Do you remember vinyl records? When they had a scratch, the needle would stick in the groove and the same line would sing over and over and over until you moved the needle off the crack. Sometimes we can feel like we have that “broken record” in our heads, repeating negative thought patterns, negative self-talk, doubts, worries. Sometimes it is the voices from our past who told us we would never be good enough, or didn’t try hard enough and now even though that person isn’t here, the voice plays on and on and on.
Negative Thought Patterns Are Hard to Break
Repetition of negative thought patterns or any thought, really, can soon become subconscious. If you hear something enough times, you might start to believe it, even if it isn’t rational. Training is often thought of being used with animals or pets. But actually, humans are “trained” every day. Ideally, we are conditioned to do the right and healthy thing, but sometimes not so much.
Even if as a child your inner voice says one thing, like this isn’t safe, or this doesn’t feel good, if your environment doesn’t confirm that (i.e. a negative or abusive situation), you “learn” to doubt your inner voice. So although you know there is no logical reason why you are worse than anyone else, you have a negative inner voice that tells you otherwise; that broken record that criticizes and calls yourself names.
Replace Negative Thought Patterns with a Positive Mantra
They say it takes 21 days to break a habit. So to “unlearn” these negative thought patterns, we must replace them with positive ones, and do so over and over and over. The change does not happen overnight, but when you hear yourself saying negative self-talk, catch it and turn it around, catch it and turn it around, catch it and turn it around. The mantra you use should be simple and believable, something you will remember and can use every day. Here are a couple of examples.
- I’m not crazy.
- I’m not alone.
- I’m not the only one.
- It’s not my fault.
- I didn’t cause this.
- I’m an adult.
- I’m the boss of me.
- I can do this.
- I don’t have to be perfect.
- I’m doing the best I can.
- I will get through this.
- I have handled hard stuff before and I will again.
Try practicing something like this on a daily basis and see if you can turn that broken record of negative thought patterns into happier tunes.