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My name is Dawn Gressard, and I am ecstatic to be a new writer for the "Coping with Depression" blog at HealthyPlace. As a trainer of peer support specialists, I know how vital it is to share similar lived experiences with others, not only for our coping with depression and recovery but for others’ coping as well. It is always easier to endure the journey when you know you are not alone -- and none of us are.
Two common responses to verbal abuse include fawning and appeasement. Although they share some similar characteristics, each is unique and can produce alternative results. I used to think appeasement was the same as fawning, but I was wrong. 
About 16 years ago, I was prescribed an antipsychotic for my schizoaffective disorder, and it triggered obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) symptoms. Here are some of the ways I acted with schizoaffective disorder and OCD.
One of the problems I have found when dealing with anxiety is not knowing why I'm anxious. Overall, throughout the years, I've been able to build my resilience to stress, and as a result, I can cope more effectively when I'm experiencing a stressful situation. But, part of the problem with having an anxiety disorder is that, even if you've felt fairly well for quite some time, you can still experience a resurgence of anxiety symptoms. Even during the happiest times in my life, I've had to be aware of anxiety triggers and how they may affect me when I least expect it, even when I don't know why I'm anxious.
Have you considered self-love this Valentine's Day/? Irrespective of whether you are single, committed, divorced, widowed, or self-partnered, Valentine's Day is a day when you should prioritize self-love. Here's why. 
Breathwork can help with anxiety. Sometimes, when it comes to managing mental health, it's best to go back to the basics, like breathing. It seems too simple, and it is simple, but that doesn't make it any less important. Breathwork is an amazing tool to refocus, calm one's mind, and work through moments of high anxiety. The best part is that it can be done anywhere at any time.
For those navigating mental health conditions, the journey toward self-love is not only crucial but can serve as a powerful catalyst for improved mental wellbeing. This Valentine's Day, let's shift the focus inward and explore the transformative practice of self-love, highlighting the empowering act of taking yourself on a date.
I've found Valentine's Day affirmations helpful. For some people, Valentine's Day is full of flowers, candy hearts, thoughtful cards, fancy dinners, and romance. For others, it is a fun day to celebrate with family and friends. But for people struggling with depression or anxiety, this holiday can bring about feelings of loneliness, anger, and envy. It can be a reminder of heartbreak and loss. If you are going through a difficult time right now, here are some Valentine's Day affirmations for you.
Knowing how to initiate recovery from gambling addiction is hard. The internal struggle of wanting to break free from the grasp of compulsive gambling while feeling unsure about where to start can be overwhelming. I have been there, struggling with the yearning for change but feeling paralyzed by the enormity of the task of initiating my recovery from gambling addiction.
Advice for verbal abuse is often sought. This call for help can be subtle or obvious, depending on their personality. Not surprisingly, I've been on both sides of this scenario. Although it can be easy to give verbal abuse advice, following it may be more challenging.

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Tom
I’m going through this right now. My ex has cut off all contact.

She has untreated bipolar.

We met middle of October. It was very long distance. She was 3 hours away. We were seeing each other for two months until Dec 18th when she suddenly broke it off. I think she went on a date with another guy the night before. I’m pretty sure that’s why she broke it off.

But I stayed in contact for about three weeks texting a couple of times a day. Asking her to come back.

Then suddenly early in January she agreed to come back to me.

Things were brilliant for about four weeks. She came back saying she was all in, that all she was asking for was honesty and openness. That we communicate with each other about how we are feeling.

Then early in February I noticed a drop off in energy from her.

I kept going….but then she started buying concert tickets with friends/family and not inviting me. She started saying how busy she was and time to meet would be very limited.

On Feb 12 I got it into my head to see if she was on Tinder. So I set up a profile, literally not expecting to find her, and there she was. You can understand how that made me feel.

So I asked her if we were a thing. And she snapped. Attacked me. Told me we’d been through this and that I was being insensitive. She started saying she didn’t think this was for her. Threatening to end it because I asked her if we were boyfriend and girlfriend. She was very nasty to me.

When she said that I showed her the screenshot of her profile. She backed off a little but was very defensive and distant. She never apologised and still hasn’t.


After that she pulled right back. I was supposed to visit her for Valentine’s Day but she broke up with me in a text that day.

She blamed me for the argument. She said it was my fault. She has taken literally no responsibility for any of her words or actions. I was to blame. I was causing pressure and she needed to cut me out.

Since then I’ve tried to talk to her. To reason with her. Tried to reassure her that I’m there but she’s stonewalled me and blocked me on all messengers.

She has been very nasty, hurtful. When we got back together she was warm, affectionate, kind and loving. That person is now gone.

And she is gone. I think there’s a new guy already.

Can anybody explain?

Do you think her untreated bipolar is to blame for the in-out breakup, impulsiveness and instability?
Jerm
I am 14 and started sometime around the middle of 2023, I was sad due to misssing my friend who was in the psych ward at the time and I have continued periodically from then. Part of the reason I continue is a little embarrassing but I enjoy the taste of blood and frequently I cut just to taste it again. It resulted in lighter scars that cover most of my left arm, and a couple large ones on my leg. I have come to peace with them and I have become quite used to them. To me they represent healing and I’m proud of them and most times I am proud of them, Though I still do hide any that are fresh until they heal
Kelly
The thing that always bothered me about this study is - what if you only WANT one marshmallow? What if you always only eat small amounts? What if you have a small stomach and you know that two marshmallows will upset it? If you don’t WANT the second marshmallow, why wait? So the kid who eats the marshmallow is labeled as someone who doesn’t have restraint - when they actually have restraint every day.
I was a one piece of candy kid. And I hated marshmallows. So they’re also assuming ALL kids like marshmallows. I wouldn’t have eaten it, would have been praised, and then would have been given two marshmallows. And did they just send the kids on their way? If they had followed ME out, they would have seen me dump both in the garbage. But would that have made it into the study? No.
And people still quote this stupid study. Thank you for pointing out the flaws.
Nez
I am here due to same problem, Ive drunk a whole bottle of champagne as a lemonade not the first time, and phoned a guy that was at work st that time, it started sweet and then I just can’t get over how stupid I was what I was saying to him. He cut me off. Don’t blame him Id do same thing if I were him, I feel like an idiot, honestly I really liked him and it was mutual, but sure not any more. I don’t know if I should call him apologise admitting Ive got a problem, he knows that now anyway don’t think itd change anything, or just leave it. Feeling like blocking him too. Im overthinking this too much. Im feeling so embarrassed. I know this feeling will subside and I am not touching alcohol anymore. I hope. I can’t remember if I ever had made such a fool of myself..
John
I had read voraciously since a child due to not having a tv in the home. Nothing to do with trauma. I would rather read than watch tv even as an adult.