Lex the Queer App: A Review

December 13, 2023 Daniel Lyons

Today I'm reviewing the queer app Lex. There are quite a few dating apps out there that the lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, plus (LGBTQ+) community can use, but this is one of my favorites. It's a text-based dating app based on old lesbian personal ads looking for love and sex. The Lex app allows each user to include one photo, but it primarily functions off of short blurbs that are around 300 characters and a title. While it started focusing on love and sex, it has morphed into a queer social app with just about everything for everyone, including a myriad of queer community and social events. Today, I'll share three things I love and three things that could be better in my review of the queer app Lex. 

A Review of 3 Pros About the Queer App Lex

Three reviewed pros about the queer app Lex are:

  1. There is something for everyone on Lex. Pretty much no matter what you're looking for, you can find it on Lex. Some people will use this as a criticism of Lex, saying it has become less dating-oriented and more oriented around community and friendship. But I don't think this is a bad thing. There's a little something for everyone. As long as you are explicit in your post about what you are looking for, I have found it's possible to connect with others who are looking for similar things. I have primarily used the app for dating and hookups and have had success in finding folks to connect with. I even met my last serious romantic partner on the queer app Lex.
  2. Lex goes beyond just dating and sex. While there is no shortage of dating and sex-oriented posts, there is also a lot more to Lex than that. It has become an app more focused on the queer community. Once, I used the app to try and connect with other queer equestrians, and I had success. While I didn't follow up on meeting everyone that reached out to me, it was still really cool to see that other queer horse people do exist. Again, you can find just about anything on Lex. 
  3. There are a lot of transgender (trans) people on Lex. Lex was designed to be friendly for folks of marginalized genders. I have met trans people of all genders off of Lex. While there are certainly cisgender (non-trans) folk on the app, there are lots of posts about T4T relationships (transgender people seeking other transgender people for dating and sex), and I have found it to be much less transphobic than, say, the other big queer app, Grindr. Lex can be a great place for folks of marginalized genders to meet others of marginalized genders. 

A Review of 3 Cons About Lex

Three reviewed cons about the queer app Lex are:

  1. People can be flaky. I suppose this one can go for any dating app, but sometimes there is a lot of talk on the app and not a lot of follow-through. Recently, I was chatting with someone I felt excited about, but then they messaged me, "You know I probably won't ever meet you and am all talk, right?" Why message if you don't want actually to follow up and meet people? This is a big pet peeve of mine, and I've been ghosted off the app more times than I can count. 
  2. It's become less dating and sexually oriented. Now, this one is only a con if you are trying to use it to date. There are lots of great things you can find off of Lex, but if you are exclusively looking to date, you may be frustrated by the randomness of the posts and the culture that is less oriented around dating. This hasn't stopped me from finding romantic and sexual partners, but it does mean you have to sift through the weeds a little bit more and be very explicit about your intentions. 
  3. Your ex may see all your posts. The Lex timeline goes chronologically, and I am quite certain that my ex uses the app. It is how we met, after all. This means that if you and your ex are trying to move on at the same time, there is a high likelihood of seeing each other's posts. You might even try to go on a date with the same person. There is a block feature you may try if seeing their posts is too painful for you, but the queer community is small, and it can be hard to avoid your exes, virtually or physically. I guess for others, this may not be seen as a con if you want your ex to know you're moving on, but it is something to be aware of. 

My review of the queer app Lex suggests that if it isn't already a part of your dating adventures, I encourage you to give it a whirl and see what comes of it. Maybe you'll make a new friend, find a fun queer event, or even meet your future spouse. 

APA Reference
Lyons, D. (2023, December 13). Lex the Queer App: A Review, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2024, July 23 from

Author: Daniel Lyons

Daniel Lyons (they/he) is a writer and mental health therapist who is passionate about the intersections of gender, sexuality, and mental health, and he lives in Oakland, California, with his service dog Noche. Find Daniel on Instagram and Medium.

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