I Lost My Sense of Self After My ADHD Diagnosis

April 23, 2020 Tonie Ansah

I lost my sense of self after receiving a clinical diagnosis for "mild inattentive attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD)." Something strange happened after that ADHD diagnosis. What I thought would be liberation turned into weeks, if not months of self-loathing and debility. Instead of learning how to coexist with my ADHD, I became it.

I no longer knew how to separate myself from my ADHD symptoms, and my relationship with my fiance took a nosedive because of it.

Sense of Self and ADHD

In this weeks video blog, I discuss:

  • The self-fulfilling prophecy
  • How some tough love helped me separate my identity from my diagnosis
  • Where I'm at now with the whole thing

Check out the video below. 

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Ansah, T. (2020, April 23). I Lost My Sense of Self After My ADHD Diagnosis , HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2024, July 22 from

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April, 24 2020 at 5:41 pm

Thanks for sharing this Tonie; and I appreciate your honesty about how at first you felt defensive towards your fiancé's comments. It totally resonates with what I'm going through right now. I wonder if it is common for people with the inattentive/ not high energy version of ADD to get sucked in this kind of trap. I have to remind myself not to get so hung up on the problem but to get on to the solutions.

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