People self-harm for many different reasons and self-harm in and of itself is not a symptom of bipolar disorder. But like many people with extreme pain in their lives, many people with bipolar disorder do self-harm. I have been one of them. And as sure as I’m sitting here I can tell you, stress precipitated most of the self-harm.
Stress Doesn’t Always Lead to Self-Harm
We all get stressed. Stress is simply indicative that something is wrong in our environment. Maybe we couldn’t pay a bill, maybe we had a fight with a friend maybe there is a big presentation due at work. Stress, we all have it.
And when you’re under stress your body releases all sort of chemicals like cortisol creating an interruption in the homeostasis (even level) of the body. Your nervous system literally changes in response to stress.
Dealing with Stress
So we have to deal with that stress in order to get our nervous system back to normal. We do this in lots of ways: taking hot baths, ranting with a friend, dealing with the problem and yes, self-harming. Why would self-harming be in the list? Well, it seemed like the best idea at the time.
Sometimes Stress and Self-Harm Urges Won’t Go Away
Sometimes, in spite of our best efforts we can’t get our nervous system to calm the heck down. We try every coping mechanism we know, and yet still, the stress, anxiety, worry and fear remain (Stress Leads to Anxiety which leads to Self-Harm).
This is when self-harm tends to take place. The stress tends to build up over time and with no functioning coping techniques the person harms themselves.
Why Would You Self-Harm Under Stress?
That’s easy. You self-harm because you have no other functioning coping techniques. You are in pain, your nervous system is screaming, and you need to rid yourself of this and the only way you know to do it is through self-harm.
It not really as crazy as it sounds. As water will always seek to be level in a glass, the human body seeks to be level also and one extreme problem (your nervous system out of whack) needs one extreme solution (self-harm) to bring back the equilibrium.
Avoiding Self-Harm Under Stress
Knowing that self-harm tends to happen during times of stress, you can try to use that knowledge to avoid self-harm. Stop the cycle before the urge to self-harm even emerges. You can:
- Learn new techniques for coping with stress
- Stay away from self-harm triggers when you’re feelings stress
- Try to nip stress in the bud and deal with it before it becomes out of control
- Put a health stress action plan into place that you agree to follow when you’re feelings stressed out
- Reach out to others in times of stress; don’t spend time alone
- See a professional that specializes in treating self-harm
And know this: you are not alone. Thousands of people across the country self-harm. It is not uncommon, but it is treatable. You don’t have to live that way.