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Getting Older When You’re Not Where You Thought You’d Be

Getting older, no matter how old you are, gets tougher when you're not where you thought you'd be in life. Feel better about getting older. Watch this video.

This year, as I stared at the candles on my birthday cake, I could not take my eyes off of the second digit that said I was getting older—seven. Wow, I thought. Twenty-seven. What Should I Have Done Already?. It amazes me how fast one birthday turns into the next. Twenty is so far away, and 30 is right around the corner.I’m getting old and I’m not where I thought I’d be.

Getting Older Can Be Terrifying

Getting older should be a good thing. After all, I am another year wiser. Unfortunately, wisdom is not always the first thing that I think about when I get older. Usually, I think about my goals and accomplishments since my previous birthday.

Did I get a meaningful job? Did I save up a lot of money? Did I get a lot of stories published? Did I go on any dates?

The pressure that I put on myself to put a check next to every goal overwhelms me. For every empty box, I feel less confident. I feel that every goal I do not meet will foreshadow a lack of progress for the next year. When I think about that big three-zero, that list with a lot of empty boxes haunts me.

Making Peace with Getting Older

Although it can be difficult to enjoy getting older, I find that it helps to stop thinking about where I thought I would be and appreciate how I got to where I am now. To learn more about finding peace with aging, watch my video below.

4 thoughts on “Getting Older When You’re Not Where You Thought You’d Be”

  1. Thanks for the positive thoughts about a better future especially if you’re going through a rough time now. I understand your fears of getting older and about not being where you want to be at your current age. I struggled with the same worries at 35, 40, and when I turned 50. If someone had told me 10 or 20 years ago what my life would be like now (for the negative), I wouldn’t have believed it Even so, tomorrow is a new day and we don’t know what it might bring. I live one moment at a time because of severe mood swings. I can’t plan much of anything because I never know how I’m going to feel. As you said so well, we need to be grateful for the good things we have now and try to stay positive. All the best to you and thanks for writing about your experiences.

    1. Thank you very much for your kind words, Tamara. I am sorry that you have been struggling with age-related anxiety for so long. It is really sad because so many people share the struggle, but very few are willing to admit it. So thank you for sharing your personal experience and thoughts. I hope you keep thinking positive. 🙂

  2. Wonderful share. I love the addition of the video content. “I find that it helps to stop thinking about where I thought I would be and appreciate how I got to where I am now.” — YES! This is the mindset to have. While I know it’s all so personal, 27 is still so young! After you hit that 21st birthday it can be easy to start focusing on all the things you feel you “should have” accomplished by now but that takes you away from appreciating all the amazing things you have done that weren’t on that check list. The more gratitude we can cultivate for what we have and what we’ve accomplished the more confidence it will build to help us check off those other boxes (if those other boxes are in fact meant to be checked!) ; )

    1. Thank you very much for your kind words, Lizanne! Haha yes. For most of us, 21 always “seems” like a big deal. Sometimes, it feels like it was just yesterday. Yet, so much has changed.

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