Bipolar Caregiver Guide
Caring for someone with bipolar disorder can be overwhelming. Read about ways to cope effectively.
Caring for someone with any illness is difficult. Caring for someone with bipolar disorder, a psychiatric illness, is especially hard for many reasons. Health care coverage is far more limited than for other illnesses. Just getting someone who is in a state of mania -- even when psychotic -- hospitalized and accurately diagnosed is a major accomplishment. Bipolar sufferers, particularly when they are in an up (manic) rather than down (depressed) phase, often refuse to see a clinician and stop taking their medication. The medications for bipolar disorder are powerful and have unpleasant side effects. There is no cure for bipolar disorder and so the drugs must be taken for life, a daunting prospect, especially for younger sufferers. Finding the right meds may take as long as several years, and over time they may stop working. For family caregivers, coping with someone who is bipolar, manic or depressed, takes a heavy emotional toll and strains the relationship, often to the breaking point. An added burden is the stigma of mental illness, which leaves families feeling frightened and isolated, unaware that many other families share their experience.
Given all these challenges, caring for someone with bipolar disorder can be overwhelming and at times an impossible responsibility to maintain. But there are ways to cope effectively. Families for Depression Awareness, the nonprofit organization I founded (after losing my brother and helping my father get diagnosed with depression), has interviewed many families that are doing well. True, it took a while to learn how best to help and support their bipolar family member, and time, too, to learn that caregivers also have needs that must be met. Sometimes the stresses and strains were intense, and these families have had their ups and downs. But by educating themselves about bipolar disorder, improving treatment by finding the best possible medication and therapy solutions possible, and communicating as a tightly knit unit, these families have met the challenges, survived intact, and are emotionally healthy.
Ways of Caring for Someone with Bipolar Disorder
Here are ways that you can help someone with bipolar disorder:
- Become educated. The first step is to become educated about bipolar disorder, so you have realistic expectations and coping options. There are books, brochures, and videos on a variety of topics. We have Family Profiles, (stories of people who cope with bipolar disorder), a brochure, and other resources on our web site, www.familyaware.org.
- Make this is a family matter. Acknowledge that one family member's bipolar disorder affects the entire family. Everyone in your immediate family needs to learn about bipolar disorder, its symptoms and early warning signs, how bipolar is treated, and what the side effects of bipolar medications may be. And to whatever degree possible, each member should participate in the caregiving process. Being a caregiver is stressful, and it is important that family members discuss their feelings and opinions. Sometimes it helps if a skilled family therapist facilitates these discussions in group sessions.
- Be a partner in treatment. Find the right treatment for each individual bipolar sufferer usually means going through a process of trial and error with multiple different medications. Patients also need talk therapy to heal. Finding qualified clinicians (e.g., psychopharmacologist, psychiatrist, psychologist) is essential. As a family caregiver, you can help by finding the best clinicians in your area, scheduling appointments, keeping track of medications and making sure they are taken as prescribed, and being an early warning systems by reporting changes to the clinicians.
- Meet with the patient's clinician. Make sure to meet with the clinician treating your family member from time to time. Try to go with your family member and if needed, set up some appointments on your own. Although clinicians have to maintain patient confidentiality, they can listen to you and you can report issues you are having caring for your family member.
- Be understanding. Let your family member with bipolar disorder continually know that you care. People with bipolar disorder have negative thoughts and are hopeless in a depressive state. They need to be reminded that you and others are concerned about them and that you are working together to help them get well.
- Take care of yourself. Set healthy boundaries on how much you do so you don't burn out. Take a vacation from caregiving from time to time. Many caregivers develop depression, so don't be afraid to seek medical help for yourself. You also may need help processing and dealing with your emotions.
- Find social support. Dealing with bipolar disorder can be lonely and isolating. You've watched the healthy person you once knew deteriorate and suffer. Your friends don't understand bipolar disorder, and it is difficult for you to go out. Make sure you find sources of support such as a bipolar support group in your area.
- Develop a crisis plan. Talk to your family member with bipolar disorder about what you will do if the person becomes manic or suicidal. For example, some people with bipolar disorder and their families decide that it is best for the person with bipolar disorder not to use credit cards. Also, determine what you will do if you need to hospitalize the person. Put your plan in writing.
- Have hope. Remember that in most cases, bipolar disorder is treatable and can be stabilized. The condition is usually cyclical, so be prepared for it to worsen and/or improve at times. Finding the right treatment can be a drawn out process, but in time, a solution will be found.
About the author: Julie Totten is the founder of Families for Depression Awareness, a non-profit organization helping families understand and cope with depression.
Staff, H. (2021, December 28). Bipolar Caregiver Guide, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2023, March 30 from https://www.healthyplace.com/bipolar-disorder/bipolar-support/guide-for-the-bipolar-caregiver