Simple Self-Esteem Boosters to Improve Your Self-Esteem

April 25, 2012 Emily Roberts MA, LPC

Self-esteem boosters are a good way to begin your journey to building or improving your self-esteem.

When you are feeling insecure, nervous, or lacking confidence and self-esteem in a situation, your body language reflects it. Remember the first day of school when you were growing up? Were the confident kids the ones looking down at their shoes, mumbling, and standing shrugging their shoulders? No, they were the ones who were smiling at you, inviting you to sit with them at lunch, and walking around the halls with a purpose. Think about how this plays out in adulthood. Do you walk around like the shy kid who gets pushed around in a crowded cafeteria, or the self-assured, student who has no problem raising her hand in class and making new friends?

Many of us were that talkative, friendly child during our formative years, but through life experiences and situations that may have bruised our egos; we have succumbed to lacking self-esteem and thus may appear insecure. It is never too late to give that little kid in all of us a self-esteem boost and it can be as simple as changing your body language.

3 Self-Esteem Boosters You Can Implement Today

Smile more. Most people I see who lack self-esteem show it on their face, they appear unhappy or uneasy. They frown or have a despondent look, making those around them uncomfortable. So my first self-esteem booster is to practice smiling on purpose, whether it’s for the mailman, coworker, or the barista at Starbucks. When you smile, others will mimic this. You will likely feel a bit happier and people will perceive you as being so.

Stand Up Straight. Mom was right, good posture is important. Those who slouch or hunch, literally, appear like they are waiting for someone to push them down; as if they don’t have enough respect for themselves to stand up straight. Do yourself a favor and stand with a purpose; shoulders back, head up and back as straight as you can.

Eye Contact. When you make eye contact with the person you are speaking to, you are automatically showing them respect. Looking down or deliberately avoiding their eyes gives off an insecure vibe. Practice making and maintaining eye contact for one breath, or a few seconds, with everyone. This self-esteem booster may be uncomfortable at first, but shows others that you respect yourself enough, and have the self-esteem, to be seen and listened to.

Try these simple strategies to increase the way you want others to perceive you and you may begin feeling more secure within yourself.

Emily is the author of Express Yourself: A Teen Girls Guide to Speaking Up and Being Who You Are.You can visit Emily’s Guidance Girl website. You can also find her on Facebook, Google+ and Twitter.

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Author: Emily Roberts MA, LPC

Emily is a psychotherapist, she is intensively trained in DBT, she the author of Express Yourself: A Teen Girls Guide to Speaking Up and Being Who You Are. You can visit Emily’s Guidance Girl website. You can also find her on FacebookGoogle+ and Twitter.

Aisha Pittie
November, 7 2013 at 3:29 am

Very well said... This can really help some people!! :-)

In reply to by Anonymous (not verified)

November, 10 2013 at 11:56 am

Thanks Aisha glad that it rang true for you too!

Freedom Tam
February, 25 2013 at 12:21 am

THe 3 points are so difficult for me........
I will try my best to do

November, 28 2012 at 4:19 am

Can you talk more on "Eye contact" some people get uneasy when you look them straight in the eye, so when you are trying to boost your own self-esteem, it may have a negative effect on them.
Thanks, James

In reply to by Anonymous (not verified)

December, 5 2012 at 9:51 am

Good question, its more about making constant eye contact, so don't look at them in the eye and stare, its about being natural and looking at them frequently while you talk and they talk.
Hope this helps

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September, 11 2012 at 9:17 am

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May, 13 2012 at 1:26 pm

I agree, they are really good tips, for improving self-esteem!!

In reply to by Anonymous (not verified)

May, 13 2012 at 7:54 pm

Thank you! Please let me know if you would like me to write more specifically about any of them.
Take Good Care,

Patricia Avila
April, 25 2012 at 3:26 pm

Wonderful tips, Emily. Welcome to HealthyPlace.

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