How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

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Comparing yourself to others is harmful, but sometimes it seems impossible to avoid. Here are 4 tips to help you stop comparing yourself to others at HealthyPlace

How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

Comparing yourself to others is harmful to your mental health, yet many of us measure at least part of our self-worth against other people. Comparing ourselves to other people robs us of a sense of joy in who we are and the lives we live. A 2006 study1 showed that comparison to others is connected to unhappiness, guilt, envy, regret, lying, and blame (Comparing Yourself to Others While Coping with Depression).

To stop comparing yourself to others, try these tips:

  • Be mindful. When your thoughts wander to what others are doing, shift those thoughts to what you are doing.
  • Revel in your own big picture. What are you doing in your life that makes you happy and proud?
  • Stay out of your danger zone. Social media has been shown to increase anxiety and depression. Locally, there might be places and people that cause you to ruminate over unhealthy comparisons. Replace them with people and places that are encouraging.
  • Reflect on your personal values. When you know why you live for what you do, the process of taking action to achieve your goals becomes less about others and more about you and your own life.

To stop comparing yourself to others, keep your focus on yourself. Then, you're likely to create your own mental health and wellbeing.

1White, J.B., Langer, E.J., Leeat, Y., & Welch, J.C. (2006, March). Frequent social comparisons and destructive emotions and behaviors: The dark side of social comparisons. Journal of Adult Development, 13(1), 36-44. Doi: 10.1007/s10804-006-9005-0

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Peterson, T. (2016, December 21). How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2024, July 19 from

Last Updated: July 27, 2023

Medically reviewed by Harry Croft, MD

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