How to Stop Feeling Self-Conscious When You're Depressed
Feeling self-conscious when I am depressed is common for me. I worry about every single thing I do and say. I have found hope in the fact that there are ways to lessen this self-conscious feeling when I’m depressed.
Depression Symptoms Create Self-Conscious Feelings
When I am depressed, I tend to view things through a negative lens and feel overly responsible when things don’t go as planned. I will scrutinize everything I do and say and find myself at fault everywhere I turn. If an email that I send isn’t replied to, I’ll assume that it’s because I said something weird and that the person is thinking bad thoughts about me. Hours, and even days after visiting with a friend, I’ll replay in my mind all of the dumb things I said in the conversation. It’s no wonder that the next time I send an email or meet with a friend I’m filled with self-conscious feelings, worried that I’ll do something “wrong” (Depression Symptoms: What are the Symptoms of Depression).
3 Ways to Reduce Self-Conscious Feelings When Depressed
- Remember, it’s not always about you. It’s often helpful to remember that other people have their own lives. If someone doesn’t reply to an email, it’s possible that he or she liked what you said but was simply too busy to reply. Maybe this person didn’t even receive it. What about those “dumb things” that you said or did? Chances are, the other person is so busy with his or her own life that he or she has already forgotten about what you said. Do you go around memorizing what other people say? Probably not.
- Engage in mindfulness to counteract feelings of self-consciousness. When caught up in a whirlwind of self-conscious thoughts, engage in mindfulness. Turn your focus toward the present moment. Focus on your breath as you engage your five senses in the world around you. What can you see, hear, smell, touch, and taste? By being mindful of your thoughts, you can allow those self-conscious feelings to dissipate.
- Help others to get outside of your own mind. Helping others can help ease depression. It allows you to change your focus from yourself to others. If you find yourself ruminating on your past conversations or your past actions, throughout your day, seek out ways that you can help others. It can be as simple as opening a door for a stranger or paying for the meal of the car behind you in the drive-through. You can also give your time by volunteering for a cause.
I hope these tips can help you when dealing with feelings of self-consciousness while depressed so you can begin to feel better.
Sedas, M. (2018, March 1). How to Stop Feeling Self-Conscious When You're Depressed, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2019, June 19 from https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/copingwithdepression/2018/03/dealing-with-feelings-of-self-consciousness-when-depressed
Author: Michelle Sedas
That's wonderful that you've been volunteering at the food bank. I'm so glad it's helping. And it is a great idea to focus on mindfulness in the morning so that negativity doesn't take hold. Thank you so much for your comment.
Coauthor of "Coping with Depression" blog