Negative Self-Talk? Try to Get Over Yourself

March 18, 2022 Natasha Tracy

Do you suffer from an inner voice that tells you others are thinking you're ugly, an idiot, or just plain crazy? You might try combatting that by trying to get over yourself. I know this sounds a bit harsh, and admittedly, I've been known to be overly harsh with myself, but I think there's something to this. Let me explain what I mean when I say, "Get over yourself." 

I have lots of negative voices in me that tell me lots of negative things about myself. In fact, sometimes, these negative things are so strong that I don't want to leave the house. "Oh my god, my hair!" "I can't stand my face!" "I'm too fat to be allowed to live!" And the voices continue. It's very unpleasant, to say the least.

There are many ways of coping with these voices, but one of them is to get over yourself.

Getting Over Yourself

You see, a voice saying you are ugly doesn't in and of itself matter. If you dig a little, you'll see the anxiety is from other people thinking you're ugly. That's why we don't want to leave the house. It's because we're scared that's what other people are thinking, and we can't face it.

So get over yourself.

See, you're not so important. In fact, you're not important at all. You're just another ant crawling across the planet, and as much as you're at the center of your own universe, everyone else is at the center of their own universes as well. This means they're far too worried about their inner critic to sit around judging the fact that you're wearing last week's fashion. By getting hung up on your inner voice, you're feeding the false belief that you, how you look, what you say, and how you say it is all deeply meaningful to everyone else. Likely, this just isn't remotely true. No one has put you on a pedestal, so you have nowhere to fall, trust me. 

How to Get Over Yourself

Watch this video I made on getting over yourself to reduce negative self-talk.

In short, saying to myself, "get over yourself," is basically a wake-up call for me. It's a bit of a slap in the face that I need when I'm in a negative thought spiral. I hope you can use it as a wake-up all for you too. Breaking that spiral can prevent worsening depression and save so much heartache. 

APA Reference
Tracy, N. (2022, March 18). Negative Self-Talk? Try to Get Over Yourself, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2024, July 24 from

Author: Natasha Tracy

Natasha Tracy is a renowned speaker, award-winning advocate, and author of Lost Marbles: Insights into My Life with Depression & Bipolar. She's also the host of the podcast Snap Out of It! The Mental Illness in the Workplace Podcast.

Natasha is also unveiling a new book, Bipolar Rules! Hacks to Live Successfully with Bipolar Disorder, mid-2024.

Find Natasha Tracy on her blog, Bipolar BurbleX, InstagramFacebook, and YouTube.

Obbo Brian
March, 22 2022 at 2:09 am

I really need to get over my self,I have been struggling with other people's opinions. Thank you

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