Change the Way You Talk to Yourself to Feel Better

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Change the Way You Talk to Yourself to Feel Better

Negative self-talk is a hallmark of almost every mental health challenge, from mental illness to personality disorders to just the ordinary experiences of being human. We all have automatic negative thoughts that cloud the way we perceive ourselves and the world around us, and when we turn these against ourselves, we suffer.

Some common themes of negative self-talk include self-blame, using harsh labels to describe yourself, and berating yourself for perceived weaknesses while discounting the value of your strengths. Essentially, we can be good at bullying ourselves, and this takes a toll on our mental health.  

You don’t have to be a victim of your own self-talk. Tune in to your words and thoughts and replace mean words with realistic positive ones. For example:

Change “I’m stupid,” to “I don’t know everything, but I know a lot about __________.”

“No one likes me,” can become “_________ likes me, and I know it because _________.”

Shift from “I don’t deserve happiness,” to “Despite my imperfections, I’m a good person and I deserve happiness as much as others.”

“I’m never going to ___________” can become “I’m persistent and patient, and I’ll get this.”

What you say to yourself matters. When you change your words, you’ll begin to feel more mentally healthy.

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Mental Health Quote

"Dont let others define you or they might pick the worst word in the dictionary."

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APA Reference
Peterson, T. (2020, June 16). Change the Way You Talk to Yourself to Feel Better, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2024, May 27 from

Last Updated: June 16, 2020

Medically reviewed by Harry Croft, MD

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