Many people believe that those who self-harm are suicidal. We have learned that this is definitely not always the case, but many people continue to believe otherwise. Those who self-harm may hurt themselves because it releases their inner emotions and turns them into something physically real. Some people self-harm to distract themselves from the harsh reality surrounding them.
None of those reasons are connected to suicide.
The same goes for the thought of suicide being an act of selfishness. Many people see that to be true while the one doing the act thinks otherwise. Those who are suicidal do not believe they are attempting something out of an act of selfishness. They believe that their death will help the world around them and help free themselves of the difficulties in their life.
The mind is a tricky thing to decipher. It’s hard to really understand what the mind is going through for those who self-harm or are suicidal – or both. In truth, we will never really understand because everyone’s mind is different, especially those with mental illness.
However the question remains – is it selfish to commit suicide?
Death is Never Easy to Handle
A man very close to my heart recently passed away. He was not my grandfather by blood, but became a grandfather figure through my stepfamily. Until his passing, I had never sat in a room with someone who had died and never witnessed a loved one being carried away from their family.
His death made me think about my past and my suicide attempts. It made me think about how selfish it would have been if those attempts had actually turned into my passing away. I couldn’t imagine how my family would have felt if they had found me and how painful it would have been for them.
The sadness and pain my step-grandfather’s death caused to his family and friends has been immense. He touched our lives in so many ways and never wanted to die. It wasn’t his choice to pass away and the fact that many people make the choice to end their lives really is something I see as selfish.
Some people may not agree with my way of thinking, but I am sure many do. Looking back at my suicide attempts, I feel as if they were acts of selfishness even if, at the time, I thought otherwise. For those who have attempted suicide, whether or not you self-harmed as well, think about how your death would have affected those around you. Think about how you felt when a loved one passed away.
And for those who are suicidal and are thinking about following through, think about others before you think about yourself.