Surviving the Stressors of Life Without Self-Harm

April 5, 2015 Jennifer Aline Graham

You can survive life stressors without turning to self-harm.

Life is filled with many turns and twists. One week you may feel confident and secure when the next you may be late paying back a loan or forget to study for an exam. You truly never know what to expect from day-to-day and sometimes that mystery brings forward more stress than needed. Even the most organized individual can feel overwhelmed by a simple, daily task when they don’t see it coming. When you feel as if the world around you is bringing more chaos into your environment than stability, an anxiety attack very well may occur but you can deal with this stress without self-harming.

When you struggle with self-harm, the stressors of life may lead to anxiety. Sometimes when you feel overloaded with emotions and life is chaotic, that chaos will continue into your brain. When you don’t know how to positively handle that chaos, you may turn to self-harm as the answer. You may also break down, grow angry and cry.

In truth, breaking down and crying is a much healthier outlet than anger and self-harm.

Dealing with Stress by Crying Is Healthier than Self-Harm

Life hands you many stressors that sometimes can cause anxiety, but it is important to make sure the stressor of life don't lead to self-harm.

Even though, recently, life has been slowly coming together in a positive way, I’ve been also dealing with some life stressors that come with being, well, an adult. Being that I recently switched jobs, I now have to wait three months before I get the benefits this new job offers – this means I have no insurance. After recently being sick and having to go to the emergency room, I’m learning how pricy hospitalizations are and how I now need to seek in-between coverage.

Okay, so none of this is really matters to those reading, but when you are in your mid-20s and just starting to get the hang of these kind of things, it can be quite the stressor. I also recently witnessed someone have a complete break down due to the anxieties that student loans brings forward – and if you have dealt with student loans, you may be able to relate to that anxiety.

The point is, then you are dealing with some of life’s stressors, you may be embarrassed when you cry or have an anxiety attack because of them. However, you need to realize that crying is a much healthier outlet than turning to drugs, self-harm or growing violent because of the situation. It can be extremely difficult using self-talk or deep breathing to get yourself out of the funk you’re in, no matter what may be going on.

However, it’s good to attempt the coping skills you know have been helpful before, even if it takes a while to relax your body and mind.

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Author: Jennifer Aline Graham

April, 10 2016 at 9:58 pm

I struggle with emotions, having them,understanding them and what to do with them.
Crying isnt an option for me...
Trying to do other things like cleaning house, walk, art, snapping a rubber band sometimes helps.....
I grew up with emotions are bad....must control them at all times.....there was alot of negative consequences for expressing self hatred follows any struggle with emotions thats when I self harm

April, 10 2015 at 1:42 pm

That isn't easy at all. I've went years without self harm but with everything going on now I want it more then ever. Right now nothing is helping....

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