Does Someone You Know Have Dissociative Identity Disorder?

January 18, 2017 Crystalie Matulewicz

With more than 1% of the population having dissociative identity disorder (DID), it's more likely than not that you know someone who has DID. He or she may be open about his or her diagnosis, or you may suspect the disorder even though he or she hasn't admitted it. So, what should you do if you think someone you know has DID?

People with DID vary in their levels of openness about their disorder. Some people are openly multiple. They are comfortable letting anyone know they have DID. Other people with DID are more private. They may disclose their diagnosis to close family and friends, but they do not share their diagnosis with the public. There are also people who keep their DID a secret from everyone, including friends and family.

Things to Consider When Someone You Know Has DID

Respect Boundaries Regardless of a Person's DID Disclosure

Not every person with DID is willing to disclose a DID diagnosis. Mental health diagnoses come with a lot of stigma and misunderstanding, especially DID. People with DID already struggle with safety, and disclosing their multiplicity may be seen as a risk to their safety. It's best to let them know you are a safe and supportive person, instead of asking them about their diagnosis outright.

If you do ask someone about a DID diagnosis, always respect the response you get, even if it may be denial. You never know a person's reason. Someone may not actually have DID, or the person just may not be ready to disclose. Whatever the response, don't push the issue. Be respectful of the person's right to privacy. Continue to support the person, and when the person is ready, if the person ever is, he or she will open up to you in his or her own time.

You Can Be a Source of Support for Someone with DID

What should you do if you know someone with DID? How can you help? Find out what you can do if someone you know has dissociative identity disorder. Read this.

If someone you know has DID, be there for the person. The diagnosis of those with DID doesn't change who they are. People with DID are human beings, people just like you and me. They have needs, and one of those needs is social support. It's okay if you don't know what to do -- you don't have to be their therapist--just be a friend. Listen. Don't make assumptions. Learn as much as you can about DID. Be patient. Reach out and provide a helping hand.

Every person with DID is different, and each of us has different needs. One of the best ways to support people with DID is to ask them what they need. It could be a listening ear, or maybe even a hug. Maybe they need a ride somewhere or a safe person to spend time with. Maybe their younger parts need someone to comfort them. Don't be afraid to ask. Even seemingly little things can make a huge difference for people with DID.

There Is Support for You If You Know Someone with DID

While it is important for you to be a source of support, it's just as important for you to seek support as well. If you feel overwhelmed, don't be ashamed. It's okay to take a step back and take care of yourself. You can talk to a therapist or social worker. Reach out to supportive friends and family. There are also numerous online support groups dedicated to family, friends, spouses, and loved ones of those with DID. You are not alone in this.

Remember, a diagnosis doesn't change who someone is. That person with DID is still the same one you knew before -- he or she just happen to be more parts in one body.

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APA Reference
Matulewicz, C. (2017, January 18). Does Someone You Know Have Dissociative Identity Disorder?, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2021, July 27 from

Author: Crystalie Matulewicz

Crystalie is the founder of PAFPAC, is a published author and the writer of Life Without Hurt. She has a BA in psychology and will soon have an MS in Experimental Psychology, with a focus on trauma. Crystalie manages life with PTSD, DID, major depression, and an eating disorder. You can find Crystalie on FacebookGoogle+, and Twitter.

Tyler E
June, 20 2020 at 3:16 pm

My now ex gf might have this and in the span of a year changed her name three times... before I was the love of her life but now she says I can’t win her back or be friends.... what do I do if I want to get my gf back in the end... she claims she needs time and I’m trying to give her space but I want to know if it’s gonna work.... how long should I wait before she’s willing to be friends with me again at least

March, 6 2019 at 4:56 am

I think my friend might have DID.
She either is my best friend or she hates me so much she actually tryst to hurt me. She has told me that in her past she has suffered some mental trauma because of fights between her parents. I do know that in most cases trauma is the cause for peoples DID. It's really confusing me and sometimes when she's being her "other self" I guess it makes me really upset and because I have autism I'm not that good at coping with stuff like this.

February, 23 2019 at 4:20 pm

My boyfriend has DID and we are trying to figure it all out and sometimes one of his personalities comes out and talks to me. I’ve never officially seen him but we’ve spoken a few times and he says that another personality is developing. I just want to know what I can do to help the developing personality feel safe as of the two personalities I know, they both have names and a separate voice but the new one seems to just be mimicking the others. If there is a website that anyone knows of, I would love to see it because I can’t find any of my own. Thanks

April, 13 2017 at 11:28 pm

I have a friend with DID and I have been confused lately. Sometimes we are sooooooo close other times I can go a couple of days and hear nothing but one phrase. Is it possible that I am conversing with two instead of one. She didn't tell me who to look for or anything so I wasn't even sure it was still an active diagnosis. Even thought we were over when she said to not contact her for a week. Then she got back in touch like it was no big deal. I thought maybe it was just me, but I'm starting to see a trend.

In reply to by Anonymous (not verified)

March, 1 2018 at 1:23 am

my friend changed after one night from my best friend to someone who didn't recognize we used to be close. It's hurt and confused always.

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