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Is Coercive Control the Same as Verbal Abuse?

Is Coercive Control the Same as Verbal Abuse?

Coercive control is hard to distinguish from other forms of relationship abuse. Is it necessary to define coercive control separately from verbal and emotional abuse? Learn what coercive control is and how it relates to domestic violence here, at HealthyPlace.

There is a growing awareness around coercive control, as well as umbrella terms like verbal and emotional abuse. This is partly thanks to the UK law that was passed in 2015 (carrying a prison sentence of up to five years for perpetrators), and also due to celebrities speaking out as part of the #metoo and #timesup movements. Although no such progress has been made in the US in terms of legislation, this is still a step in the right direction; it’s the start of our cultures taking lesser-known forms of domestic violence more seriously and recognizing the devastating effects of verbal abuse (as well as other types of abuse). So what exactly is coercive control, and how does it differ from other forms of abuse in a relationship?

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Abuse in Movies: How These 5 Protagonists Prevail

Abuse in Movies: How These 5 Protagonists Prevail

We see abuse in movies and shows from the time we're children. The abuse in movies warns us that overcoming abuse is no easy task, but it can be done. Check out these 5 film protagonists that endure and prevail in the face of abuse at HealthyPlace.

Whether it’s abuse in movies or in our lives, overcoming abuse is no simple feat — even abuse in the movies. A quality cinematic experience, or just lounging in sweats watching Netflix, can transport us to another time and place, it allows us to vicariously live through the characters we admire and adore. For some, it can be an even deeper connection, especially when we see a character suffer abuse in movies that we ourselves have personally endured. The following five protagonists suffer and prevail, overcoming abuse to reach the hearts of abuse victims everywhere.

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Loss of Identity in a Verbally Abusive Relationship

Loss of Identity in a Verbally Abusive Relationship

Loss of self-identity is common during a verbally abusive relationship, but is it ever possible to find your true self again? Visit HealthyPlace to discover what I learned about the loss of self-identity in an abusive relationship the hard way -- by losing who I was. You can avoid doing the same.

Most likely, you will suffer a loss of identity in a verbally abusive relationship. The relationship will take you as far away from yourself as it’s possible to go. Not only will you experience a loss of personal identity, you may even struggle to remember who you were before the abuse took hold. You will become a collaborator in the abusive process and the abuser will make you feel as though everything you experience is your fault, calling into question your personality and your motives (What Are Victims Responsible for in an Abusive Relationship?). So why does this happen, and can we ever unhook ourselves from it? Here’s what I learned after my loss of identity in a verbally abusive relationship.

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10 Ways Relationship Abuse Is Sabotaging Your Life

10 Ways Relationship Abuse Is Sabotaging Your Life

Relationship abuse damages you at your core. If you are in an abusive relationship, you've probably noticed that your abuser sabotages you. Learn ten different ways relationship abuse destroys your life at HealthyPlace.When in the depths of relationship abuse, you’re probably considering how your abuser is sabotaging your life. While being proactive and optimistic are important and beneficial, understanding your circumstances is as well. Relationship abuse commonly consists of many abusive behaviors that are sabotaging to the victim’s life, and while not all of the behaviors below may be the case for every abusive relationship, there are certainly many that may feel familiar for different cases. Warning, bleak reality checks ahead.

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Gaslighting Abuse Examples and How to Respond

Gaslighting Abuse Examples and How to Respond

Spotting examples of gaslighting abuse is tricky enough, but how do you know what to say when a gaslighter strikes? Learn some examples of gaslighting abuse and how to respond to it at HealthyPlace. Don't wait -- get ahead of your gaslighter now.

It’s one thing to recognize examples of gaslighting abuse in a relationship, but it can be difficult to know how to respond. Part of the problem with gaslighting abuse is that if it were easy to spot, it wouldn’t be so effective. The reason these abuse tactics are so insidious is because gaslighters expose themselves gradually, but not without first discovering what makes us tick. As gaslighting abuse targets, we need to understand why and how gaslighters work to get us under their thumb so we can figure out how to respond. You will learn some examples of gaslighting abuse and how to respond to it if you keep reading.

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What Gaslighting Means and Why It Is So Hard to Call Out

What Gaslighting Means and Why It Is So Hard to Call Out

What does gaslighting mean? Why is gaslighting hard to identify in a relationship (and even harder to call out)? Learn about gaslighting at HealthyPlace and discover why gaslighters often get away with this type of abuse. If your relationship makes you feel crazy, you need to see this now.

Many of us think we know what gaslighting means, but even so, gaslighting is hard to call out in a relationship because it happens so gradually you might not even notice. Don’t be fooled by the displays of gaslighting we see in movies and on TV — a gaslighter won’t necessarily leave the oven on to make you think you’re crazy. He or she won’t always resort to blatant emotional manipulation tactics or call you a liar. Gaslighting can be a lot more pervasive, subtle and destructive than our basic understanding gives it credit for — and it could be happening to you. Here’s an illustration of what gaslighting means, why gaslighting is so hard to call out in a relationship, as well as the gaslighter types and traits to watch out for.

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How to Make a Comeback After Abuse

How to Make a Comeback After Abuse

After abuse, when you leave your abusive relationship and the dust settles, what's next? Learn how to make a comeback after abuse with these tips and tricks at HealthyPlace. Don't get stuck after abuse - read this.

After the abuse finally ends and you’ve walked away from the relationship, you may start to ponder “How do I make a comeback after abuse?” Your self-image will likely be in shambles and the person you once were won’t be a person you’ll know again (Domestic Abuse Changes Who You Are). That’s okay, and it’s okay because the person you were before was never as strong as the person you have become. Abuse changes you; it alters the very fabric of your inner being. Rather than let those changes be negative, let them build you into a tougher, wiser, smarter person with self-respect, dignity, and a hopeful outlook on life. Continue reading to learn tips and tricks on how to make a comeback after abuse.

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Leaving a Verbally Abusive Partner: What’s the Breaking Point?

Leaving a Verbally Abusive Partner: What’s the Breaking Point?

When is it time to leave your verbally abusive partner? The breaking point can be difficult to recognize when it comes to verbal abuse. Learn about leaving your verbally abusive partner at HealthyPlace. When will enough be enough?

At what point do you leave a verbally abusive partner? The point where you walk away from a violent partner could be a bruise, a broken rib, or even fear for your life, but how do you know when it’s time to leave your abuser when the abuse is verbal? The signs of psychological or emotional abuse are often easy to dismiss, meaning we ignore the glaring red flags that tell us to get out. Nevertheless, there comes a point when the abuse gets to be too much and we just can’t take it anymore. Perhaps we mentally withdraw from our verbally abusive partner, start making arrangements for a life elsewhere, or leave altogether. Your breaking point when you leave a verbally abusive partner is the moment you’re forced to concede the situation is abusive — but how do you know when enough is enough?

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7 Signs You Are Verbally Abusive

7 Signs You Are Verbally Abusive

Are you showing signs that you are verbally abusive? Has someone told you that you are abusive? Learn the truth at HealthyPlace: Check these signs that you are verbally abusive and find out how to help yourself before you lose the ones you love.

Have you noticed signs you are verbally abusive? Verbal abuse articles often focus on victims of verbal abuse because they are typically the ones reaching out for help. Not as often do we explore the other side of the coin, the abusive readers, or the readers considering they may be abusive. If you have ever considered that maybe your behavior isn’t normal or have noticed you react in volatile ways when you are agitated or lose your temper, continue reading to find out about seven signs you may be verbally abusive.

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Why Can Giving Affection Trigger Verbal Abuse?

Why Can Giving Affection Trigger Verbal Abuse?

Giving affection can trigger verbal abuse in abusive relationships. Learn why abusers abuse us for loving them at HealthyPlace. Read this to learn why giving affection is your abuser's problem, not yours.

Giving affection to your abusive partner can trigger verbal abuse. Verbal abusers may lash out because they can’t give affection. Don’t get me wrong, they can provide acts of love when it suits them, but they aren’t able to give and receive affection mutually. Often, verbal abuse and problems with physical contact go hand in hand: abusers may withhold affection or contact from partners as punishment, or criticize them for being too affectionate or needy. But it all boils down to the same underlying problem. If there’s one thing my past relationship taught me, it’s that verbally abusive personality types can’t give affection in a healthy, mutually beneficial way, and this is why.

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