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About Kellie Holly, Author of Verbal Abuse in Relationships Blog

Kellie Holly was in an 18 year verbally abusive marriage. Her verbal abuse blog, Verbal Abuse in Relationships, details her experiences and what she learned.

I am Kellie Jo Holly, and I participated in the cycle of verbal abuse with my soon to be ex-husband for almost 18 years. I retain the relationship with him because we have two sons together who are now teens. Leaving the marriage did not end the abuse. Stopping verbal abuse has more to do with my reaction to it than convincing him to stop!
I spent years trying to anticipate and thereby control his moods (especially his angry moods) with no success. Even though my intentions were good, the outcome was very bad.

Verbal Abuse and How I Lost Myself

Kellie Jo HollyDuring the course of my marriage, I let go of myself and my own reality in the effort to understand his way of looking at things, his perception of the world, his reactions to events. With so much concentration on him, is it any wonder how I ceased being myself? Under extreme pressure to control my environment (him), I let my own soul fall by the wayside.

Now, a short time from leaving the relationship as it was, I struggle to separate my own identity from the person I came to be while living in the battleground of our marriage. Some days are easier than others, but I see dramatic progress in my ability to detach from and accept the role I played in our abusive cycle; I am healing, and I want to share that journey with you.

The Point of the Verbal Abuse in Relationships Blog

You can also find Kellie on her website at Verbal Abuse JournalsGoogle+, Facebook PageTwitter and Amazon Authors.

Author: kholly

Kellie Jo Holly advocates for domestic violence and abuse awareness through her writing. You can find Kellie Jo on her website, Amazon Authors, Google+, Facebook and Twitter.

44 thoughts on “About Kellie Holly, Author of Verbal Abuse in Relationships Blog”

  1. I love you and your blogs Kellie. Thank you for everything!!! Fresh out of an abusive relationship without a money, car, or a job, and hes also keeping my 7th months old child from me and going to bury me in custody court. I thought leaving him would end the abuse and turmoil, but it looks like it will be a life long issue now that we share a child. Anyways, your blogs and the info. you have provided here are very helpful. Send me an email if you still check this site or your responses please. I’d love to know how you are today and keep in touch. Thank you so much -Emma. evigil1987@gmail.com

  2. Hello, Kellie
    I finally realized I’m in a abusive relationship but still hard to believe it because I’ve been manipulated over many years of, “I’m sorry, won’t happens again, things will be different”. I am still scared, can’t sleep, hear his voice in my head and scared to leave the house I’m staying with family. It does still come to my mind that I’m the wrong one and doing things wrong and should go back to make everything better. But I don’t know if I should do that. He wants to meet to speak to me and ask for forgiveness but I am a lol nervous and don’t want to be brainwash again. It’s a horrific feeling. What should I do? Should I stay away until I seek help?

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