What to Do When Anxiety Says You're a Failure
Why Anxiety Says You're a FailureFeeling like a failure seems to be a universal part of anxiety. Anxiety says you're a failure, so you worry about it, fear it, and thus find all sorts of reasons to back up what anxiety is telling you; this increases anxiety and, with it, a sense of failure and not being good enough. Anxiety has specific tricks for getting you to believe you're a failure. Anxiety takes control of your thinking and creates automatic negative thoughts (Cognitive Distortions and Self-Stigma) that stand between you and reality. To get you to believe you're not good enough, the little jerk anxiety speaks through causes you to engage in a few mind tricks. Discount the Positive. This is also known as yes-butting. If you do something well but focus on the one or two things that went wrong, giving those the most attention, you're discounting the positive. Yes, you did something well. Then anxiety tells you "but..." and you feel like you're not good enough. Mind-read and Compare. We can't know what others are thinking, but anxiety tries to do just that. It says that others are disappointed or annoyed with us, and we believe it. Anxiety's jerk-voice also constantly compares us to others and points out ways we fall short. Distort Reality. Anxiety puts far too much focus on what you're doing wrong, and it emphasizes mistakes both real and imagined. This is accomplished in part by discounting the positive and yes-butting away successes. Catastrophize. Anxiety makes mountains out of molehills, causing worry, fear, and panic. This fuels both more anxiety and the feeling that you're not good enough.
How to Respond When Anxiety Says You're Not Good EnoughWith anxiety, our thoughts aren't always trustworthy. It's possible to step away when anxiety tells you you're not good enough. One of the most effective ways to get anxiety to stop saying you're a failure is to take control of your perspective. How you interpret your reality affects both your anxiety level and how you see yourself. Don't let anxiety tell you how you're doing in your own life. You have the ability to think for yourself and question what anxiety tells you. You can tune into the below video for a look at how perspective can muffle anxiety when it says you're a failure. Let's connect. I blog here. Find me on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Instagram, and Pinterest. My mental health novels, including one about severe anxiety, are here. (Image is a likeness of me created in the Bitmoji App.)
Peterson, T. (2016, September 29). What to Do When Anxiety Says You're a Failure, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2021, May 17 from https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/anxiety-schmanxiety/2016/09/when-anxiety-says-youre-a-failure