Problem Solving Inside A Relationship
Solving problems in a relationship is fundamental to its success. Here are the basic steps to problem-solving and keeping your relationship on track.
Problem-solving has a time and a place. Problem-solving has an agenda. Problem-solving is task-oriented; it is not a power struggle. Problem-solving has two distinct phases: a problem definition phase and a problem solution phase.
When defining a problem:
- Be specific (refer to what both partners can observe)
- Be brief
- Express your feelings about the behavior which is the subject of the conflict
When solving problems:
- Brainstorm solutions
- Evaluate their costs and benefits to each partner and to the relationship
- Decide on the best solution
- Be willing to compromise; problem-solving involves give-and-take
Also, when defining and solving problems:
- Discuss only one problem at a time
- Paraphrase what you hear your partner saying and check the accuracy of your paraphrase
Remember, the attitude with which you approach problem-solving is very important. Problem-solving requires collaboration and problem-solving requires that each problem being discussed is seen as a mutual problem.
Staff, H. (2008, December 24). Problem Solving Inside A Relationship, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2020, February 19 from https://www.healthyplace.com/relationships/communicating/problem-solving-inside-a-relationship