Ten Ways to Live Free From Fear
At some point, we recognize that to live completely, we must live free from fear. Not free from fear of bears or cobras - some fear is practical. But to live free of fear to be yourself, to follow your dreams, to try something new... those are the fears from which freeing ourselves will allow us to live completely. Practice the following skills and you will live free from fear.
How to Live Free From Fear
1. See the good in your life, stay focused on this. Write down what you appreciate about your day every night before bed (Change your Mood With Gratitude). This will build your skills in seeing what you are grateful for and you will more readily see it during the following days. Keep this up until you feel a robust sense of your life and feel there is more to be grateful for than to fear.
2. Trust that you have the skills to can get through hard or difficult times. Fearing bad things happening and feeling that you will not survive them is a mark of anxiety. We have all gotten through hard times in the past. We now have greater skills to do it the next time. Take stock in your skills. Remember hard time are also opportunities to connect and hold onto what is truly important to us.
3. Don't be afraid of the anxiety. Anxiety needs you to be afraid of it to have any power over you. Since anxiety feels so uncomfortable, we often do fear it. If we were to say, "Oh this is just anxiety, just let it come." We would take the wind out of its sails and it wouldn't come or be much less than if we were afraid.
4. Do something that makes you feel better. Recognize that you are taking action to help yourself and that you can take action to help yourself instead of being a passive recipient to the anxiety. This will give you a sense of being more in control than out of control.
5. Get in touch with your 5 senses to help you stay in the present moment. For example: Look at the woven pattern in a piece of cloth. Focus closely on the breath going in and out of your nose. Listen to some music. Anxiety is worry about the future, and we could feel it so much we miss the present. Don't miss you life being anxious. Stay in the here and now (Mindfulness Can Calm Anxiety).
6. Remind yourself that anxiety is temporary. Panic attacks last for a finite time. Most people know how long they last. Remember that you will get through it within that time frame. This might help you be less scared and then allow you to pass through it faster.
7. Breathe. Use a focused breath. Bring the breath low into your belly. Count or pattern the breath to help increase your focus.
8. Connect with someone or something. Anxiety breeds in isolation. Connecting with a family member, a friend, a pet, or even a tree can help you feel less alone and often brings us out of the panic. Have a sense that you are not alone in life and you will be less scared of it.
9. Remember anxiety cannot hurt, it just feels like it is. Anxiety might feel like a heart attack or that you will stop breathing, but it is just an experience of these things. Fear that you are dying increases the anxiety. Remember this is only anxiety at work, and anxiety in and of itself cannot hurt you.
10. Stop judging yourself. Anxiety often has us blaming ourselves for everything. This makes you feel lousy and increases anxiety (Afraid of Failure? 4 Steps to Breaking Down Failure). Let the judgments go, have compassion for yourself. See the good in yourself.
What other ways do you know to live free from fear?
LCSW-R, J. (2012, September 5). Ten Ways to Live Free From Fear, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2019, July 20 from https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/anxiety-schmanxiety/2012/09/ten-ways-to-live-free-of-fear
Author: Jodi Lobozzo Aman, LCSW-R
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I'm glad you found Jodi's post to be helpful. She no longer writes for Healthy Place so can't respond to comments, but I know she will be very pleased to read yours.
Jodi is the one who wrote this post, but because she is no longer writing for HealthyPlace, she is unable to comment. I'm Tanya, one of the current authors of Anxiety-Schmanxiety. You're not alone. Most, if not all, people cry in response to intense emotions such as fear. And it can help. It can relieve physical and emotional pressure to help us feel purged and better able to move forward. Crying is a human instinct. As Jodi wrote in this article, there are other ways to reduce fear's control, too. So go ahead and cry, and try some other things, too!
Jodi is the one who wrote this post, but because she's no longer writing for HealthyPlace, she's unable to respond to comments. I know that she'd say you're very welcome, and she'd be pleased that you found the information to be helpful!
Thank you for your feedback! It's important to everyone at HealthyPlace to have a site that does just what you described. Most (if not all) of us have lived with various mental health issues, and we want to use our experiences to help others. I'm glad to hear that this is a good place -- where the comments left by everyone are just as helpful as the posts!
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Akathisia is awful. Just to clarify, it is similar in some ways to anxiety but not the same thing. I do not discuss akathisia in this article. I am also not a proponent of postive thinking. I am sorry for the misunderstanding. I am so sorry for your pain. I hope beyond hope that you are finding some relief.
Any action will work. And writing is a good one, since it is safe and readily available. Writing can be very therapeutic. It helps you be an audience to your own situation. Stepping back like this, you are able to see from a big picture! I am so glad it is working for you! I'm sure you are greatly helping others around you!
I use Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT). It's like acupuncture without the needles. The method is very easy to learn and you don't need a practitioner to administer it.
Dennis: I'd recommend a session or two with a practitioner for your fear of flying, I worked with a friend of mine on her fear and she now enjoys long haul flights alone (and drug free) and looks forward to meeting her fellow passengers :-)
I have to thank you from the bottom of my heart. Today I had bad anxiety. Mine is not the panic attack kind but more of the racing thoughts and being afraid of having anxiety for the rest of my life that causes me to have more anxiety. So today was a pretty bad day until I came across this website and saw your blogs. You really hit my anxiety on the head and it help me so much and You made me realize that I am in control Not anxiety. U have no idea what you did for me today. THANK YOU SO MUCH!!! For understanding and helping. any info that can help me in learning more how to control my anxiety I would really appreciate it. I guess I have had Anxiety my whole life but I am normally a pretty level headed person but for the past few years my anxiety has taken the wheel and I have let it. Im so ready to take control of this ounces and for all. Thank you so much.
I'm right there with you. I've been taking meds for depression for several years. But just recently, I'm recognizing my symptoms as being more the anxiety type than depression. And I'm a licensed counselor!!! I'm resisting my feelings of incompetence (lies of anxiety) as this is in my line of knowledge & training. I'm chalking up my embarrassment to recognize my own anxiety as the inability to see the self very objectively. I'm fighting my anxiety by reaching out to you & encouraging you to face your own anxiety like a boss! Take the "anxiety bull" by the horns, look it straight in the eye, squeeze those horns with the tightest grip, & YOU control IT. Continue reading, learning, empowering & equipping yourself with as many techniques as you can, but most especially with thoughts of truth & not the lies that anxiety would have you bowed to. You can do this. The power is in WHAT you choose to believe. You will have to conquer those lies with truth. YOU CAN DO THIS!