Coping With Rejection and Why God Loves Us
I have bad dreams pretty much every night. They take place in different locations, with different people, but the nightmare is always the same. I am desperately trying to get people from my past to accept and love me. Despite my best attempts, I am always rejected. Everyone always hates me and I feel completely worthless and unworthy to be around anyone. When I wake up, I feel sad and depressed. Not my favorite way to start the day. Because this dream reoccurs so often, I know that rejection from my past must have left deep scars and now contribute to my social anxiety. I am trying to work through these feelings of rejection, and learn to truly love myself. During some research I found this quote that gives me some comfort. It really helps me to see the big picture and know that Heavenly Father loves me for who I am right now.
"Think of the purest, most all-consuming love you can imagine. Now multiply that love by an infinite amount—that is the measure of God’s love for you. God does not look on the outward appearance. I believe that He doesn’t care one bit if we live in a castle or a cottage, if we are handsome or homely, if we are famous or forgotten. Though we are incomplete, God loves us completely. Though we are imperfect, He loves us perfectly. Though we may feel lost and without compass, God’s love encompasses us completely. He loves us because He is filled with an infinite measure of holy, pure, and indescribable love. We are important to God not because of our résumé but because we are His children. He loves every one of us, even those who are flawed, rejected, awkward, sorrowful, or broken. God’s love is so great that He loves even the proud, the selfish, the arrogant, and the wicked. What this means is that, regardless of our current state, there is hope for us. No matter our distress, no matter our sorrow, no matter our mistakes, our infinitely compassionate Heavenly Father desires that we draw near to Him so that He can draw near to us." -Dieter F. Uchtdorf, “The Love of God,” Ensign, Nov 2009, 21–24
Does social anxiety exist even in your dreams? If anyone has had to work through feelings of rejection, I would love to hear about it. Any tips are greatly appreciated.
White, A. (2010, February 25). Coping With Rejection and Why God Loves Us, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2023, June 6 from https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/anxiety-panic/2010/02/reject-rejection-you-are-loved
Author: Aimee White
Aimee, maybe you do feel worthless and unloveble--but that's a feeling and NOT a fact. The Fact is that you are worthy--just because you're a human being. The quote you offered tells you that God loves you--and it's true. Your challenge is to learn to accept and love yourself as you are. There is no one in this world who is worth more than you, no one. We are all perfectly imperfect human beings and it will always be so. If you choose to judge something, please judge only your actions. Those are things you can approve of, or disapprove of, and change if change helps you lead a more healthy life. There is no benefit to judging yourself or putting yourself down. The path to peace is through self-acceptance. You are worthy just because you are you. Don't let anyone put you down--not even yourself. You can change the way you think about yourself and learn to live a more abundant and enriching life. You deserve it!!!
Hi Aimee, Ive been dreaming a lot, that my boyfriend gets mad with me, leaves me and then when I want to call him, I just cant find his number on my cellphone. Its so terrible for me, and youre right, when I dream this, my day starts a little difficult.
I am sorry you have bad dreams like that. If you find anything that helps you to stop having them, let me know!