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Why I Stopped Hiding My Self-Harm Scars

Why I Stopped Hiding My Self-Harm Scars

Kayla Chang, author of the blog 'Speaking Out About Self-Injury,' discusses why she chose to stop hiding her self-harm scars and what happened afterward.

Self-harm insists on making its history known. It leaves evidence of itself on your skin in marks both faint and bold and in times of both struggle and recovery. These scars can make you self-conscious, remind you of a painful past, and draw unwanted attention. The common impulse among self-harmers and those with a history of self-harm is to cover them up. But that, for me, just never felt like freedom.

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Self-Harm and Mental Illness

Self-Harm and Mental Illness

Kayla Chang, author of the blog "Speaking Out About Self-Injury," talks about the relationship between self-harm and mental illness.Self-harm is often used as a way to cope with difficulties that the person is not, for whatever reason, emotionally equipped to handle. For many of those who use self-harm in this way, that reason is an underlying mental illness (or illnesses).

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What Are Your Reasons to Recover from Self-Harm?

What Are Your Reasons to Recover from Self-Harm?

It's important to know your reasons to recover from self-harm. Without them, self-harm recovery will be much more difficult. Discover reasons to recover from self-harm at HealthyPlace, and learn how to uncover your reasons and use them for motivation in self-harm recovery now.You would think that the reasons to recover from self-harm would be obvious. In a way, they are. You would also think that those who currently suffer from self-harm tendencies would recognize these reasons and use them to motivate their recovery. In a way, they do. But that is the thing about mental illness: no one chooses to be sick. Rationale tells us that the drawbacks of self-harm far outweigh the benefits but our sick brains tell us otherwise. The trick is to access and strengthen our rationale — that is, the healthy part of our brains that still exists somewhere inside of us — to do what we know we need to do (Mental Illness Isn’t a Choice, But You Still Have Choices). Finding reasons to recover from self-harm is part of the process.

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The Hardest Thing About Self-Harm Recovery

The Hardest Thing About Self-Harm Recovery

Self-harm recovery is difficult for many reasons, but one reason stands out above the rest. Learn about using self-harm to make mental illness visible at HealthyPlace, and how doing that sabotages self-harm recovery now.Recovering from self-harm is hard for reasons too numerous to list. The process of self-harm recovery is often lonely, confusing, messy, and dark. Feelings of hopelessness, feeling trapped, and feeling flooded with whatever emotions led us to self-harm in the first place are not uncommon, nor are the urges that cloud our thoughts and tempt us toward relapse in our self-harm recovery.

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When Self-Harm Is for Attention

When Self-Harm Is for Attention

Kayla Chang, author of the blog "Speaking Out About Self-Injury," talks about the stereotype of self-harm as attention-seeking behavior, and the partial truth that exists within this stereotype.

You see this stigma of self-harm for attention played out in TV shows, movies, and often even in real life: A person engages in self-harm. This behavior is noticed by another person, either because the self-harmer has confessed or wears visible scars. People debate among themselves about whether this self-harming behavior warrants confronting the person and/or seeking professional help for the person. Then, as if on cue, someone suggests they forget about the whole thing, and says something along the lines of, “She’s just self-harming for the attention.”

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Self-Harm Scars and Dating, Sex and Intimacy

Self-Harm Scars and Dating, Sex and Intimacy

Having self-harm scars and dating can bring about very personal questions about your scars. Learn some ways to answer those questions using these guidelines.Questions about self-harm scars and dating, sex and intimacy cause many people with visible self-harm scars to worry: “Are self-harm scars a turn-off?” “Should I try to hide my scars from my partner?” “When is it appropriate to explain my scars to a partner, and how can I best approach this type of conversation?” What are the right answers to these questions about self-harm scars and dating?

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Introduction to Kayla Chang, Author of ‘Speaking Out About Self-Injury’

Introduction to Kayla Chang, Author of ‘Speaking Out About Self-Injury’

Kayla Chang, author of "Speaking Out About Self-Injury," talks about self-harm struggles and recovery. Learn about Kayla Chang and how she's shaping this blog.My name is Kayla Chang, and I’m thrilled and honored to be a part of the Speaking Out About Self-Injury blog at HealthyPlace. I hope that by sharing my thoughts and experiences in a way that is informative, vulnerable and — most importantly — honest with you, we can build an ongoing network of support and have meaningful, productive conversations around the issue of self-injury (also known as self-harm) together.

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3 Things that Trigger My Self-Harm Urges

3 Things that Trigger My Self-Harm Urges

At least three situations trigger my self-harm urges, and I suspect you understand why they do. Are some triggers of your self-harm urges the same? Let's talk.

I have been in self-harm recovery for about 10 years now, often dealing with what triggers my self-harm urges. During that time, it has always been difficult for me to identify what exactly is triggering my self-harm urges. It wasn’t until I went to my last therapist that I got the tools to figure out my underlying patterns of self-injuring. In this post, I want to go over the three main reasons behind why I started self-harming. Maybe your triggers for self-harm urges are similar.

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A Way to Recognize Self-Harm Triggers and Stop Self-Injury

A Way to Recognize Self-Harm Triggers and Stop Self-Injury

When you can recognize self-harm triggers, you're in a better position to manage the urge without hurting yourself. Here's how to recognize self-harm triggers.

I have been in self-harm recovery for the past 10 years, but I didn’t always know how to recognize self-harm triggers. When I was a teenager, I went to therapy to help me get over my self-harm addiction. One day, my therapist asked me “Why do you think you self-harm?” Until that moment I never really thought about the reasons behind why I self-harm. I always just thought it was the way I coped with different situations in my life. We started to brainstorm some situations, people, and events that trigger my self-harm urges. It’s beneficial to recognize self-harm triggers so you can find healthier coping skills to handle your stress.

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Ways to Explain Self-Harm Scars to Children

Ways to Explain Self-Harm Scars to Children

There are ways to explain self-harm scars to children that don't stress you out too much. Consider these things when faced with explaining self-harm scars.

There are ways to explain self-harm scars to children, but I haven’t always known what to say. When I was in my first year of college I had a job working with children at a daycare. Children are curious by nature and they ask a lot of questions about their surroundings. If something is “out of the norm” they are going to ask questions about it. One night, I wore a dress which showed a few of my scars. I had a small child come up and ask me, “Teacher, what happened to your leg?”

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