Overcoming your fear of failure can be empowering but a living with a fear of failure can be damaging to your self-esteem. For example, fear of failure may prevent you from trying new activities, starting or finishing tasks, or pursuing employment or educational opportunities. It can also get in the way of forming relationships and socialising, in general. You might settle for something you’re comfortable with to ensure you succeed, rather than challenging yourself with something more fulfilling. When you do this, you’re not living to your fullest potential and can get very easily stuck in your present situation. A fear of failure is often associated with anxiety and depression and it affects your quality of life. Overcoming your fear of failure spurs you do the things you want and it helps to improve your self-esteem. Keep reading »

Do you know there are herbal remedies for anxiety? I have an extremely annoying neighbor. He was up all night laughing last night, which means I didn’t get any sleep. This has been going on for weeks. Talking to him hasn’t done any good. My anger and annoyance, fueled by sleep deprivation, are rapidly approaching homicidal ideation. Fortunately, there are three herbal remedies I know that help ease the raging anxiety. Keep reading »

If you are feeling insecure in your current relationship, or find yourself attracting romantic partners that make you insecure, then this post is for you. The truth is, insecurity about yourself plays out in any relationship, whether it’s romantic, familial or within a friendship. The problem for many people is they blame the other person in the relationship for making them insecure, but when you’re feeling insecure in relationships, they’re not the problem, you are.  Keep reading »

Living with and talking about binge eating disorder can be extremely difficult, not just for the disease itself, but for peoples’ expectations of how you are affected by this illness and how you are supposed to discuss it. All too often people who have no idea what we go through want to dictate how eating disorders can be talked about and shared. Sometimes reposting a simple article on Facebook is all that it takes for someone to turn your attempt to disseminate information into a chance for them to inform everyone how people are allowed to talk about eating disorders. But you should feel free to talk about binge eating disorder in your own voice. Keep reading »

Developing hope in PTSD (posttraumatic stress disorder) recovery is, in a word, difficult. You’re struggling with the symptoms of PTSD that include depression, insomnia, nightmares, anxiety and hypervigilance (all of which can lead to despair) and you’re supposed to find some way to be optimistic? You might be tempted to say, “No way,” but if you want to heal it’s going to be important to find a way to say, “Heck, yeah, I can develop hope in PTSD recovery.” Keep reading »

One, particular online bipolar assessment quiz (link to it) is creating mental health stigma on the Internet at the moment, particularly going viral on Facebook. I received the quiz on my Facebook feed yesterday, as a friend had posted it, and she commented that she received a zero percent chance that she has bipolar disorder. Having been diagnosed with bipolar disorder 13 years ago, I decided to comment on the quiz in a critical and constructive manner, but I also submitted my answers, and discovered that I, also, have a zero percent chance of having bipolar disorder. I sarcastically responded, “It is a good thing I took this quiz, and I better contact my psychiatrist for a second opinion. Thank you.”
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The lack of motivation that can be caused by depression and other mental illnesses can be debilitating. There’s some things that are so important they m must be done as soon as possible. But for those who battle depression, the motivation factor can be an enemy that seems insurmountable at times. Here’s what to do when depression causes a lack of motivation.

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Have you ever considered that sometimes what looks like bipolar anger is really bipolar passion? I am a person with bipolar and I am a person who is intense and passionate (Bipolar and Displays of Emotion). In fact, it is my opinion that people with bipolar are frequently passionate people. We feel things more strongly than others so this makes sense. I don’t mean romantically (although, perhaps, there too), I just mean passionate about ideas, creations, art and so on. But, in my experience, this bipolar passion can be interpreted by others as bipolar anger. Keep reading »

Does the news trigger your mental illness symptoms? I guess you could say early on there were signs I was going to be a reporter when I grew up–I read the newspaper as soon as I learned to read. Then, as today, there were some very disturbing things going on. I remember having a nightmare about the Neighborhood of Make-Believe being bombed when Reagan ordered the bombing of Libya. I never outgrew this, either–I am currently coping with posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD) flashbacks caused by the coverage of a high-profile rape case and a disgusting child abuse case. It made me wonder–what can I do when the news triggers my mental illness symptoms? Here are three ideas. Keep reading »

I recently celebrated some general life and sobriety milestones. These are good things; things I should be–and am–happy about. But even positive milestones in sobriety can be emotionally fraught, and that’s a potentially dangerous situation for people in addiction recovery. Keep reading »