A Verbal Abuse Quiz You Want To Take, Just To Be Sure

March 30, 2015 Kellie Jo Holly

A verbal abuse quiz can do a lot of things. It can help you determine if you suffer from verbal abuse. It can change your mind about what verbal abuse is and is not. A verbal abuse quiz can even show you that (eek!) you abuse other people. But a quiz cannot make you be honest. So if you are not ready to take an honest look at your situation, then don't bother with this verbal abuse quiz. It can't help you if you lie.

A Verbal Abuse Quiz Challenge For You

People love quizzes so much that we'll take a quiz to find out what kind of cat we would be, answering the questions quickly with complete confidence. No panicking, no over-thinking, no trying to please someone else. But when it comes to the serious stuff, like a verbal abuse quiz, we might semi-consciously skew the results by answering dishonestly. We might say we don't have the symptoms of verbal abuse, when in fact, we do.

Don't feel bad. We come by our dishonest answers honestly. We lie or fudge the truth because we want the answer to reflect what we want to know, not what we suspect to be true. After all, who wants to be an abuse victim? Who wants to find out someone we love abuses us? No one. So we give the benefit of the doubt to someone else - the one doing the abusing - instead of to ourselves and our feelings.

Take this verbal abuse quiz without thinking too much and find out if your relationship problems are really abuse problems.I challenge you to take this verbal abuse quiz with the same honesty as you would take a silly cat quiz. Don't over think your answers. Don't make excuses for the someone you suspect abuses you. Don't answer the questions with the answers someone else would like to hear. Take this abuse quiz as if you were trying to determine what kind of cat you would be instead of whether or not you are an abuse victim.

The Verbal Abuse Quiz

Going forward, the word someone implies one person in your life. Get that particular someone in mind before taking this verbal abuse quiz.

  1. Do you ever laugh at jokes about you that actually make you want to cry or fight? Do you hear jokes that hurt you in front of other people who laugh at the joke? Do you hear someone routinely say something like, "It's only a joke, honey" and then understand that statement as their hint to say no more?
  2. Do you feel your pulse beating faster when someone throws a temper tantrum? Do you forget what was so important about the conversation because someone's angry behavior derailed you from your point? Can you predict with great accuracy when someone is about to explode in a fearsome rage? Do you change your tact to avoid someone's temper?
  3. When someone accuses you of wrongdoing, do you automatically defend yourself no matter how silly the accusation? When someone blames you for the outcome of some event, do you feel compelled to defend or explain why it's not your fault? Or apologize even though you can't pinpoint why you feel the urge to apologize?
  4. Do you intend to have a conversation on one topic in particular, then discover later that you did not accomplish your goal? Do you find yourself saying, "Yes, but..." during conversations but never get your words in edgewise?
  5. Do you ever feel frustrated because someone immediately expresses a sentiment or observation opposite of the one you're trying to express? Have you felt frustrated because you know someone said one thing but they insist they said another?
  6. Have you ever felt frustrated because someone tends to forget things that are important to you like appointments, parties with your friends, or plans you made with them just yesterday?

Verbal Abuse Quiz Results

I know you took this verbal abuse quiz because you think your loved one abuses you. I know you are hoping they do not. I hope your answers to the verbal abuse quiz questions above were all "No."

If you answered "Yes" to any of the questions presented above, then you are a victim of Someone's verbal abuse.

Any quiz results are only as good as what you do with them. Take the first step now and become educated about verbal abuse. Check out some in-depth verbal abuse information articles or try the Abuse Screening Test for Women.

APA Reference
Holly, K. (2015, March 30). A Verbal Abuse Quiz You Want To Take, Just To Be Sure, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2019, September 21 from

Author: Kellie Jo Holly

May, 15 2016 at 10:17 pm
I am verbally abused by my partner. I took the wuiz and of course answered yes to most of the questions.
The thing is, it happens, I get all upset and thinking how I can get out, but begore I know it he's really sweet and ccaring, that is till the next time.
I feel ashamed at not managing to leave him.
May, 15 2016 at 10:43 am
Dose fat shaming count as verbal abuse from my mom? How about being called "stupid" from your dad when he gets upset because I could do a task the right way to his liking, or being called "next to nothing" because you couldn't find a pan so your mom can cook dinner on time. And him bring up my ADD implying that I'm stupid. All the mean things my dad has said to me all happened when he was mad.y parents has never hit me but they have spanked me when I was little and my dad still threatens me with the belt and I'm 16.

In reply to by Anonymous (not verified)

Kellie Jo Holly
May, 18 2016 at 8:44 am
Natalia, yes, they are emotionally and verbally abusive. I'm sorry you've lived with it for so long. You know how some kids dream of leaving home? I suggest you start putting a plan together so you CAN leave home after graduation. Ask some trusted adults for help. Maybe you can spend a weekend here and there out of your home until you get to leave permanently.
December, 17 2015 at 6:19 pm
I am verbally abused by my mother I answered all these questions yes and was hoping it was a no idk what to do or how to stop it but it's slowly tearing away my self image I also know my mother doesn't mean it she always says sorry but she's to stubborn and thinks I'm to stupid to see that she's hurting me and my 4 siblings
August, 25 2015 at 2:41 am
Wow, this subject is so prevalent, there are many people who have written on the topic, especially to Tonya. A woman called Patrica wrote books on the topics that were a good read and someone I know just wrote a book this year which is very helpful the name is catchy 'Time To Go!' Leaving Emotional Abuse.... by Norva Semoy Abiona. There is help out there, I hate that people think it's ok to treat others so horribly. I once had a boyfriend who tried that on me. Well, that was the end of that.
April, 22 2015 at 5:25 pm
I cannot seem to be able to choose any quiz and just sent to a page completely blank yet options to yet again take another quiz. What is the problem?

In reply to by Anonymous (not verified)

Kellie Jo Holly
April, 27 2015 at 5:17 am
Sweetmalis, I don't know what the problem is with the quizzes.
April, 12 2015 at 9:09 am
I took the quiz,even though I already knew the answer. This is not the first abusive relationship I have been in. But I don't know what to do I have let this one strip me of everything my job self esteem I'm gaining weight I can't hardly function anymore I still have 1 minor child I don't know how to make it out of this one I have list will to fight I have always maintained away to get my children and self out but I let him have complete control

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