Overcoming Negative Self-Talk: My Journey to Self-Confidence

March 6, 2023 Teddy Mbukha

I have had many people talk to me about struggling with low self-confidence and negative self-talk and how hard it has been for them to train themselves to stop letting negative emotions control their lives. For years, I, too, struggled with these feelings. Self-criticism was a daily practice, and I would find fault in everything I did.

Until I realized my thoughts were holding me back, I lived in a self-designed prison where every step of progress was countered by five more backward. I could barely get through everyday tasks or even socialize.

I deliberately chose to take back control of my life, fully aware that I was going on a war against myself and needed to prepare my arsenal.

When speaking to people about their struggles, I used to just gloss through the things that helped me get better. After a while, I realized that these simple habits were practical strategies that could help others overcome negative self-talk and boost their self-confidence.

How I Overcame Negative Thinking and Increased My Self-Confidence

  • Practicing mindfulness -- It is hard to focus on the present moment when your mind jumps from one negative thought to the next. I never stopped to appreciate what was right in front of me. By being mindful, I was able to recognize when the negative thoughts started to creep in, and I could step back and analyze my thought processes. This method helped me realize that many of my thoughts were primarily rooted in insecurities and were rather irrational.
  • Reframing negative thoughts -- Before, when I caught myself in a loop of negative thoughts, I would keep it going and even add to it with new things to nitpick. Gradually, I began trying to reframe this mindset. Anytime I caught myself having negative thoughts, I would stop and change the negative wording from "can’t" to "try" and eventually "can." I learned to take failures as opportunities to learn, a shift that has incredibly boosted my growth and development.
  • Practicing self-care -- It is easy to neglect the very basics of self-care when you are caught in a web of negativity and self-doubt. Taking care of myself has become essential in overcoming negative self-talk and boosting self-confidence. I started by training myself to eat well, get enough sleep, and exercise often.
  • Setting progress goals -- Setting small, achievable goals is the best way to stay on track and has been a great help in building my confidence. Accomplishing a small goal makes me feel more capable and motivates me to tackle bigger goals.
  • Celebrating small wins -- You don’t have to wait for big things to happen to celebrate. I’ve found that celebrating my successes is a real confidence boost, no matter how small they are.

Overcoming negative self-talk and boosting self-confidence is a journey that requires your full commitment. The strategies above have helped me turn my life around, and they can help you too.

APA Reference
Mbukha, T. (2023, March 6). Overcoming Negative Self-Talk: My Journey to Self-Confidence, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2024, May 30 from

Author: Teddy Mbukha

Leave a reply