So you'd like to know more about me. My name Sam Vaknin. I was born in Israel in 1961. I'm an author of short stories, a winner of literary awards, and a columnist in Central Europe Review, eBookWeb.org, PopMatters, and United Press International (UPI). I am also the Editor of mental health categories in the Open Directory and Suite101.
I am not a mental health professional, though I was was certified in Counseling Techniques. I hold a Ph.D. from Pacific Western University and work as a financial consultant to leading businesses in Macedonia, Russia and the Czech Republic.
It was written under extreme conditions of duress. It was composed in jail as I was trying to understand what had hit me. My nine year marriage dissolved, my finances were in a shocking condition, my family estranged, my reputation ruined, my personal freedom severely curtailed.
I wrote the first draft of the book in prison, by night ...standing. Then I re-wrote my scrambled notes, uploaded them and, presto- there was a website. The book came much later when I realized the pent up pain and solitude that narcissism wreaks upon its sufferers and victims. It is a pernicious condition, the root of many mental health disorders, and very poorly understood, diagnosed, reported, and studied. It was recognized as a mental health category only in 1980 (DSM III).
Why did I go to prison in the first place? I crossed swords with the Israeli government. Mine was shorter. I was imprisoned for grand fraud after I exposed major corruption in a bank I bought through the stock exchange. But isn't this ("I'm not guilty!") what they all say?
Slowly, the realization that it was all my fault, that I was sick and needed help penetrated the decades old defenses that I erected around me. This book is the documentation of a road of self-discovery. It was a painful process, which led to nowhere. I am no different - and no healthier - today than I was when I wrote this book. My disorder is here to stay, the prognosis is poor and alarming.
My book says that narcissists are easily identifiable and that, once identified, can be easily manipulated. The need to manipulate them arises out of their propensity to destroy everything and everyone around them. To manipulate a narcissist is to survive. It is a survival tactic of the victims of narcissists.