A Verbal Abuse Quiz You Want To Take, Just To Be Sure
A verbal abuse quiz can do a lot of things. It can help you determine if you suffer from verbal abuse. It can change your mind about what verbal abuse is and is not. A verbal abuse quiz can even show you that (eek!) you abuse other people. But a quiz cannot make you be honest. So if you are not ready to take an honest look at your situation, then don't bother with this verbal abuse quiz. It can't help you if you lie.
A Verbal Abuse Quiz Challenge For You
People love quizzes so much that we'll take a quiz to find out what kind of cat we would be, answering the questions quickly with complete confidence. No panicking, no over-thinking, no trying to please someone else. But when it comes to the serious stuff, like a verbal abuse quiz, we might semi-consciously skew the results by answering dishonestly. We might say we don't have the symptoms of verbal abuse, when in fact, we do.
Don't feel bad. We come by our dishonest answers honestly. We lie or fudge the truth because we want the answer to reflect what we want to know, not what we suspect to be true. After all, who wants to be an abuse victim? Who wants to find out someone we love abuses us? No one. So we give the benefit of the doubt to someone else - the one doing the abusing - instead of to ourselves and our feelings.
I challenge you to take this verbal abuse quiz with the same honesty as you would take a silly cat quiz. Don't over think your answers. Don't make excuses for the someone you suspect abuses you. Don't answer the questions with the answers someone else would like to hear. Take this abuse quiz as if you were trying to determine what kind of cat you would be instead of whether or not you are an abuse victim.
The Verbal Abuse Quiz
Going forward, the word someone implies one person in your life. Get that particular someone in mind before taking this verbal abuse quiz.
- Do you ever laugh at jokes about you that actually make you want to cry or fight? Do you hear jokes that hurt you in front of other people who laugh at the joke? Do you hear someone routinely say something like, "It's only a joke, honey" and then understand that statement as their hint to say no more?
- Do you feel your pulse beating faster when someone throws a temper tantrum? Do you forget what was so important about the conversation because someone's angry behavior derailed you from your point? Can you predict with great accuracy when someone is about to explode in a fearsome rage? Do you change your tact to avoid someone's temper?
- When someone accuses you of wrongdoing, do you automatically defend yourself no matter how silly the accusation? When someone blames you for the outcome of some event, do you feel compelled to defend or explain why it's not your fault? Or apologize even though you can't pinpoint why you feel the urge to apologize?
- Do you intend to have a conversation on one topic in particular, then discover later that you did not accomplish your goal? Do you find yourself saying, "Yes, but..." during conversations but never get your words in edgewise?
- Do you ever feel frustrated because someone immediately expresses a sentiment or observation opposite of the one you're trying to express? Have you felt frustrated because you know someone said one thing but they insist they said another?
- Have you ever felt frustrated because someone tends to forget things that are important to you like appointments, parties with your friends, or plans you made with them just yesterday?
Verbal Abuse Quiz Results
I know you took this verbal abuse quiz because you think your loved one abuses you. I know you are hoping they do not. I hope your answers to the verbal abuse quiz questions above were all "No."
If you answered "Yes" to any of the questions presented above, then you are a victim of Someone's verbal abuse.
Any quiz results are only as good as what you do with them. Take the first step now and become educated about verbal abuse. Check out some in-depth verbal abuse information articles or try the Abuse Screening Test for Women.
Holly, K. (2015, March 30). A Verbal Abuse Quiz You Want To Take, Just To Be Sure, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2019, September 15 from https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/verbalabuseinrelationships/2015/03/verbal-abuse-quiz
Author: Kellie Jo Holly
But now, at 17, things are better. Don’t get me wrong, I believe my mother loves me very much. I love her very much too. I think she used guilt to control me from being rebellious last time I’m not sure.
Things are definitely better in the present.
But now, everyday, she would say multiple times things like “I hate you so much”, “did anyone ever told you how much they hate you” or like “if I had a chance I would have another daughter”. But the thing is, she says these things in a really jokingly way, not like in the past. Maybe I am being over sensitive because it triggers past memories. Sometimes when we are in public, she says to me “I can’t speak so loud otherwise people will say I verbally abuse you.” I don’t think she knows how much pain it causes me and so does not take verbal abuse (if it is), seriously. I know the most obvious solution is talk to her and tell her I am in pain. But how can I?? I’m really guarded now because of my past and I hate being vulnerable. Even if she says it jokingly, is this still considered as verbal abuse? If it is, can someone suggest something that could help my situation?
Yet I am confused. She's always saying she wants what's best for us and she loves us ans always telling us how much she's given up for us.
Am I being abused or am I just too sensitive? Or am I actually a bad person?
My dad has been emotionally and verbally abusing me as well as neglecting me for as long as I can remember. Around a year ago I was illegally removed from my mom's house and put in my dad's house. Since then the abuse has only gotten worse and worse with each passing day. For example: every time I get hurt or one of my 3 siblings hurts me he laughs and doesn't show any sign of hoping that I feel better. Just like when I got a concussion, my dad laughed at me bcuz i fell out of a tree then he waited for 3 hours to take me to the hospital to get my head checked out and I ended up getting to bed at 1 am. My siblings and I are treated like cleaning ladies/people.......only we don't get paid. My dad's sarcastic remarks about how 'awesome' my report card is(I have horrible grades) and how 'awesome' it is that we accidentally broke something hurtes soooooo much. I have been looking for a way to share my story and show that my dad isn't the best man in the world like he says he is.........my social worker from Children's Aid Society and my lawyer don't say anything even closely related to the fact that my dad abuses my siblings and I in court(even though we complain all the time about it). My dad also abused my mom sexually, physically, and emotionally before he left Jan/16th/2011. I recently found out that I have ptsd due to his abuse and neglect. So basically I am left alone with my siblings and my mom to get the stories out.......but it's not working very well bcuz my dad has Children's Aid Society, my lawyer, his lawyer, and my mom's lawyer wrapped around his finger. Oh ya.......and my mom has also been falsely accused of having a mental illness.......so that helps things. Soooooo ya that's my life now!!!!!
WHAT DO I DO!!!!!!I NEED HELP!!!!!!!
Thank you for your comment. It must have been hard for you to open up like that so well done.
I'm so sorry to hear about what you're going through. Please, if you think you or your siblings are in danger, call the <a href="http://www.childhelp.org/hotline/" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">National Child Abuse hotline</a> right away -- they can help you. Even if your dad hasn't been violent, the fact that you're scared for your physical safety is important.
It won't be like this forever, but you need help from the right people. Good luck xxx
I feel so bad about having issues with this. I feel like I'm the one who's abusive since I keep bringing this up with them and my counselor...
I'm so sorry you're in that situation. I would recommend you call a helpline as soon as possible. They will be able to help you more: https://www.healthyplace.com/other-info/resources/mental-health-hotline-numbers-and-referral-resources/
- Natasha Tracy
When you're 50 or so, sitting by a parent as he or she passes away, you will STILL be waiting for that approval. I don't want you to live your life like that.
I'm sorry your home life is this way. Find your joy in other places - school, activities, friends, friends' families...
I have a grandchild so i put up with it because of fears i wont c her..today was the last an final straw..he calls me a mother fucker...an many things worse then that...an she says im a white bitch..
It hurts soooo bad..i guess im going to have to sacrafice my any chance forva relationship..he makes me feel like i dont deserve to live...an i luv life
Do your best to limit your time with him and his girlfriend while gaining time with your granddaughter. Maybe you could offer to babysit so they can have a night out each week? You could meet them in a public place, somewhere fun for your granddaughter. Or, if she's an infant, ask a friend to stay with you during drop-off, pick-up. Abusive people are less likely to abuse in front of an audience. I don't know. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.