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Negative Thoughts Triggering Depression? Consider the Source

May 7, 2012 Amie Merz, LPC, NCC

Negative thoughts fuel depression. Learn how to change negative thoughts to positive thoughts, reduce negative self-talk and help your depression recovery.

Often, depression can be triggered by negative thoughts, self-talk, self criticism, and the cognitive distortion called mind-reading. Interacting with someone and assuming you know what they are thinking, assuming they are thinking about you and assuming they are judging you negatively is a dangerous trap for depression and one that will surely make you feel worse. But even if that person is judging you, do you care about their opinion? Whom do you admire? Respect? Whose opinion matters to you?

Filtering Negative Thoughts

It is hard enough to build ourselves up when we are feeling down without also giving weight to the negative nellies in this world. Fact is, not nearly as many people are thinking about us as we assume and those who are sizing us up aren't nearly as negative as we think.

Are some people judging us negatively? Yes, some are. But consider the source. The people who are mentally criticizing you, do you respect their opinion? Do they have their ducks in a row, their life together? "Misery loves company," and often the most negative critics are unhappy themselves.

Whom do you respect? Whose opinion do you care about? How critical are those people? Generally, the happiest people don't dwell on cutting down others. The people who draw people to them are the pleasant ones.

Replacing Negative Thoughts with Positive Thoughts

Part of the journey of depression recovery is replacing negative thoughts with positive thoughts. When you are deciding whose opinions you let affect you, consider whether you care about what that person thinks and why. If you had a hundred people standing in front of you, they would have 100 different thoughts and opinions about you. You can't please them all. So when you are choosing whose words are going to get in your head, consider the source of the words and whether you feel that opinion holds water. If you don't, then let those words bounce.

"I'm rubber, you're glue. Whatever you say bounces off me and sticks to you!" We said it as kids, let's live it as adults.

APA Reference
NCC, A. (2012, May 7). Negative Thoughts Triggering Depression? Consider the Source, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2019, June 27 from https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/copingwithdepression/2012/05/negative-thoughts-triggering-depression-consider-the-source



Author: Amie Merz, LPC, NCC

Kathy K.
says:
August, 5 2014 at 3:27 pm
When I try to change positive to the negative thoughts, my definition of positive is pretty broad. It has to be this way because I'm a recovering perfectionist (of the worst kind) and I have to give myself permission to "just show up". I will often make myself sit down and write down at least two positives or something I'm grateful for, even if it's just being grateful for getting out of bed that day.
vanda
says:
August, 5 2014 at 2:39 pm
I love these posts. When we are in the depression it is good to be reminded of the coping techniques that are available to help . Thank you.
Young
says:
April, 4 2014 at 1:36 pm
An impressive share! I have just forwarded this onto
a friend who was conducting a little homework on this.
And he actually bought me lunch simply because I discovered it for him...
lol. So let me reword this.... Thank YOU for the meal!!
But yeah, thanx for spending the time to talk about this matter here on your blog.
judith
says:
May, 15 2012 at 5:01 pm
thank you for this article. having depression and negative vibe people at work is a bad fit some days. i have to remind myself to ignore them and get to work.

In reply to by Anonymous (not verified)

May, 15 2012 at 4:53 pm
It can be a struggle every day sometimes, can't it? Ugh. Hang in there and keep up the good work.

In reply to by Anonymous (not verified)

May, 31 2012 at 4:47 pm
Feeling compassion for them can sometimes give us the patience to tolerate...:)Thank you for the comments.
Chris
says:
May, 8 2012 at 12:51 am
Hi,
Thanks for the great post :)
Sometimes it can be difficult to focus on the positive when negative thoughts pop into our minds, so I find bringing awareness to something neutral can be beneficial. I love the use of mindfulness to help us focus on sounds or objects other than the negative thought. A thought is merely a thought and doesn't have to be acted upon, it just takes a little training :)

In reply to by Anonymous (not verified)

May, 15 2012 at 4:52 pm
Excellent point about the mindfulness. Thank you for the input.

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