Relationships of all types are important in our lives, but as positive as it is to have a connection with someone, relationships can also be incredibly anxiety-provoking. Anxiety in relationships happens only in part because of the conflicts that inevitably occur in even the most loving and nurturing of relationships. Anxiety often happens because relationships have intruders: our thoughts, feelings, memories, and worries and what-ifs. Our attention frequently wanders into places that lead to problems like anxiety. Therefore, choosing what  we pay attention to can go a long way toward reducing anxiety in relationships.