Differences Between Bisexuality and Pansexuality
Many questions arise when one proclaims that they are bisexual. But what about pansexual? Pansexuality is not a familiar term within people outside of the lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and questioning (LGBTQ) community. I only learned about pansexuality in a feminism class three years ago. I had never heard the term before but when I learned its definition, I immediately came to like it. While I don’t mind identifying as bisexual, I prefer the term pansexual when it comes to my identity. But how are bisexuality and pansexuality different? Aren’t they the same thing?
How Bisexuality and Pansexuality Differ
The dictionary states the definition of bisexual as: “sexually attracted to both men and women”. Meanwhile, the definition of pansexual is: “not limited or inhibited in sexual choice with regard to gender or activity.” While it can be easy to say that both definitions mean the same, exact thing, the key difference between bisexuality and pansexuality rests on the focus on gender identity.
Bisexuality implies that there are only two genders, that being male and female. Pansexuality, on the other hand, implies that there are more than two genders. Pansexuals have no problem dating or sleeping with a transgender person, for example. This also includes people who fall out of the gender binary and consider themselves genderqueer (people who do not identify as just man or woman).
Pansexuality and Bisexuality -- Love Isn’t Based on Gender
One thing that bisexuality and pansexuality do have in common is that the people who identify as such usually don’t base their feelings on gender. Lately, I have noticed on social networks such as Tumblr that there is an active discussion between the bisexual and pansexual communities. A lot of bisexuals have come out and stated that they don’t base their sexuality on gender identity, either. They still consider and call themselves bisexual, though.
This has created some confusion between the two labels. But I think it’s great that there is an active discussion. If anything, it shows how fluid sexuality is in many people. Instead of it being as a concrete thing, sexuality is more complex and intricate than society likes to make it. Not everyone falls into the neat labels of straight or gay, and that’s okay. That doesn’t make pansexuals and bisexuals confused about their sexuality.
Choosing to Label Your Sexuality
For a long time, I had issues labeling my sexuality. I was ashamed of being bisexual and wanted so badly to just be a lesbian because of all the biphobia I had experienced outside and within the LGBTQ community. It’s something that I regret to say, but it’s true. Now, though, I am trying to accept and love myself more.
There is nothing wrong with being bisexual or pansexual. Also, I am learning that while labels are important in self-discovery and in accepting your sexuality, it’s okay to not know. Sadly, I have noticed that many people are so hung up about labels and try to be a living, breathing replica of the exact definition. Maybe we should focus more on ourselves instead of trying to live up to a textbook definition. That way there is more room for growth and happiness in our lives.
Celis, V. (2014, November 5). Differences Between Bisexuality and Pansexuality, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2020, May 28 from https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/thelifelgbt/2014/11/differences-between-bisexuality-and-pansexuality
Author: Vanessa Celis
My problem is all the constant labeling. I think too many young people are trying to find something to identify themselves with, and there will be more labeling because of it. Face it, we are all people, persons, and will continue to be whoever we are. Labels are good on food, and for cloths sizes, washing instructions, but I don't think we need labels to be who we are. We are people, and we should be accepted without question, or looking for more labels.
I was a child, a person. I grew up, still a person. I have been a wife, mother, grand, and great grandmother, and I am still and always have been a person, or human being. I am proud to be who I am, and have been, but I didn't run around trying to find another name to put on it, even though sooner or later someone will. Society has already labeled me heterosexual, and maybe I am, but I never needed the world to put that label on me. Even when I see that old person in the mirror, I know that child I was, when I was born, is still in there. I am many things, even old, but I don't care to be labeled old either.
I would really like to thank you for this comment. I am 23 and currently trying to unravel my own sexuality and the one thing that stresses me out the most is what to CALL myself when people ask about my sexually orientation. Why can’t I just be a normal person that happens to also like women? Why is there so much pressure put on the labels?
Maybe they are trying to be polite. Or get to know you better. Do people really pester you about it that much?
You ARE normal, don't let anyone make you feel less than normal. Your normal, vital, loved, talented, gifted, a d do much more, so just be YOU, I don't know you, but you are great! Oh, and if some people don't like it, tell them to be gone, before someone drops a house on them too, ( from the Wizard of Oz )
Thank you so much for this comment. You are so wise. We should all be free to live our lives free of the labels.
I have been reading g this thread for a while tonight. I have a daughter who had come out as bisexual. And, as I thought when she spoke and now as I read your post: she came out as a "label" This poor girl, just trying to explain this part of herself as any other must use an excepted and defined term to simply to me, say, hey mom, Im...me and... that's all I see it as. Labels make some people feel better because whatever it is they are living with finds unity. Labels for others are suffocating and unfamiliar because they are limiting. They include XYZ, exclude ABC and then what? Labels are simply that. If we think of them in most familiar ways- papers or stickers on shit that ultimately we look at, RIP off and modify to our own need, soooo, uh yeah people. Labels are there for people who have no sense of understanding without written outline. Once they have that outline, they go and change add and interpret as they do. Hello! Yea, that's life so, people are just people who like love or lost after other people. The end.
Maybe I'm unity hopeful, or delusional or...whatever label someone wants to give me, but that's ok. Even the judgemental can find me out there tolerating your ignorance and willing to listen and help others as well as myself understand as much as possible
Trying to convince my stepdad the difference is a hard task but I'm getting there xxx
The fact that the definition of bisexuality says 'bisexuals are attracted to both men and women' does not imply that there are only two genders. It refers to sexes, not genders. That's why it's called biSEXuality and not biGENDERuality.
Bisexual is OK, and Pansexual is OK. I think no matter you are bisexual or pansexual, all of us are the same, don't it? Someone may refuse to be friends with us, but I don't care about! After all, we should learn to live alone, nobody will be with you all the time. But we can find many friends by some bisexual dating sites, such as http://www.datingbisexual.net, which are just like a big bisexual family.
Can't resist.... A "big bisexual family" dating site..... would be incest. Any takers? JK
I'm sorry, but there are *straight* people who are fine with sleeping with transgender people, as well as gays, so that has nothing to do with it.
Hello everyone reading this! I'd like to inform you of something! THIS IS NOT CORRECT!!!
Bisexuality isn't the attraction to a male or a female, it's the attraction to genders the same, or other than your own. When bisexuality as a term was coined, the population was misinformed that there was only two genders. This type of thinking would also lead people to believe that a gay man can not love a FtM Transgender (even post operation), because in this definition, you're not LABELING them as their correct gender.
A MtF transgender is a female in my eyes, as well as a FtM is a male. So that would exclude intersex, which would be silly.
The truth is that bisexuality is a strong term, it's recognized by people in, and out, of the community. It has history, and it has stigmas that we're constantly fighting.
I'm sorry to say this, but this post is incredibly rude. Pansexuals have no right to define bisexuality, as they don't identify as it. Yes, everyone has their own definition, and that is fine, but what's NOT okay is putting even MORE of a stigma on Bisexuals!!!
(*I have friends that identify as pansexuals, so please don't think I am trying to say that pansexuality isn't a thing. Many Bisexuals are tired of having the stigma that we aren't willing to date other genders.)
Thank you for your reply and opinion. Like I mentioned earlier, everyone has a different opinion about what bisexual/pansexual means. I was asked by the blog manager to explain the differences between pansexuality and bisexuality. I don't see my post as being rude at all toward bisexuals, especially when I used to say I was bisexual for a long time. You could be bisexual and be attracted to all genders and that is fine. Perhaps I will clarify this in my next post because it seems to be pretty controversial.
There are only 2 genders
There are only 2 sexes period regardless of physical changes. Ur either a man or woman biologically. So if u like both, u r bi.
Well, yes, there are only two sexes. However, gender is a different thing to sex in that it is how you identify and not simply what genitals you were born with. Please educate yourself before posting comments such as this one.
Touchy people around here. Why so snippy? Part of the reason lgbtqp...ect. get flak is because they want everyone to "accept" them while they don't "accept" others. Look at yourself.
So true and the same as I was thinking as I was going through the comments..
the state of being male or female
either of the two main categories (male and female) into which humans and many other living things are divided on the basis of their reproductive functions.
Gender and sex are practically the same thing. You are either male, female, or both. So I think you need to educate yourself before posting comments.
I wonder what the problem was with sexuality when Sodom and Gomorrah was destroyed. It has all been done. There is nothing new under the sun. Only our technology has evolved but we have not. We have the same heart as those from the earliest times of human history. Of course today we think we are so much smarter than those from the earliest times of human history. Our culture opens the doors of social behavior with very few limits. Almost anything seems appropriate. We have so much freedom yet we have lost our basic identity. As a culture we have become our own gods and this is nothing different from years ago. It is the same story over and over and one day it will be over.
Wrong. There are only 2 SEXES. There are multiple genders.
Excellent point differentiating between biological sex and gender identity. İt's also important to remember that intersex people do exist outside the male/female binary. XX and XY are not the only sex chromosome pairs available.
Sex and gender are the same thing
either of the two SEXES (male and female), especially when considered with reference to social and cultural differences rather than biological ones. The term is also used more broadly to denote a range of identities that do not correspond to established ideas of male and female.
either of the two main categories (male and female) into which humans and most other living things are divided on the basis of their reproductive functions.
Gender and sex are the same thing, but we use them differently!
Well... correct me if I’m wrong because I very well may be but bi means two so you couldn’t be attracted to “anything” and claim bisexuality. Also if what you’re saying is accurate then a gay man could love a FtM trans because at the end of the day it’s a man so if you really see trans people as their desired sex wouldn’t that still be bisexuality? Please don’t come at me if you disagree.. I’m just stating my opinion and curiosity
Thank you for addressing pansexuality. Many people do not know what it is, along with other orientations like demisexual and asexual.
Thank you for your comment! Hopefully within time more people will learn about pansexuality and the other sexual orientations as well.
Bisexual does not imply that there is only two genders any more than homosexual implies that all gender is the same.
Thank you for your comment. I did address that in my post. Everyone has their own different definition and that's okay, there's nothing wrong with that.
I have identified myself as bisexual only a couple of years ago. I actually didn't have a term for it even though I've been practicing it on and off for decades. Lately I have been attracted to a transgender but basically still called myself bisexual. I only heard the term pansexual last week. Granted, technically the bisexual term literally means 2 by the prefix bi. Does it have to mean male or female? It means 2 but shouldn't be a limiting factor. The issue I have is that we are riddling our culture with more and more terms that is making it more and more confusing. I'm a committed bisexual but I'm not limiting myself.
YOU can id ur self ANY way u want but u were not born like that & u can never change ur dna when u were born into. U have a serious mental problem & by not addressing it early on, causes much more serious problems later in life ALWAYS
Dear Richard, it means you can like any two gender in LGBTQ+ not just female and male.
No it means that a person is NOT mentally normal & needs help. Even animals know to naturally be interested in the opposite sex!
Bi means 2
Is there a sexuality where you love boys, girls, and non-binary, but nothing else?
That's a good question. I've heard that "multisexual" can be a good term for people who are attracted several different genders, but not necessarily all genders. Ultimately, though, how you define your sexual orientation is up to you!