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Men's sexual fantasies are probably a lot tamer than you think. For the most part, they don't even involve multiple partners, foreign objects or a tight, skimpy French maid's outfit. Male sexual fantasy tends to stick to a very tight formula: hot rambunctious sex with people we aren't supposed to be having it with. This pool is extended to include platonic friends, our girlfriend or spouse's friends and ex-girlfriends who were great in bed.

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From Sarah: Based on the men I've talked to about this, I'd have to say they're not all the same. Some supposedly common male sexual fantasies (two women at once, for example) that I know appeal to some men I've known, don't even make sense to my husband. I've found myself trying to explain them to him while he looks at me with an 'this is just wierd' expression! And I've known some men who really fantasized about violent sex or S&M that would wierd out others. But, I think Mr. Answer Man is probably on safe ground with his answer! Beautiful women with passion and creativity always seem to be part of the picture. Though for the single guy, it can also include women who aren't necessarily off limits, just not actually accessible right now...

From Robert: The two women thing is true! Guys DO fantasize about that- another one is to be completely taken advantage of by a woman; to have her totally in control of him.

Kajay: I am a woman who has the knack of getting my playmates to open up and speak freely to me about anything. So I can tell you that most men's fantasies involve sexual acts with women who are not their "type"--sexual acts that they would not dare try with their wife or girlfriend.

Lyselre: I'm a 19 y/o female who totally agrees with your opinion about the x girlfriend. I recently broke up with a 22 y/o male as he was too obsessed. He is now badgering to have sex with me still and I did the lamest thing I could have ever done. I gave in to him the other night and gave him what he wanted. I now regret it bigtime and I hope that all of you that read this that are in this situation think more carefully on the matter. I don't wish for any of you out there to go through the stress I am going through right now. So anyone in this position - PLEASE think about it and whether or not it is worth it before you do it.

Sporty: Almost every guy I know wants a threesome, with two women. However, if I teasingly say that I want a threesome (I have no real interest in one) with him and another guy, they in no way want a part of it! Double standard! A few others that guy friends have shared with me include women who are COMPLETELY shaved and being videotaped having sex.

Anonymous: I personally know my guy's fantasy.....to be with another guy. He wants only oral contact (thank you) and to know the sensation of another man's touch. I help him with this thru internet/video/porn or just rating guys at the mall. It makes him more at ease and very, very into me. I do not feel intimated or jealous, as we both realize it is fantasy and he has no real desire to experience it in the flesh. But I completely support him and love the fact he told me his deepest, darkest, sex fantasy.

Ranger Man: I think that fantasies are meant to be just that...fantasies! I know so many people who have acted out their fantasy and found it to be very disappointing when they actually did it. And now they are reluctant to try ANYTHING new. Everyone has a different fantasy, and it doesn't matter how strange or wierd it is. Having fantasies is good for the imagination, and help keep the sexual relationship interesting. If a couple is open with each other about their fantasies, it will help both of them with trying new things. But I feel that your ultimate fantasy should not be lived out because chances are good that the events, people, and surroundings will not live up to what you had imagined.

Jane34: I recently found out my husband's fantasy was to have anal sex after discovering his internet searches. At first, I was disgusted, then we tried it and it hurt at first but now I really enjoy it. We are waiting now to fulfil my fantasy to see him with another woman! Yeah most guys fantasise about that I know and mine is no different, but he never mentioned it as he felt it was too off limits. Should have seen his jaw drop. Anyway, we are in the process of making it happen. I have no idea why I, as the woman, want to see this but it shows it is not just a man's thing.

What group of men know more about their wives' sexual fantasies?

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