About Becky Oberg, Author of “More Than Borderline” Blog

I think the name “More than Borderline” is an excellent name for the blog, especially since so many mental health professionals will dismiss people with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) as “just a borderline”.

understanding-bpdAs for me, I was hospitalized for depression for the first of many times in 1998, while a sophomore at Baylor University. After graduating with a B.A. in journalism, I returned to my native Midwest and was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, possibly as a complication of post-traumatic stress disorder. Simply put, I was stuck in my past and destroying my future to survive my present. One therapist even told my family–in front of me–”She’ll drift in and out of institutions her whole life until they’re tired of treating her.”

Desperate to avoid filling that prediction, I moved to Indianapolis to get more comprehensive mental health treatment. However, I did not know how to manage my BPD symptoms, and the stress of living on my own made things worse. Eventually, I was placed on the wait list for the inpatient BASE (Borderline Awareness and Skills Empowerment) program at Larue D. Carter Memorial Hospital. However, while waiting to be admitted to this program, a psychiatrist made a mistake that nearly cost me my life. When I demanded an explanation, he replied that he’d assumed I was just a borderline, just trying to get attention–after all, that’s what the last borderline he’d treated did.

I was in the BASE program for nine months. The program was so effective that within a year of my discharge, I was living in a cluster apartment and working as a freelance health reporter.

More About Me and the More Than Borderline Blog

My Borderline Journey: I’ve Learned A Lot Along the Way

I know the mental health system well, and I know how to advocate. I know what it’s like to be denied medical treatment because of mental illness, what it’s like to lose a friend to suicide, what it’s like to be denied insurance due to mental illness and what it’s like to be kicked out of a church because of mental illness. My Ph.D. from the School of Hard Knocks has enabled me to fight back–both on behalf of myself and others.

I am deeply involved in my faith community and consider it a blessing. My hobbies include reading, writing (poetry, fiction and non-fiction), playing video games, and shopping at farmers markets and fair-trade stores.

You can also find Becky Oberg on Google+, Facebook and Twitter and Linkedin.

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15 Responses to About Becky Oberg, Author of “More Than Borderline” Blog

  1. Patricia says:

    Great blog, Becky. I’m glad you’re here, at HealthyPlace!

  2. Hola, Interesante, no va a continuar con este artнculo?

  3. А! Je viens d’ajouter votre page web à mes favoris. J’aime lire vos messages. Merci!

  4. Becky Oberg says:

    Hola! Este articulo, no, pero escribo uno articulo de semana.

  5. j says:

    Hello Becky,

    I have a few questions, is it possible to have your email?

  6. Rob Cole says:

    Hey Becky -

    I’m so happy for you! You make me smile!! My ex-wife, who is Borderline, refused to get help. It was a horrible marriage. You are an inspiration my dear! :) Take care…

  7. George says:

    Hello Becky, You’re amazing. Your story has been a beacon of hope for me as a young man struggling with Borderline personality disorder, and as a Christian. God Bless you!

  8. Becky Oberg says:

    Thank you. Sadly, the church is often not a sanctuary for people with mental illness. But I believe the more people who speak out and tell their stories, the more that will change.

  9. Nancy says:

    Thank you Becky for an excellent blog and excellent audio blogs. You have great information and it is really helpful!

  10. Jamielly Garcia says:

    Hi, when I read your experience on Basic training I feel so identified, because the same thing happened to me, on the fourth week of the training I was send to the hospital for 5 weeks because a supposed nervous breakdown, and resieved a discharge.

  11. Becky Oberg says:

    Thank you for sharing. Yeah, the military definitely attaches a stigma to mental illness. At the hospital they told me “Once you end up here, you’re enlistment 95 percent of the time is over.”

  12. chris says:

    hello becky,
    i can complete agree with you,
    we are not our illness,
    and that the first difficulty with medical doctor…

    once I run away, after a lady doctor told me, that she had face of her a neurosis anxiety….!
    talking to the students (5)in her back…

    i was under the shock, so , in europe it is not easy either, to start to have a treatment….

    I will try to find some more hope with you,
    here,. and i thank you for being there.

  13. Brendan Hunt says:

    The Last Door Recovery Centre produces a radio show called “Talk Recovery”. The show focuses on recovery and addiction issues and airs live every Thursday on Co-Op radio 100.5 FM from noon to 1 pm. We are now into Season Two of the show
    “Talk Recovery” would like to invite you as a guest on the show to discuss Alcoholism & BPD.
    Are you available to be interviewed on July 10th, 17th or 24th?
    We can schedule the show by email or you can call me at 604-525-9771
    Show Outline
    • In studio 11:45
    • One on One Interview for 15 minutes
    • Group Discussion for 30 minutes
    • Commercial breaks take place in between interview
    • Show ends 1 pm
    • Option to do a call-in Interview available for out of town guests.
    Talk Recovery Radio Show is powered by Last Door Recovery Centre and pushed in Last Door’s Social Media Network, which includes Sound Cloud, Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn. Each week we promote our show with paid reached marketing which targets between 3,000 to 5,000 unique users. The show gets downloaded on average 200 times a week, and the number of listeners on the radio is unknown. We feel confident the show’s weekly reach is 5,000 people.

    The Show’s logistics
    • Talk Recovery airs every Thursday on Vancouver Co-Op Radio 100.5 FM from noon to 1 pm
    • Guests can be live in studio or on call in
    • Past Shows
    • Main Facebook push pages are and
    • We are currently in Season 2
    Hopefully these dates work for you, if not, what Thursday would work?


    Brendan Hunt
    Community Development
    Last Door Recovery Society
    Office phone: 604-525-9771

  14. Ryan says:

    Hi Becky. I don’t know if you would even remember me but we were in BIC together at Baylor. I was just reading through the BIC newsletter and saw your interview.
    You are right about the military putting a stigma on mental health. I came back in to the Navy in 2007 and was deployed to Iraq for 6 months and Afghanistan for a year with the Marines and had a lot of Marines getting out because of mental illness, not just PTSD. I’m at a clinic now and we see a lot of young kids, straight out of boot camp, coming through with all sorts of issues, and they end up being separated. We did have someone recently commit suicide as well.

    Great blog. Good luck to you!!

  15. Saint F says:

    I cried when I read about your experiences of disassociation. Because I feel the same. I disassociate when under stress and nobody understands me. Nobody gets it… And sometimes my perception of space and objects change. My hearing too… I look into a mirror and a see a foreign face. Its like a false copy of me. Like plastic. I just want someone who understands what I’m going through

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