Grateful To Be Imperfectly Awful – Mental Health Confession

October 3, 2012 Alistair McHarg

For reasons we might want to explore at some other time, I spent over 30 years toiling in the corporate vineyards as an advertising copywriter – an occupation which enjoys a level of social prestige roughly equivalent to that of garbage collector, lawyer, and snake oil salesman – although to be sure – the latter group is begrudgingly afforded a modicum of respect since almost everyone abhors a squeaky snake. I know I do.

But I digress. Writers, as you know, are a disreputable lot. As a rule they live in culverts, subsist on scraps of food left by others in greasy spoon diners on the outskirts of town, frequently showing up for work with three day’s of stubble, pockets crammed with losing lottery tickets, reeking of bourbon and cheap cigars. The men are even worse!

As a bipolar dipsomaniac with a chronic attitude problem that includes contempt for authority, you can imagine I lost and found and lost employers the way others misplace car keys. Some jobs were submerged deep within the bowels of soulless corporations shamelessly exploiting the witless populace, while others resided in neurosis factories referred to as advertising agencies where paranoia, throat-slitting, and British wardrobes were passed off as creativity.

One commonality of all these dreadful coalmines was the professional category known as “artist” which, in this case, means “graphic designer” which then meant person in charge of taking words, setting them in type, and imbedding the result in a cheery assemblage of photographs, colorful shapes, and visual irrelevance thought to aid the sales process we served; striving ever more valiantly to separate the unsuspecting from their treasure.

Artists – graphic designers – are almost the antithesis of writers. As a rule, they are cheerful women who bring an ideal suite of qualities to their task - wonderful sense of color, design, and je ne sais quoi (whatever that is), responsibility, method, quiet productivity and an almost depressingly relentless optimism. Meet Charity Vanderbilt.

Charity Vanderbilt invariably looked as though she had been peeled from the pages of a clothing catalog. Her attire was not flashy, it was impeccable, precise, tight, ratcheted down with control as rigid as any painting by Piet Mondrian. Just five feet tall dripping wet, (why she insisted on having her height measured after showering I cannot tell you), she had a sing-song, high pitched voice that resembled a Warner Brothers cartoon character far more closely than a person. Charity walked with quick, short steps as though a string between her ankles dictated the precise length of every stride.

One day, Charity revealed something I found completely stunning. She said that the gas gauge in her Volvo had broken and she left it that way on purpose because she “enjoyed the mystery and excitement of not knowing if she was about to run out of gas.”

I thought of my own life, a cavalcade of catastrophes including prison, mental hospitals, manic depression, alcoholism, divorce, lost jobs, small fortunes washed away with the dirty dishes – I thought of how I was trying to outrun my curse and find order, stability, responsibility – even a little piece of mind.

Then I thought of Charity Vanderbilt, whimsically setting a little booby-trap for herself, to make her life a tiny bit disordered, a tiny bit surprising, a tiny bit interesting.

In the oddest way, it made me feel sorry for her and grateful to be me, imperfectly dreadful.

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Author: Alistair McHarg

October, 4 2012 at 8:32 am

Hi Alistair! I think there is a Charity at every job,just to make us feel better, or inferior, depending on mood. Wow,an advertising copy writer,no easy job.I had a brief (and I mean brief-9 mos.) flirtation with media as a assistant sound engineer. I liked it but got really stressed out and went into my ever popular bipolar depression. I always said I wouldn't go into advertising, PR, or be a traffic manager at a radio station-I knew it would be too stressful,and I'd sink like a stone,(ironic that I knew that 20 years before I was diagnosed, never could figure out what was wrong with me). Kind of limited my career choices, which actually worked out well since I became a stay at home mom instead. Best job ever. So now I'm an unemployed teacher-lost my last job with depression and telling the principal she was out to get me,just a tad paranoid at the time. I was officially let go due to a downturn in student population and they had to combine classes--yeah right.
Well enough of my ramblings. Really enjoyed your post.

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Alistair McHarg
October, 4 2012 at 9:16 am

Hi Cindy! Thanks for stopping by. I had fun writing this one. (You are right that ad copywriter is a high-stress job - lots of triggers for bipolar bears.) - My own mom was a stay at home mom and while this job is currently undervalued by society - I think it is a wonderful thing to be. Your family is fortunate. A

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