How Not to Take Bipolar Hypomania Irritability Out on Others
It’s critical to know how not to take your bipolar hypomania irritability out on others, if that is one of your symptoms of hypomania (What's The Difference Between Bipolar Mania and Hypomania?). I wish I was one of those people for whom hypomania is a party, but I’m not. For me, I’m highly irritable, annoyed, anxious and agitated. But I know that this is part of my bipolar disorder so I try not to take my bipolar hypomania irritability out on others.
What Does Bipolar Hypomania Feel Like?
The symptoms of a hypomanic episode present differently in different people, but for me it’s a highly irritating time. I just want to lash out at people because they are slow and stupid. I want to lash out at people simply because I feel so agitated. I want to get mad at people for no reason other than the fact that I just want to get mad to get this annoying energy out of me. It isn’t the least bit fair for me and, certainly, not for others (The Relationship Between Bipolar and Anger / Aggression).
How Not to Take Bipolar Hypomania Irritability Out on Others
Of course, I can’t lash out at people or get mad at them for nothing. That would ruin relationships and make me an awful person to be around. So here are some of the ways I don’t take out bipolar hypomania irritability on others.
- I know that the irritability and other agitating symptoms are part of my disease and not real or justified.
- I know that just because I feel a certain way, doesn’t mean I can trust what I feel, and I must be very careful of acting on a feeling.
- I know that I have to take responsibility for my mental illness and temper my actions towards others. If I choose to act on these feelings it may feel like it’s not my fault but I still need to take responsibility for my own actions, even if they are colored by an illness.
- I know that relationships are important to me and so are people. I need to treat them with respect and the way I want to be treated.
- I know how I would feel if someone lashed out at me for no reason. I wouldn’t wish that on anyone else.
- I know that thinking before I speak and breathing deeply instead of speaking can help me calm my hypomania irritability enough to make better choices about how I act (How To Communicate With Confidence: 7 Steps).
In short, and I’ve said this before, bipolar is not an excuse for treating other people like crap, and I know it. I’m not saying it’s easy to best the thoughts coming out of an ill brain, but I’m saying it can be done. I’m saying that no matter how I feel, it’s up to me not to let that hurt other people. Because, after all, I have no desire to hurt others when I’m in my right mind and I have to carry that belief forward, even when losing a battle with my bipolar brain may temporarily lessen the strain.
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Tracy, N. (2015, September 18). How Not to Take Bipolar Hypomania Irritability Out on Others, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2019, June 25 from https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/breakingbipolar/2015/09/how-not-to-take-bipolar-hypomania-irritability-out-on-others
Author: Natasha Tracy
So yes, I’d be agitated when under stress and didn’t know when to stop texting. Now I reread what I have texted or avoid people until I have calmed down. I think being passive aggressive is just as bad such as being ignored.
The other reason I texted is because They couldn’t blame me for sounding angry. I’ve apologized when People said something to me. I’ve never blown up at friends, but people closest to me. at least now I know when I feel agitated and my mind is racing I need to distance myself until I can stop the thoughts.
Why are peeps so slow & stupid & lazy & unmotivated??
Most likely due to stress & my dads birthday / anniversary of death,not sleeping will start it
I felt no control over my emotions,though I took meds.
Cried in grocery store,THATS EMBARASSING....
15 mins later with elevated voice I fucking hate my shitty life!
Next person I'm going to punch them in the face!
Or kick their ass!
Finally writing a dumb ass email to my sister ( by the way,she never replied,per usual)
I'm certain,omg Sandra's in crazy-way.
Let her rest...she'll be fine...
Ah how little you know...& she's not there the many breakdowns....
Actually I hate her anyway so who cares?
When I think of all ...oh it's private,personal.
I hope I can zz a hr or so but my head feels like someone hit it with a tree trunk.
Life in the fast lane....JC am I the only one that hears weird shit.....I know ambulance was REAL ( not for ME GOOD) HATE BEING TOLD WTF to do...
Cause many residents,DUH I'm smarter,guess SO THAN YOU even some PSYCHS.
Ppl ARE TO ME ALL TOXIC right now,so I stay with my cat.
Yes,I CUT EVERY FRIEND OFF ( not that had many)
I function better SOLO,but everyone's different.....NONE OF MY COPING SKILLS WORKED
TODAY......its Just like that sometimes,I GET EXTREMELY FRUSTRATED when this happens
as I tried SO SO hard,then feel what FOR?
ramble On.going to buy a crystal ball soon ( no,serious,) beauty products fr Sephora new clothes ( I've lost weight like this) dream no 9
I still trigger,I'm now...in middle of one.
But I've my toolbox w coping stragies
Meds...just remember ...proceed with caution.
I've got a splitting hell migraine ....usually means a mixed episode
$&@! Sandra ..omg
Even getting into fights with bfs.( physical,& verbal)
I get energy of bionic woman,no sleep...used to have affairs..
Blast music on my stereo,dance around,while watching sexy male rock gods online,while
using my swifter ( like a duster-broom)
I'd also,break my cell phones,so my BF,couldn't track me while I was with a guy barely 40
I was 52...4 cell phones, 1 computer toasted.
The worst when my BF ( my own age) started stalking me...
At the groc shop....manic I nearly rammed the cart of food threw the glass doors of the mall!!
Some ppl say they like the rush of andrenaline....personally,I'd prefer a quiet mind.
With peace,to be able to always stay focused & on task.
Maybe one day.
What I do,is slow count to ten,closing my eyes now,also,getting some air...even just getting out of the house walk round block...or listening to the rain,petting my lovely cat,so gentle.
May I suggest if possible that ppl consider a pet,it truly is good therapy,unconditional love
At least I never got arrested for any thing I've done,so relief.
But I do feel almost possessed like a devil when manic
When stressed, I feel agitated with people around me and people I have known from the past.
Some friends who I felt have hurt me, I reached a point where I had to cut them off. But I sometimes wonder, was I too sensitive or did they agitate me. I try list the reasons why I cut them off and then I realize it didn't have anything to do with my bipolar.
I think being too sensitive is also a part of hypomania, but I could be wrong.
"Laura, you're hypomanic. You're talking very fast and not making any sense.
I guess I should hang the symptoms on my wall!
Thank you for sharing.
Whenever I'm asked how hypomania feels I don't always know what to say....your description hit it right on the nose. Yes, there are times when I have tons of energy but for the most part I'm so irritable and any little thing makes me more angry. I'm finding it harder and harder to not lash out but I know I'm the one that upset and no one else is causing the problem. Luckily my husband is patient and understanding and I do my best to keep my irritability at a minimum around him or at least I try. Thank you for your post!
Thank you for this apt description of irritability in hypomania. You've described what hypomania feels like for me, and this article will help me to explain it if someone asks me. I know it's slightly different for everyone, and I'm glad to hear that you don't find hypomania fun either.
There's a misconception, I think, that it might be great to have excess energy, less need for sleep, etc. For me, however, the feeling is scary and extremely uncomfortable.
I really appreciate you.