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Find Your Hidden Trauma Triggers Caused by Domestic Abuse

Hidden trauma triggers cause symptoms that can be mistaken for signs of domestic abuse when there is no abuser. Learn how to recognize hidden trauma triggers.

The trauma triggers discussed in the last post (How To Handle Trauma Triggers Caused By Domestic Abuse) typically result in anxiety or panic attacks. You can often find a cause for those types of trauma triggers and there is a way to handle the anxiety they cause at the time they occur.

On the other hand, hidden trauma triggers are situations, relationships or events that subconsciously remind an abuse survivor of the abuse they experienced and cause the survivor to feel or act out in ways they did during the abusive relationship for several days or longer.

Symptoms of Hidden Trauma Triggers

Hidden trauma triggers cause symptoms that you may not recognize as symptoms. Instead, while emerging from the symptoms, you think that you:

  • took a back-step in your healing,
  • experienced a bout of depression,
  • fell back into old behavior patterns or
  • dishonored your healing process or yourself in some regrettable way.

Hidden trauma trigger symptoms:

  • take longer to recognize,
  • last longer,
  • affect more of your behaviors and
  • can be tougher to recover from

than triggers that cause short-lived anxiety or panic discussed in the last post.

Current Abuse Victims and Hidden Trauma Triggers

In general, men and women currently living in abusive relationships cannot experience hidden trauma triggers. The reason is that the symptoms of hidden trauma triggers are the same as the feelings and behaviors that abuse causes. Therefore, if you’re currently experiencing abuse, then your symptoms are the result of the abuse — not due to a trigger.

The exception would be victims who were abused by someone else before their current abusive relationship. It would be possible for those victims to experience a trigger based on past abuse. However, if you’re in an abusive relationship now then trauma triggers are not your problem. The problem is the abuse.

Hidden Trauma Triggers and Symptoms of Abuse

Hidden triggers result in former abuse victims acting and feeling much the same as they did while in the abusive relationship. For example, hidden trauma trigger symptoms could include sexual dysfunction, sleep disturbances or your return to substance abuse. In fact, any symptom of abuse is a symptom of hidden trauma triggers because both linger after a person leaves the abuse.

Mental Disorders and Hidden Trauma Triggers

During abusive relationships, victims may develop depression, generalized anxiety disorder, posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD), and/or other mental disorders. Hidden trauma triggers can cause depressive episodes and a rise in anxiety levels just as panic causing triggers can cause PTSD to flare.

Example of Depression as a Trauma Trigger Symptom

Hidden trauma triggers cause symptoms that can be mistaken for signs of domestic abuse when there is no abuser. Learn how to recognize hidden trauma triggers.I am a former abuse victim who suffers from major depressive disorder. A few months ago, my ex-spouse used verbal and emotional abuse in texts to me. I knew his behavior triggered immediate anxiety, so I took care to calm myself and get my mind straight. A week or two later, I realized I was enduring a depressive episode. However, I didn’t connect the depression with my ex’s abuse until later.

However, when I re-read my journal posts from that episode, I realized that the previous month of depression happened because part of my brain believed I was still married to an abuser. I experienced that episode of depression solely because the abusive attack triggered my mind to return to a time where feeling worthless and scared felt normal. To a time where being depressed felt normal.

The benefit of seeing how one episode of abuse triggered a month of depression is that if my ex or anyone else abuses me again I will notice any depression much sooner. Plus, knowing why I’m depressed will help me treat the cause instead of merely wait for the symptom to go away. Recognizing when hidden trauma triggers occur can help you shorten the duration of your discomfort even if you have a mental or mood disorder.

Types of Hidden Trauma Triggers

Anything can become a trauma trigger, hidden or not. Typically, a trigger that causes large-scale symptoms, as seen with hidden triggers, results from an ongoing situation or relationship. A co-worker’s accent could become a hidden trigger and cause you to feel confused whenever he speaks to you. An evolving relationship with a friend could take a turn for the ugly and trigger you to act defensively or aggressively in all of your relationships. Generally you do not automatically associate the trigger with the abuse or your abuser. It is only after you recognize an old symptom of abuse return that you can make the connection between the past and present.

I know that sometimes it seems the abuse from the past refuses to let us loose to enjoy the present. But remember, the abuse cannot control you any more now than it did then unless you allow it. It is tiring for me to catch myself acting or thinking or feeling like I did back in the days of my abusive marriage. And yet, if I continue to be aware of my hidden trauma triggers and on the lookout for their symptoms, I will overcome them. The only way I can fail at healing is to stop trying to heal.

You can find Kellie Jo Holly on her website, Google+, Facebook and Twitter.

*Both women and men could be abusers or victims, so do not take my pronoun choices as an implication that one gender abuses and the other is victimized.

Author: Kellie Jo Holly

Kellie Jo Holly advocates for domestic violence and abuse awareness through her writing. You can find Kellie Jo on her website, Amazon Authors, Google+, Facebook and Twitter.

16 thoughts on “Find Your Hidden Trauma Triggers Caused by Domestic Abuse”

  1. I was emotionally and physically abused from 5 years old on by my father. Then 17 years by my ex husband. I have been divorced for 10 years and away from my father for longer than that. I have come a long way in my recovery but still encounter triggers. I have been in a loving, supportive relationship for 4 years with my husband. These triggers are irrational. My husband asked me recently when I had a trigger why I would want to live with triggers that question his feelings for me. I realize and explained that I DON’T! My question is how do I work through these triggers?

  2. How did you make the memories stop?
    Its 10 yrs since I was abused. I was beaten multiple times a week and even had the bones in my face shattered. I cant stop reliving the images, sounds, memory of the intense physical pain. Its like a movie that plays in my mind. There are times I push it to the side, because I have to to live life. However, sometimea things happen and it starts that movie playing in my mind again. I just want it to stop playing.

    1. I found peace through working with a loving and supportive therapist. It took a long time, but I am able to look back on the abusive with peace. Surpringly, the person that I had to work the hardest to forgive was myself. I had blamed myself for my parents raging, their loss of control, and the harm they inflicted on me. I was told it was my fault and I believed it. Once I was able to see the poison in carrying the blame inside of me, I was able to find peace for the first time. Therapy set me free.

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