Disconnection in Depression: Signs and Tips to Reconnect
Depression causes disconnection from ourselves and our loved ones. It often leaves the one diagnosed with depression feeling emotionally detached, while in the process leaving his/her loved ones feeling hurt and confused (Effects of Depression on Family and Friends). There are some warning signs of disconnection in depression that we, as the ones who battle depression, can look for in ourselves; we can also ask our friends and family to help us notice when they appear, too. Once we've learned to recognize the signs of disconnection in depression, we can take steps to start connecting again.
My Signs of Disconnection in Depression
My first sign of disconnection in depression is when I notice that I begin to feel numb inside. I then gradually start to feel distant from those I love,and that distance seems to grow wider and wider as time passes. I shut down emotionally. I respond to questions with as few words as possible. I do not initiate conversations. Depression silences me.
The next disconnection in depression sign I notice is that I spend a large amount of time watching television and scrolling through apps on my phone (Binge-Watching Television While Coping with Depression). I am then able to lose myself in other people's lives and stay comfortably disconnected from my own. While I know it isn't healthy, when I get to this point, I am so emotionally disconnected due to my depression that I don't care. Burying myself in my television and phone allows me to escape, which is all I want to do when I get to this place mentally.
Those are my warning signs. When I start feeling numb and distant, I know that I'm beginning to disconnect due to my depression. If I start watching too much television or spending excessive amounts of time on my phone, then it's likely that an emotional detachment is imminent. The question is, what should we do when our warning signs appear?
What to Do About Emotional Disconnection in Depression
- Be honest. Tell your loved ones that you're starting to feel emotionally disconnected. Remind them that it's a symptom of depression. Don't be ashamed to talk about your mental health. Ask them to work with you and be a part of a team effort to battle depression.
- Ask your loved ones to be open with you. Tell them that you give them permission to gently point out any warning signs of disconnection that you start to exhibit. Invite them to express to you when they need to talk to you. Allow them to express the desire to hold your hand or to show affection. Of course, you should never do anything that makes you uncomfortable.
- Take small steps. Smile at someone. Tell a loved one, "I love you." Talk to friends and family. Some days a five-minute conversation is all we can manage, but then maybe the next day we are able to manage 10 minutes. Just keep making an effort. Small steps will eventually get us to our goal.
Know the warning signs of depression disconnection and know what to do when the signs appear. With these strategies in mind, we will be able to stay connected to those we love.
Smith, J. (2018, April 26). Disconnection in Depression: Signs and Tips to Reconnect, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2019, June 27 from https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/copingwithdepression/2018/04/depression-disconnection-signs-and-help
Author: Jennifer Smith
I was suppose to attend my friends 50th birthday party but I couldn't get myself out of the funk I was in to attend. Now she is upset with me. I want to explain my depression to her but I don't know how. Her friendship is important to me but explaining myself and my depression to her makes me a little nervous. How can I start the conversion that I am depressed and that my depression causes me to see myself in a negative light and I disconnect from people.
I’ve seen my decline. Nobody else because nobody else sees me or cares let alone loves me. When you can say that’ honestly nobody loves you, that’s the epitome of these illnesses major depression, anxiety disorders, theh the C-PTSD that not a soul even knows who should know me. I’m not even existing. I’m wishing everyday that somehow I die during the night and this pain is over. If not for my dog I’d have found a way and I’m dreading the day she’s no longer with me. That will be the end of me. I’ve so much love in my heart but how can I possibly feel this dead and empty, too?
I’m glad you’ve reached out. I’m one of the authors of the “Coping with Depression” blog. I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way. I have felt what you have many times and I know that it’s a terrible feeling. Please know that things can get better. Can you get in contact with your doctor or counselor to let them know how you’re feeling? And if you begin to feel suicidal, please get help: https://www.healthyplace.com/other-info/suicide/suicide-suicidal-thoughts-and-behaviors-toc/
I hope you start feeling better soon.