Talking Back to Your Negative Self-Harm Voice
We all have that little mean, negative, self-harm voice inside our heads, constantly nagging us and pointing out all our mistakes. Self-harm often comes with negative self-talk, but it's worth remembering that you are not your thoughts, you are just listening to them. You can choose to ignore them -- or even create a dialogue between you and your self-injury voice.
How to Stop the Negative Self-Harm Voice
What would you say to self-harm if it was a person? What would you call it? Giving your negative voice a name can help you separate yourself from it, and create a healthy distance between you and your inner-critic. In this video, I show you how I talk to my negative self-harm voice as if it was a real person. I hope it will inspire you to take leadership of your inner dialogue and regain control over your self-harm thoughts.
Have you tried this to overcome the self-harm voice with this technique? Let us know how it worked for you in the comments.
Halas, M. (2020, June 8). Talking Back to Your Negative Self-Harm Voice, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2021, January 17 from https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/speakingoutaboutselfinjury/2020/6/talking-back-to-your-negative-self-harm-voice
Author: Martyna Halas
I absolutely love the suggestion of giving that self-harming voice a name, I often do this with fear as well. As you mentioned, it allows us to make that separation -- I am not this voice. We take our power back. This is also wonderful in terms of allowing us to "press pause" when we separate ourselves from it we're also able to give ourselves the time and space to keep from instantly getting swept up by the voice. This is a practice, and while it takes time and awareness, it is a wonderful tool to work with.
Thanks so much for the comment! I'm glad you like using this tool for yourself -- I have to try this with fear next time :) I mostly use it with self-doubt, though I can see how this method would work for a myriad of other negative voices. We can tackle absolutely everything if we learn to press pause and separate ourselves from our dark feelings. It takes practice, but it's so worth it.
Have a wonderful day!
The self-harm voice is brutal at times but I started dealing with it pretty well. Sometimes I even have fun at how ridiculous and unfounded are some of the things I hear in my head. But for the most part I love acknowledging that whoever this voice may be, it doesn't really KNOW anything about me. My favourite comeback line is "I know you think that". Then I'm not fighting it nor agreeing with it so it's just left dead in the water, out of fuel. And it goes with a dose of irony that makes me feel good and relaxed in the moment too. Doesn't always work cos sometimes I'm not aware of when it shows up but I'm getting better at recognizing it quickly.
Hi Andrei, nice to read you here :)
It's good to let the voice speak sometimes, at least you're not holding anything inside. Talking back to it can have a comical effect, too. Sometimes I chuckle when I tell my voice: "Whatever, Karen! Go home!". Recognizing it can be tricky, but I've noticed it gets better with time. And journaling can be helpful, too. I wrote about it in my latest post here: https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/speakingoutaboutselfinjury/2020/6/how-to-manage-self-h…
Thanks for your comment and have a great day :)