Bipolar Disorder and Feeling Unlovable
Bipolar disorder and feeling unlovable. I started thinking about this topic on Valentine's Day; ironically, the day of love. I want to confront why those of us with bipolar disorder think we are unlovable and share the importance of remaining hopeful about love.
We Think We Are Unlovable Because We Have Bipolar Disorder
Let this be the last time you think that bipolar makes you unlovable because it is entirely false. Living with bipolar 2 disorder is a challenge, and may cause us to have a difficult time in romantic relationships. However, we blame bipolar disorder for everything about our lives that may not be going as planned. We emphasize our mental health as being the main thing that damages romantic relationships.
There is no question I can be a bit of a rollercoaster, but I can also share many gifts with another person. In love, you have to take the good with the bad. People aren't risk takers in love these days, and bipolar stigma persuades people to believe that those of who live with bipolar disorder are a significant risk. It's hard to teach ourselves otherwise, but necessary.
I receive numerous negative comments and messages from people about dating someone with bipolar disorder. Words such as, "Don't ever date a bipolar person otherwise your life will be ruined," or, "Bipolar women are nut jobs, stay away!" These types of ignorant comments have the intention of making us feel like we are unlovable because we have bipolar disorder. However, these words reveal to me how insecure people are about facing challenges in life or being with someone who is different. Stop believing that bipolar disorder makes you incapable of finding love because it is not the truth.
Keeping Hope About Finding Love in the Future
Don't let society or a couple of bad apples dictate your future. You know yourself better than anyone, and you know what you deserve.
As someone who is single and living with bipolar 2 disorder, there have been many moments and relationships were I questioned love. To regain hope, I decided to utilize my bipolar mind, emotional depth, and creativity. Last year, I started collecting vintage love letters from all over the world. A collection that is now up to about 100 letters with sweet messages of love to others.
I can emotionally connect to these notes which gives me hope. Instead of wallowing in my pain, I started designing a bookcase with the letters that represents love in every way. I use the hurt that I have faced when it comes to love as fuel for my fire. Heartbreak sucks, and I have gone through it often, but again it builds my story, and it builds yours too.
We can love harder than anyone else and don't ever be ashamed of that part of you. Not everyone was created to love the way we do, and not everyone was built to handle that type of love. We are unique individuals, and so are the ones who are made to love us. You are special and deserve to be treated as such. So call up some friends and cheers to keeping hope and love alive. Make every day Valentine's Day.
Blum, H. (2018, February 20). Bipolar Disorder and Feeling Unlovable, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2021, June 13 from https://www.healthyplace.com/living-with-bipolar-blog/bipolar-disorder-and-feeling-unlovable
Author: Hannah Blum
I feel that when I am sick, I am not worth the time to stay in love with. Because I am not FUN. I am too much. I am not enough. I feel like that now. I would be someone to be in love with if I were not sometimes sick. None of us are FUN all of the time. But beepers, we are not enough. That's what I feel from my loved one. Not enough yet too much.