'Everything Happens for a Reason' Is a Lie, and Here's Why

June 8, 2021 Megan Griffith

"Everything happens for a reason" is a popular trope in the world of mental health recovery, but personally, I believe it's a lie, and here's why.

If Everything Happens for a Reason, Why Does Mental Illness Exist?

Let's start with the basics. Why would mental illness exist if everything happens for a reason? There are several possible explanations, but none of them really hold water with me. First, some people say that bad things happen for a reason because they make us stronger. However, this is a misrepresentation of what's really happening. The bad thing didn't make us strong; we found that strength within ourselves. Plus, it is always better for a person to be safe and well than for them to be strong.

Second, many people will say that mental illness is meant to happen because it gives us superpowers, like increased creativity or heightened empathy. But I don't love that explanation either. It takes our own personal, positive traits and gives the credit for those traits to our mental illnesses. This also complicates the recovery process because if our good traits are coming from our mental illness, then we are less likely to actually want to recover.

Finally, some people argue that mental illness happens for a reason because it gives them a sense of control when in reality, it's impossible to control mental illness completely. Some people prefer to think that mental illness happens to certain people for a reason and not to them because it gives them a sense of superiority. Obviously, I don't agree with this reasoning because people without mental illness are no better than people with mental illness.

Finding Peace, Even If Everything Doesn't Happen for a Reason

When I first started processing the idea that everything didn't happen for a reason, the world suddenly felt a lot scarier. It was more chaotic and uncertain, and I couldn't predict what would happen or why. But then I realized there was also freedom in not needing a reason for everything. There was peace in knowing that I had to surrender some control to something bigger than myself. Whether you want to call it God, the universe, or just dumb luck, there is something bigger out there that controls things that I can't. Like whether or not I'm born with a predisposition for mental illness, for instance.

What about you? Do you believe everything happens for a reason? Let's talk about it in the comments.

APA Reference
Griffith, M. (2021, June 8). 'Everything Happens for a Reason' Is a Lie, and Here's Why, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2022, January 28 from

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