Dear Fear: A Dear John Letter To Your Anxiety

January 16, 2013 Jodi Lobozzo Aman, LCSW-R

Dear Fear,

You are not dear, Fear. I am not sorry to say that this relationship is over! I have panicked enough! And I am done with you. Done. Done. Done. Done.

I am tired of you, anxiety. I will no longer let you stop me from being who I can be. Hold me back from my full potential. No more will I allow myself to listen to your lies, anxiety, telling me that I can't handle life, that I have to stay home, seclude myself, and miss out on the fun. I have had it with your warnings that "something bad will happen" or that "I would embarrass myself" or "it will be awful."

Start with 'Dear Fear' and write a goodbye letter to Anxiety. Here is a great coping strategy to deal with fear and anxiety. Read this to see how it's done.

There is no truth to those!

It has not been fair that you keep me down and out. Acting as my only friend. You have never been my friend, wanting what you want instead of what would make me happy. You kept me down and out, confused, angry and irritable. Your constant worry thoughts have sucked out all of my energy. Leaving me nothing for me, for my kids, for my partner.

You can no longer control me, my life, OR my relationships. I want it all back. I want to do what I want to do, love who I want to love, and try new things. I want adventures, experiences, and fun! (Nothing that you have allowed during your tyranny.)

You can take yourself and shove it!

Please go away. Go very far. Don't just leave me and bother someone else. Nobody deserves this kind of life- a life with you convincing me that you can control me. Making me forget my skills and abilities to trust myself and take action toward my goals. I can trust myself, I can take action to get rid of you. I can fly in a plane, I can present a workshop, I can go to the concert. I can do anything I want to do!

You can no longer make me blind to your tricks and tactics. I see you for who you are.

Goodbye, non dear, Fear, I don't need you anymore.

No love,


Write a goodbye letter to fear.

Start with, "Dear Fear," and let 'em have it. Name your fears, tell what you have sacrificed, name its tricks and tactics, list your skills and knowledges, tell it what you'd rather do with your life if it no longer held you back. And then hang it in a place where you can see it, so you can read it everyday until the fear is gone.

Readers, what would you like to say? Dear Fear.....

By Jodi Lobozzo Aman

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Lobozzo, J. (2013, January 16). Dear Fear: A Dear John Letter To Your Anxiety, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2024, July 21 from

Author: Jodi Lobozzo Aman, LCSW-R

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Dr Musli Ferati
January, 20 2013 at 3:30 am

As to refer to fear with its numerous bad consequences in daily life activities, your geniune invention is for greeting. But the fear as disturbing emotional experience has got another side that protect our senstive psycho-physic integrity from dangerous life events and unkind situations as well. Therefore it ought to develop basic social skills to face with fear in appropriate way than to eliminate it from our head. Fear as dominant sign of anxiety present serious symptom if it impedes our global life performances, damaging profoundly our life happines and deteriorating our life efficasy. Nevertheless, I agree with your usefull suggestion that we should to be more active through accomplishment our life obligation and demand than to brianstorming life events and circumstances without any importance on improvement of current psycho-social state. This one is in positive correlation with politenes of statement that advise us to change our thoughts through changing our social relationship. The same didn't require any special prudence, just move on youself toward accomplishment of life necessies.

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