15.8% seriously considered suicide
  • 12.8% made a plan for suicide
  • 7.8% attempted suicide one or more times
  • 2.4% made a suicide attempt that required medical intervention

These statistics on teen suicide do indicate that only a small number of attempts resulted in the teen's death, but it also indicates that suicidal thoughts in teens should be taken seriously every time.

Teen Suicide Facts

Teenage suicide facts indicate that while girls are far more likely than boys to attempt suicide, boys are 4.34 times more likely to die by suicide than girls. This is likely due to the fact that boys pick far more lethal means of suicide than girls. For example, a boy may seek out a firearm for suicide while a girl is more likely to try to poison herself.

Facts about teen suicide published by the AAS indicate that the following are major risk factors for teen suicide:

  • Mental illness
  • Substance abuse
  • Firearms in the household
  • Previous suicide attempts
  • Non-suicidal self-injury, self-harm
  • Exposure to the suicide of someone close to the teen
  • Low self-esteem

While not indicated by the AAS as a main risk factor for suicide, it's worth noting that lesbian, gay and bisexual youth are four times more likely than their straight peers to attempt suicide.

On the other hand, teen suicide facts also indicate that some factors may protect a teen against suicide. These include:

  • Family and school connectedness
  • A safe school environment
  • Reduced access to firearms
  • Academic achievement
  • Self-esteem

If you know of a teen that is suicidal or if you, yourself, feel suicidal, call The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. They are dedicated to helping anyone in emotional distress.

APA Reference
Tracy, N. (2022, January 11). Teen Suicide Rates, Statistics, and Facts, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2025, May 11 from https://www.healthyplace.com/suicide/teen-suicide-rates-statistics-and-facts

Last Updated: January 16, 2022