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Reasons for Suicide: When Your Brain Lies to You

Reasons for suicide are examples of your brain lying to you. Find out how to fight brain lies and discredit reasons for suicide, no matter how strong they are.

I hear from many people who are suicidal and these people give many reasons for suicide; but these reasons for suicide are typically lies from their brains called cognitive distortions. For example, one lie might be the idea that everyone is a selfish liar, or, put more simply, everyone is “bad” and the suicidal person cannot live in a world where everyone is bad. I think it’s really important to address this because, certainly, if you really did think everyone was selfish or everyone was a liar then being suicidal would be much more natural. But the fact Is, this (and other) reasons for suicide are false.

Top Reasons for Suicide I’ve Heard

There Is Too Much Suffering in the World

Part of thinking that everyone is bad is looking around and seeing so much suffering in the world. Clearly, if there are so many wars, murders, rapes and other atrocities then this “proves” that people are bad and some people are overwhelmed by this notion.

Everyone in My Life is a Selfish Liar

Reasons for suicide are typically your brain lying to you. Find out how to fight brain lies and thinking you have reasons to suicide.And then there are people who have had negative experiences with people in their lives and, so, feel that these negative experiences are the only ones that will ever happen. When your boy/girlfriend cheats, your best friend lies or you perceive people as selfish, it can be a very negative space to be in and can feel like a reason for suicide.

Reasons for Suicide Are Cognitive Distortions

But the fact of the matter is, viewing everyone as a selfish liar or viewing everyone as bad is something called a cognitive distortion. In other words, it’s a false thought, usually put there by an illness. I explain more below.

In other words, these are lies that your brain is telling you that makes you think they are reasons for suicide. They are not, however.

Why Aren’t These Reasons for Suicide?

It’s quite simple. These cognitive distortions are not reasons for suicide because they’re false and as thinking, intelligent beings, we can recognize them as such with our insight. It’s really easy to believe these brain lies when you’re really depressed and suicidal, I know, but we need to fight back against these thoughts and replace them with reasonable assertions.

For example:

  • “Everyone is bad.” – While some people are a negative influence, many people are positive influences too. In fact, most people have both “good” and “bad” in them even if it seems like I’m only seeing the “bad” right now.
  • “Everyone is a selfish liar.” – It’s true that some people are selfish and lie but not everyone is like this. Some people would, in fact, put others’ needs in front of their own. I know this because people like Mother Theresa exist.
  • “There is too much suffering in the world.” – It’s true, any amount of suffering is “too much” but in addition to suffering there is great joy as well. There are simple things like looking at a sunset or bigger things like falling in love. There is much to celebrate if I choose to look around and see it.

And so on. We need to use our wise minds to combat the lies coming from our brains.

Because in the end, the concept of a “reasonable reason for suicide” is pretty much oxymoronic. There are few, if any, reasonable reasons for suicide, no matter how real and reasonable they feel to us when we’re suicidal.

So remember, don’t let brain lies become reasons for suicidality. You can fight against those lies and learn to live in hope instead of pain.

You can find Natasha Tracy on Facebook or Google+ or @Natasha_Tracy on Twitter or at Bipolar Burble, her blog.

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Author: Natasha Tracy

Natasha Tracy is a renowned speaker, award-winning advocate and author of Lost Marbles: Insights into My Life with Depression & Bipolar.

Find Natasha Tracy on her blog, Bipolar Burble, Twitter, Google+ and Facebook.

18 thoughts on “Reasons for Suicide: When Your Brain Lies to You”

  1. I know of men and women who took their own lives. They were so depressed and out of it that they weren’t truly aware of what they were doing. But to actually plan your own suicide is a sin against the Fifth Commandment. People who have MH issues need to and should seek professional help before it so out of hand that they literally lose it. There is help, but one has to accept the fact they do indeed need help. Someone who is bipolar and does not deal with it is I truly believe a threat to themselves and those they live with and or work with. Comparable to a bomb ready to go off. They are like Jekyl and Hyde. Finding the right psychiatrist and medication or combinations of meds can take time, but is worth it. So is psychiatric hospital therapy. Better a two week stay in a hospital than out on your own without the help and care of a professional staff. PhilHaven in Pennsylvania is wonderful as is Harrisburg’s PPI.

  2. I am so tired guys and guys. I don’t have people to reach out to, and the one person I thought I had, doesn’t seem to care. My distorted thoughts cannot seem to be relinquished! I thought my boyfriend had a clearer understanding of my condition. But he just tells me, I can control my thoughts feelings and emotions–just disregarded my feelings like they didn’t matter.

    It hasn’t helped that I haven’t seen my therapist in a month due to his cancelling. Every distorted thought is validated and confirms my worthlessness. No one seems to understand the pain I am in. I wish I had the strength to end it all. I think about how it would hurt others that say they love me and care. But I am mostly a burden to everyone and it appears as if I offer nothing to no one. I don’t even have my own independence for crying out loud. Anyway, something has got to give. Even my threatening of suicide gets no reaction. It is funny how people say they will be there, but appear to have no problem with you leaving this world. Maybe soon it will be my last cry! I want the courage and strength to end it all! I truly do! Can it really be selfish when you truly feel alone and you are more of a burden than joy to have around? Perhaps not!!

  3. Suicidal thoughts are ever so tempting when you have been fighting this illness for a long time and it has robbed you of the chance of a normal life like having stable friendships/ relationships not being able to work and having to deal with the abuse and being treated like a second class citizen because of the stigma. I’m only 25 and I’m sorry if it seems like I am moaning but I do wish I was living life like my peers. I’ve been ill for a long time with these mood swings now it never seems to get any easier. I don’t want to have to put up with being sick all my life.

  4. I struggle with thoughts of suicide often….and am struggling with it very strongly today. But not in the typical sense of actually doing it myself. I have an ICD device (internal cardiovascular defibrillator). It is absolutely imperative to my survival to have this device. Without it I will die but it is also the very thing that is crippling me. I want to have my device turned off so that I can be at peace. I struggle with bi-polar (I believe….though have not been diagnosed….), severe anxiety and panic disorder which was precipitated by many zaps from my device when I was conscious and alert. I have suffered many cardiac episodes resulting in injury and almost drowned in my bathtub following a seizure. Life can be unbearable. I live in constant fear and it is crippling. The only reason I have not had it turned off is because I have 4 children who need their mom. But….in reality I feel I am also crippling them with my depression. It’s a hard call.

  5. Dear Natasha

    On June 16 I was surprised to read on your other blog that TrueHope is threatening/bullying you with a lawsuit for voicing your opinion of their product. I just want to tell you I think that’s absolutely ludicrous!

    Please be strong and keep yourself safe. Don’t let them get to you

    Hold your head high and never forget all the good that you for others

  6. I so understand. I really do. Other health problems, like constant pain also makes it hard to go on. Feeling useless and guilty also does. Just being exausted from fighting bipolar also makes it hard. Been fighting it 43 years and I am so so tired. My pet’s and hubby keep me alive. But I still fight the lying thoughts all….the….time. am overeating to cope. 🙁 glaucoma and diabetes as well as aspergers is kicking my butt too. I miss family I can’t see or help. I feel I always should be apologizing for still existing. I have no friends. Can’t keep any. My family is sick of me too. I have never ever felt I belonged anywhere for long. I keep going to protect my hubby and pets and hoping to see my grandbaby, daughter and son in law someday. That keeps me going.

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