The Impact of PTSD on Your Sex Drive

Wednesday, March 21 2018 Tia Hollowood

How can PTSD impact your sex drive in long-term relationships? Read on at HealthyPlace for suggestions on how to discuss PTSD and your sex drive with your partner. Although PTSD impacts sex drive, it doesn't have to destroy your relationship.

One of the things I find most frustrating about living with posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is the impact PTSD has on my sex drive. I am a private person, and sex is a decidedly personal issue for many people, so I've put this topic off many times. However, the problems that PTSD can bring to partners don't go away on their own, so let's explore the potential difficulties that PTSD symptoms can bring to a sexual relationship.

Why Does PTSD Impact Sex Drive?

Even within loving, successful, long-term relationships, individuals with PTSD can experience significant fluctuations in their sex drive. I am not referring to a physical inability to perform sexually, but a cognitive barrier to engaging in sex. As an example, I go through cycles, from what I consider a healthy, average sex drive, to complete avoidance of any intimate contact. I’m not alone in this.

Studies show that regardless of the type of trauma experienced, individuals with PTSD are three times as likely to suffer similar sexual dysfunction. According to researchers, one of the essential reasons for this is that PTSD symptoms can be in direct conflict with pleasure, intimacy, trust, and feelings of safety. The same arousal that occurs with sexual activity can also heighten involuntary reactions such as fear, self-loathing, or disgust. These reactions can manifest at any time. In other words, PTSD affects sex drive for many reasons.

Dealing with PTSD and Your Sex Drive's Changing Levels

As with many of the symptoms and complications of PTSD, understanding how PTSD can disrupt sexual activity is a big step towards coping with it. In the midst of a romantic moment, a hidden trigger or unwelcome thought can cause an individual with PTSD to feel threatened or out of control. These feelings can initiate a flight response, dissociation, or any number of PTSD symptoms.

When triggered, a person with PTSD might shut down and reject a partner without being able to explain why. Perhaps even worse, feelings of shame, fear of angering or of disappointing a partner, or insecurity can make one anxious and frightened for the stability of a relationship. In this situation, a triggered person may force themselves to continue with sexual activity even when they are finding it uncomfortable or unwelcome.

When to Talk about PTSD and Your Sex Drive

So when is it the right time to mention the sexual difficulties that accompany your PTSD? In the following video, I discuss the importance of speaking with a partner before problematic situations arise, how to repair the damage when a trigger catches you off-guard, and some added benefits to being open and honest with a partner about barriers to sexual interactions caused by PTSD.

Talking About PTSD and Sex Drive Can Strengthen Relationships

By discussing with a partner how PTSD can flatline sexual desire on an involuntary, unpredictable basis, we open the door to understanding. We also increase the probability of more consistent sexual arousal over time. An individual with PTSD can let go of apprehension over deflecting a partner's affection and stop making excuses to avoid intimacy, leading to more relaxed and natural interactions.

If you struggle with PTSD and sex drive, you deserve a partner who can love and understand this difficulty for what it is, and who is willing to help you heal through this complicated issue.

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The Impact of PTSD on Your Sex Drive

Mira Cassidy
April, 9 2018 at 4:46 pm

I think this is a very important article because being aware of how you are affected sexually is an important part of the healing process and feeling whole again.

Hungry for affection
October, 29 2018 at 11:16 pm

I'm sitting here crying reading this because I'm 42 and I've never been able to enjoy sex because of C-PTSD. Whenever I feel ready the feeling just drains out of my body and then I can feel nothing. I'm still not really sure how to fix this, but I appreciate the article anyway as it validates something that's been happening my whole life that people think I'm crazy for. What a horrid, horrible invisible prison this is.

Tia Hollowood
October, 30 2018 at 10:18 am

Thank you for sharing. I understand how you feel. I have been there so many times myself. In fact when I wrote this piece, I asked my husband to proofread it, to make sure he read it. It is difficult for sure, but you need a partner who can understand what’s happening.

M. Pence
December, 10 2018 at 5:42 am

I'm just now coming to terms that I have PTSD, and seeing how much my wife is suffering from my problem. My wife is beautiful and I have always enjoyed sex with her but as of late and actually being diagnosed with PTSD I hope I can regain our sexual relationship. But this article has help me to express to her what's going on and how PTSD has changed my sexual life

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