I Was Afraid of Flying

The fear of flying is a common fear.  I had it in the worst way. For me, like many others, fear of flying especially increased after 9/11. I thought about being in a plane crash a lot.  A lot, a lot. Every time I heard a plane fly over, the video ran in my mind of myself sitting in an airplane after having just found out we were going to crash.

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Are You Deciding Whether to Use Medication for Anxiety?

Today, we are joining the American Psychological Association Mental Health Blog Party, trying to decrease stigma and bring public awareness to mental health issues. Anxiety medication and deciding whether to medicate your anxiety are important issues!

Many people ask my recommendation when deciding to use drugs to manage their or their children’s anxiety symptoms. I cannot give a recommendation since I am not an MD but I do have an opinion!

The best way to make this decision is to weigh the risks and benefits of taking the medication. And to do this, you’ll need to gather some basic information. Keep reading »

Last week, I wrote about Ten Things To Do For a Panic Attack.  Here is a list of things you can do for yourself to help with your anxiety overall. Keep reading »

Having a panic attack? Try these ten things for some solace.

Sometimes panic attacks feel like they come out of the blue, but there is usually a trigger. The trigger is that you are scared of panic attacks. And why wouldn’t you be? They are one of the most uncomfortable experiences on this planet. Having a list of tools can also make you less afraid of the panic coming. Keep reading »

Worry can have our anxiety all up and out of control! Today I vlogged about it!

Did you ever wonder how to love instead of worry? Last week I posted a vlog: Love and Fear, The Only Two Emotions.  Today’s vlog picks up on that theme and lets us know how to love someone rather than worry about them.

Are you worried about a friend?

This is a beautiful way to show you care, but it has limits. It doesn’t necessarily lift someone up. It doesn’t help people see that you believe in them. In a way it validates that they have something to worry about. Keep reading »

We often hear that love and fear are the only emotions. Do you believe this?  I do.  Watch the following video as I explain how everything can be unpacked to reveal that love and fear are the only emotions and how you can stay in love rather than fear by being in the present moment.

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Externalizing Fears

Lets face it, some fears are ridiculous.  Irrational, untrue and vague, they plague us anyway.  One of the best things you can do is externalize them: Name the fear and be specific. (Fears like to be vague about themselves, evasive they gain power over us. Exposed, we undermine that power.)

Take the fear outside your identity, see it as a fear, and give it a name: (i.e., fear that you forgot the door unlocked, fear of not being cool enough, fear of spiders, fear of getting robbed, fear of a loved one leaving you, fear of looking fat). Keep reading »

What is anxiety? People in our culture want to get the definition right.  They want to know exactly what they have so they can do something about it.  Many times people feel the sympathetic nervous response (the “fight or flight” response beginning with the hormone release from our adrenal glands that increase heart rate and breathing, and gives a burst of energy to our muscles: Biology of Fear) but don’t call it anxiety. They call it stress or discomfort. That is fine! It doesn’t matter what we call it, we can still do something about it! Keep reading »

If you experience anxiety, you experience a fear of anxiety

I find the concept that fears can be assessed as rational or irrational hilarious. Does this mean some fears are “valid” and other are not? How do we know which fears are legitimate, rational, right?

Say, your mother has cancer and you are afraid of her dying. Is that considered a rational anxiety, because she actually might die? Everybody is going to die. Fear of one’s mom dying is actually a fear of being afraid when mom is dying, or most accurately fear of not be able to handle the anxiety when mom dies. Is that rational? Keep reading »

Graduated Exposure Therapy also known as Systematic Desensitization is a process of slowly exposing someone to what they are afraid of so it become familiar and un-intimidating. First, a person is taught skills in calming themselves that they can use while they expose themselves to the feared stimuli.  With the dawn of the internet (especially YouTube) people can use graduated exposure therapy in the comfort of their own homes (or in the therapy office). Keep reading »