I Have Bipolar, and I Never Ghost People
I have bipolar disorder, and I never ghost people. "Ghosting" is a slang term for when someone cuts off all communication. Some people may doubt that I don't ghost people based on my bipolar diagnosis; however, believe me, I am not a "ghoster." Moreover, I'm not the only one. Just because a person has bipolar doesn't mean they will ghost you.
In 2019, a blogger here, Hannah Blum, wrote a piece and did a video about how ghosting is a big problem in those with bipolar disorder. This piece has spoken to many people and has been on the list of the most popular posts for many weeks since then. I don't argue her main point — I think people with bipolar disorder do ghost people sometimes. However, I think it's important to remind people of the word "sometimes."
Why Would a Person with Bipolar Ghost You?
I do think people with severe mental illnesses are more likely to ghost others. In the case of bipolar disorder, I think this is because of the extreme mood states that we experience. When a person is in an extreme mood state that prevents them from getting out of bed, it's understandable that it can also prevent them from picking up the phone or firing up the computer.
There are many other complex reasons why a person with bipolar might ghost as well, including:
- Being wrapped up in a mood like hypomania or mania to the extent that you don't even think of communicating with others
- Feeling too personally worthless to feel worthy of communicating with others (from self-stigma, possibly)
- Avoiding rejection by rejecting others first
And I'm sure there are many other reasons tied into bipolar disorder too.
Why I Never Ghost People Despite Bipolar Disorder
I hate it when people ghost me. I find it sends my anxiety into overdrive and actually physically hurts. When someone I care about stops communicating with me, I feel like it's my fault and that they hate me. I feel terrible about myself. It's all I can think about until it gets resolved. I never ghost people despite bipolar because I never want anyone else to feel like that. And honestly, it makes me quite annoyed and even angry that other people are so selfish that they seemingly don't care about those ramifications.
I do understand that how I feel when someone ghosts me is my problem. But I also understand that ghosting makes everyone feel crappy, even if my bipolar disorder and I take that to a new level. And really, no matter whether ghosting makes a person feel a little bad or a lot is irrelevant. I never ghost people because I care about it either way.
In short, just because a person has bipolar disorder, that doesn't mean they will ghost you. Some people might do that. But I have bipolar disorder, I never ghost people, and I never will.
Tracy, N. (2022, November 22). I Have Bipolar, and I Never Ghost People, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2023, December 1 from https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/breakingbipolar/2022/11/i-have-bipolar-and-i-never-ghost-people
Author: Natasha Tracy
What a solid response and stance to a sticky and emotionally charged and controversial issue! I was ghosted by someone online about a year ago. I had no resolution, recourse or any insight into why she did it other than to dis me after a few months of a connection. I didn't like what she did and had extra anxiety and a moodswing over it. I learned a lot about myself, my interests, needs and wants through that situation. I got some books and online courses and apps that have been helpful. I wasn't medicated well and became hypomanic for a while. She also had a moodswing and a downturn over the Holidays last year and then ended up getting more help. I began texting her too late for me bc of time zone differences and had some other issues.
I have found that I need blue light lenses to use my phone and tablet and to read more paper books at night than digital books. I also need to set specific work amd texting hours. Thanks for the good post.