One day I was in a pub eavesdropping on the girls deep in conversation next to me. They were chatting about bisexuals. They were commenting that they would never date a bisexual as really bisexuals were heterosexual that were just playing around with homosexuality and eventually they would “turn back” into heterosexuals.
Well, I, being bisexual was a little insulted by this. I have not “turned” into anything. I simply am bisexual like they are simply gay.
I realized though that it was lucky for me that I heard these girls talking because I could cross them off my list as I have no desire to date sanctimonious, self-righteous, ignorant women.
And I also realized this: it’s their loss.
I only lost sanctimonious, self-righteous, ignorant women while they lost me.
And the same is true of mental illness. When someone rejects you simply because of a medical illness that you didn’t ask for and over which you have no control, you are only losing someone ignorant while they are losing the amazing person that is you.
People with Mental Illness Are Amazing?
Well, admittedly, I haven’t done a poll, but yes, people with a mental illness are amazing. Why? Because they’re living with something that is so painful and difficult that most people couldn’t even comprehend it. Because they are succeeding in the face of staggering odds. Because they have lived and thrived while many of their compatriots have not.
Yes, people with a mental illness are amazing.
This is to say nothing of the contributions to creative and other endeavors made by people with a mental illness. Would you like to have written off Isaac Newton, Ludwig van Beethoven, Abraham Lincoln, Vincent Van Gogh, Michelangelo, Buzz Aldrin and so many others? I wouldn’t scoff at these people’s talent and I’m proud to be in their company.
It Hurts to Be Rejected
Yes, it hurts to be rejected. I’ve been rejected because of my mental illness and it hurts like hell. And in the face of such hurt it may seem trite to say it’s their loss. But I promise, if you really have that watershed moment, and know I am telling you the truth, you will realize that they are lesser for not having you in their lives. You are quite possibly greater for not having to defend yourself from their ignorance.
And so, maybe knowledge of mental illness can be seen as a quality barometer. Those who will accept you for who you really are, rate high enough as to deserve you. Those that show ignorance and hatred simply aren`t nearly good enough for you. It`s you with the quality bar, not them.
So if someone insists on ignorance – let them. It simply tells you who they are and lets you make better decisions about who you want in your life. This rightfully gives you back your power. It`s you who have rejected them based on their own tiny minds.